singlelife Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Me and my new girl click on every level!! We are in love and the sex is hot and we both communicate to each other soo fn well. We argue then make up instantly then go have fun. Well I have been seperated for two years and have contacted the ex to get the divorce. For some reason it just never happened even though we both dated other people. Well I am completely happy with my girl and just wanted to be nice to the ex so there would be the last good talk and lets sign the no contested papers. Well my ex tells me she is sorry for her part and offered to take me for a beer. I was like this is weird but I didn't read to much into it. I just thought it was small talk. Well then she contacted me again to tell me she isn't dating anyone ( I told her she should an she should do what she wants). She then told me she is slowing way down . She hadn't gotten the papers yet and asked why I didn't call her. I told her I didn't expect to talk again except for to say got the papers it's final blah blah blah, have a nice life. No hard feelings. She said that she wanted us to be cool and we had a decent conversation for about an hour. That never happened in years. Well anywy I told my girl becuase I am not hiding anything. She wasn't mad and laughed and said that my ex wants to screw me. She said she doesn't want me back but she definetly wants omething from me. Why keep n touch after all this time. After it's final there is no reason to hang with her. My best friend says the same thing that my ex wants to have a few good screws because our sex was amazing and with no strings she would want to be bed buds. I don't want to and I told them both no way. But I don't see her wanting this . Maybe I am stupid. Can you guys give me your opinion on what you see.
dreamergrl Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I think that's gf's way of of dealing with feeling a little insecure about you being in contact with your ex.
Author singlelife Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 Hm. Ok I think I need a few more opinions
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Ha. Definitely sounds to me like the ex wants SOMETHING. I'd be careful. My XH and I are amiable for the most part - only argue about big stuff that hasn't been completely resolved, yet. But if I started saying/doing the things your ex is, it would mean I'm interested in SOMETHING. Now, whether that's sex or a relationship, who knows in this case.
Author singlelife Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Wow. Well I guess I was wrong. this is weird. Why now. Whatever. I am happy
Author singlelife Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Ok anybody else care to share what you think. I wanted to be friends but not like close friends with the ex just amiable. But even if I didn't have a girlfriend I wouldn't want to start anything other than that. Is there a way to find out for sure. I just want to be nice and get the divorce done.
Author singlelife Posted May 26, 2009 Author Posted May 26, 2009 Hey guys I am meeting my ex today to get the divorce papers signed. My gal says she is totally in my corner and is kay with whatever happens because i am hers. My ex declined meeting at mcd's and wants to meet at a mexican place that is right where i used to live when i moved out. My gal says she wants to have drinks and I should be strog and have dinner and have the papers signed and go have fun afterwards. She totally feels my ex wants to have one last piece of ass.
lora22 Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Your gf is right. Don't do dinner, don't do drinks, don't go out after signing the papers...unless it's with your current gf to celebrate your freedom.
prettybaby Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 Why do you have to see each other to get papers signed? Don't lawyers just mail those things? If both parties are cool, the whole process should be a breeze: you get your stuff in the mail, sign, mail your stuff back, done.
Trialbyfire Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 singlelife, I think you're way too concerned about what your ex wants. If you honestly don't want anything from her, the easiest way to keep things friendly but at an arms-length, is to invite your g/f along next time. This will sabotage any ex efforts towards anything emotional or physical, as well as putting your g/fs mind at ease.
MeMyself&I Posted May 26, 2009 Posted May 26, 2009 singlelife, I think you're way too concerned about what your ex wants. If you honestly don't want anything from her, the easiest way to keep things friendly but at an arms-length, is to invite your g/f along next time. This will sabotage any ex efforts towards anything emotional or physical, as well as putting your g/fs mind at ease. That's funny. I was thinking the exact same thing as TBF. If you don't want anything from the ex.....don't worry about her wants/actions do what's right to maintain the sanctity and trust in your current relationship and still get the signature. In my divorce I did not have to meet him to sign papers. Thank God!
