someone000 Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 can someone please tell me a way of getting over someone very quickly? its been nearly four months since my ex broke up me and i have to say i've been depressed ever since. Most people advice me that time is the cure but to me time is only making things worse. I just want to get over him and i definately wont make that mistake of falling in love again
hopesndreams Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 You built up a fantasy image of what this guy was really like. Sometimes words on a screen can send a message of having more meaning than there really is. Are you still in contact with him? Do you go to his facebook/myspace, etc to find out how he is doing? If you are..then stop. You need to get out of the house and meet real guys, flesh and blood guys and not something that is portrayed over a computer. The reality that you are living is muddled. It's messing with your head. You will get over him one day but only if you give up on the fantasy of him.
CarrieT Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 Are you doing anything for your depression? My break-up with nine months ago and I am JUST beginning to not dream about him. There is no quick way to get over someone but you might need some chemical assistance to help with the depression. Beyond that, it IS a matter of time...
D-Lish Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 alcohol works!!! that's what i've been using lol, only short term though.
Author someone000 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 i was in contact him for a while but i decided to stop quite recently. And yes i still look at his facebook to see how hes doing. he doesnt seem to be affected by our break up at all... actually i think he likes someone else! thanks for your suggestions but i dont drink and im not the kind who goes out... by the way im pretty sure when we were together he meant everything he said. it was just me that had to ruin everything....
TaraMaiden Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 can someone please tell me a way of getting over someone very quickly? its been nearly four months since my ex broke up me and i have to say i've been depressed ever since. Most people advice me that time is the cure but to me time is only making things worse. I just want to get over him and i definately wont make that mistake of falling in love again Yes you will. of course you will. We all say that, and while we mean it at the time, it's never true... so stop with the melodrama, because that's just silly. You're right about time not being the cure. All time does, is go by. The cure - is you. i was in contact him for a while but i decided to stop quite recently. And yes i still look at his facebook to see how hes doing. he doesnt seem to be affected by our break up at all... actually i think he likes someone else! There's your mistake, right there. keeping tabs on him. Delete his profile, delete yours. Go, and leave it be. the more you check on him, the more you prolong the agony. I told you you were the cure, didn't I? At the moment, you are your own worst enemy. The reason you cannot get over him, is because you are stopping yourself. thanks for your suggestions but i dont drink and im not the kind who goes out... by the way im pretty sure when we were together he meant everything he said. it was just me that had to ruin everything.... Yes, yes. I'm sure it was all your fault. Now get over that. Stop wallowing and move on. Start enjoying life. Someone, somewhere is waiting for you to knock on their door. Why deprive them? Smile!! _/l\_
Author someone000 Posted May 20, 2009 Author Posted May 20, 2009 thanks a lot Taramaiden. But i seriously doubt i can fall in love with someone else. He was really perfect.... YES! thats the way to describe him just the perfect person for me. but of course STUPID STUPID ME!!! :'( :'(
wild trillium Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 Hang in there girl! There are other people in the world who are perfect for you. You just haven't found them yet. Once you are able to put this past relationship in perspective and move on you will be open to finding that other perfect person again. You can do it. Get some therapeutic help if this is disrupting your life so much. You deserve to have a happy life. We all do. My own issue is heartbreaking to me at the moment but I know from past experience that if it doesn't work out then it wasn't supposed to afterall. just another learning experience...
wow123 Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 I'm currently going through a hard time myself after being dumped and she seems to not care at all. I'm starting to feel better but only since I have done the following. 1. Realize they are not perfect...nobody is...write down all of their flaws and read it over and over again. 2. Delete them from facebook/myspace. She was pissed but I dont care and neither should you! 3. I stopped calling. She did too which proves she doesn't care to hear from me so why should I? 4. Realize if someone isn't willing to work on things now...what happens if you get married and have kids and they become unhappy?
cowboys1 Posted June 5, 2009 Posted June 5, 2009 So i've been out of a two year relationship for almost a month....... I've been doing my own thing, blowing cash, getting my roster back in play but have spent the night at my x's for the past 3 out of 5 nights............ Is the only reason she wants me to stay is to have some kind of hold over me? She has told me she still loves me and yada yada ya....... If you read my prior post you will know what has gone on...... But i'd like to move on and can't decide if i want to move on with her or without her...... Advice plz!!!!
lonelygurl Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 can someone please tell me a way of getting over someone very quickly? its been nearly four months since my ex broke up me and i have to say i've been depressed ever since. Most people advice me that time is the cure but to me time is only making things worse. I just want to get over him and i definately wont make that mistake of falling in love again unfortunately, time is the only thing and to heal properly it hurts. I'm six months since my X left me and I'm just as bad as I was in the beginning. My counselor told me not to fight the emotions I have or keep it bottled up because it will take longer to heal. The grieving process can take year(s). I wish we could just erase all the stuff we don't want to remember. "There is no correct way or time to grieve" Elisabeth Kubler-Ross & David Kessler
whichwayisup Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 Delete him off of your facebook and start going full on NO contact with him. Hanging on and having limited contact isn't helping you heal. How can you start to feel better if he's still around abit? Cry, cry and cry some more..Then be with your good friends, cry abit more, but also laugh. Try to keep busy and only allow yourself a certain amount of time each day to 'break down' about this.
Art_Critic Posted June 6, 2009 Posted June 6, 2009 There are relationships that you can get over by getting under someone else.. I'm not one to advocate jumping right back in after a breakup but I do know that sometimes it can help.. if you are having a tough time then get out there.. start dating and fake it till you make it...
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