Author singlelife Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 My ex wife called Sat nite at 10:30 p. I had changed my number after the divorce. So I was suprised when she called me. She must know someone who knows me. I had a small party and everyone had just left and I was chillin. She started off by being extremely cool and I was still shocked she had called me. Then she asked why I hadn't told her if we weredivorced or not. I told her that we were so she is free to get married or whatever and apologized. She then wentoff saying that I should have sent her the papers stating we were divorced. This caught me offguard and I was having a great nite up til then and all I could think of was her being a difficult person all those years and how muc fun I have now. I cussed her out and reminded her that we were seperated for 2 years before I filed and she never tryed to file so I didn't need her ****. I told her that it's official so there is no need for her to ever call and I won't call her and that's that. I then hung up. I was soooo upset because she reminded me of why we broke up in the first place. I don't owe her nothing. We have been diuvorced for 4 months now. If she really wanted to to know she would have called way back then. And to call that time of nite was stupid. She is just trying to be a bitch and we ain't even together. Then she called the next day and left me a voice mail getting smart again. I just ain't gonna anwser. Pluck that twitch.
phineas Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 I thought both parties get a letter in the mail from the courts stating they are no longer married.
Island Girl Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Pluck that twitch. Hilarious! I love this and will be stealing it - thank you! I thought both parties get a letter in the mail from the courts stating they are no longer married. Nope - not necessarily.
ecm Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 Whoa- I just read this & apparently months have gone by.... did you ever meet her for drinks? What happened with your girlfriend? (Sorry...I just like to hear how stories end)
Author singlelife Posted October 27, 2009 Author Posted October 27, 2009 Me and my girl broke up but are still cool ass friends and get to gether often. But yeah sevral months ago me and ex wifey met for drinks and signed the papers. Nothing happen she was her usual bitchy self. So I have completely forgot about her. The wifey is an awesome friends to her other people she knows and it would have been cool to be friends but not my priority as we just are not on any wave length at all. Good riddens.
SoulSearch_CO Posted October 27, 2009 Posted October 27, 2009 LOL - I would have told her she was free to go to the courthouse and get a certified copy of the divorce decree. If she was really THAT concerned about it, she could have filed herself. LOL Gees. She sounds like a handful.
Author singlelife Posted October 28, 2009 Author Posted October 28, 2009 Exactly. She called after all this time again and left a message asking for the court so she can see if I had really filed for divorce. I am just done. Not even going to answer her anymore. Her voice was all about being controlling not to get what she said. Whateva. Go control some pussy dude. Sh must have gotten my number from some I have been partying with the last few months
Author singlelife Posted November 4, 2009 Author Posted November 4, 2009 My girl ( or should I say ex girl but real close friend ) says my ex is f...ing crazy. What a loser
Author singlelife Posted November 26, 2009 Author Posted November 26, 2009 My girl ( or should I say ex girl but real close friend ) says my ex is f...ing crazy. What a loser This must be crazy girl week. My ex called again and left a voice mail to give her a call. Her voice sounded all cracked and ****. I am not ****ing with that nut. I was clear last time and there is no reason to talk. Do ****ing always disregard what you tellem and ****. I ain't used to this ****.
Author singlelife Posted December 30, 2009 Author Posted December 30, 2009 This must be crazy girl week. My ex called again and left a voice mail to give her a call. Her voice sounded all cracked and ****. I am not ****ing with that nut. I was clear last time and there is no reason to talk. Do ****ing always disregard what you tellem and ****. I ain't used to this ****. Ok She called again last night and left a voicemail. She wished me a late Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year. Then she stated that she wanted to know if I was still in town and if I wanted to come over and have dinner and talk about things( I was in town partying for the Holidays but left, I know she has had to be getting the information from mutual friends or people who may have seen me out). She wanted to know if I really wanted to be divorced and that we should talk about things so it wouldn't be such a bad ending. I am like ok she just isn't going to quit calling. I have ignored her calls and she gets more aggressive. I don't want to talk to her but I feel I need to tell her to **** off quit calling me. I am not even mad anymore but I don't want to have to deal with this anymore. And what is she really thinking guys?
Vertex Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 Who cares -- you're divorced. You have someone new. Don't bother responding to the ex if you've already told her to quit contacting you (and if not, let her know this and discuss NOTHING more. Literally a 20 second conversation here). She'll get the message.
ordinary_girl Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 (edited) ignore her. if she persists and calls you next year as well several times get the police to talk to her. they do that sometimes. it's just a warning, nothing too serious but it would put most people off from contacting someone you have a right for a harassement-free life Edited December 30, 2009 by ordinary_girl additional line
freestyle Posted December 30, 2009 Posted December 30, 2009 She's just trying to push your buttons. You can allow it, or not. It's up to you.
Recommended Posts