JeezLouise Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I feel a little sorry for most guys, as they are usually the ones who initiate that first kiss. I know as a girl, you waited for that first kiss, but at least we were the ones waiting rather than the ones who had to step up to the plate. When you were 14, 15, 16 or so, the nerves must have been wracked! How did you ever get up the guts to lean in for that very very first kiss of all, when you really didn't know how to do it or what to expect?
IcemanJB Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 At the risk of sounding overly-cheesy, the first kiss (with a new girl) is my favorite part about really getting to know her. As for my first one EVER...I'm not sure, I just...did it. For me, a blaring alarm goes off in my head saying pretty much "DO IT". Ever since that first-first kiss, I've waited for this signal, and it has not failed me yet. Each first kiss has been better than the one before it. Other guys want to back me up on this? You just know when the time is right. OP: don't feel sorry. Honestly I'd prefer to be the one going in for the first kiss, rather than the girl doing it. There's something about making that move that is...awesome to me. I'm not sure.
gopher Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Agree with Iceman...sometimes you know and sometimes you don't. In those cases, you get the turned cheek, LOL!!...Women/Girls can help a lot by being a tad touchy feeling earlier in the date, I don't mean sexually, I mean arms touching or sitting close in a movie theatre.
griffinchicken53 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 i'm 30 and my nerves are still wrecked....i may have kissed my girlfriends 6 times in total the few months we went out. that was so long ago i can't remember how.
burningashes Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I'm a girl and I'm the one who always have made the first move so I'll pitch in. Like the other posters, it's just awesome making that first move and it's also my favorite part of getting to know the other person. I love seeing the surprise in their eyes, "Whoa, she kissed me!" and the smile/laugh that follows after. If I really, really like the person and can definitely see myself dating the guy, I go for it. That in itself is what gives me the guts to go for it, because at that point, I have nothing to lose. The worst that can happen is that the guy will let me know he's not interested, and at best, we remain friends. Best scenario case? We end up dating and falling in love. Nothing to lose IMHO
Author JeezLouise Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 Griffin, I wish you lived closer to Burning - I would set y'all up on a blind date! Or for a woman who is a bit less confident, how about a date with Cora? She's sweet, you are nice, and y'all could learn about each other in an unstressful situation. This place makes me want to start match-making. (Or teaching dating classes, like that Will Smith movie.)
griffinchicken53 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 unfortunately i'm starting to turn into a bitter jackass who is grossed out by other people's happiness. guess this goes in another thread though.
colosseum Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 First kisses in general: Awesome. Lady standing/sitting there in anticipation--playing with her hair, lips, showing the neck, all that jazz--just waitin', beggin' even...like a gazelle in the serengheti. And I, the lion, wait for my instinct to let me know when the time is ripe to strike. Tension mounts, sweat glands widening, breathing heavier. Then bang; I go in for the kill. Scrumptious, I say. And yes, I'm glad I'm the hunter. but THE first kiss? Haha, yeah...Summer camp, GORGEOUS Spanish girl, who has of course kissed before. Bonfire going, but she and I keep sitting & talking until the fire burns out and we're the last ones left. I ask her: "so you've kissed before, right?" and she says yes. And I, so nervous that I could've pissed my pants, somehow don't think twice and pull off: "So are you gonna show me how it's done?" and she says yes. And I go in. Don't know HOW I pulled that line off, but somehow I can pull pretty decent lines when the moment is right (though I guess one could argue about its "smoothness"; I think it worked well though) But yeah, pretty memorable I guess. By the way: If I really, really like the person and can definitely see myself dating the guy, I go for it. That in itself is what gives me the guts to go for it, because at that point, I have nothing to lose. That's awesome. The world would be a better place if more women were like you burningashes.
ruggy Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Until I get comfortable with the woman, I am a bit tense and the kiss is well, not as good as it gets. About the third or fourth time I am depussified and its a nice soft gentle kiss. Initially though, a fast peck on the lips.
IcemanJB Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Colosseum, I love how you equate it to the hunt. There's nothing like sitting with the girl, noticing her not able to keep still all while losing her command of the English language; then I go in for it while she's mid-sentence (without saying ANYTHING). Not saying I wasn't extremely nervous, but there's something good about those nerves that I thoroughly enjoy. I love being the "hunter".
Author JeezLouise Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 First kisses in general: Awesome. Lady standing/sitting there in anticipation--playing with her hair, lips, showing the neck, all that jazz--just waitin', beggin' even...like a gazelle in the serengheti. And I, the lion, wait for my instinct to let me know when the time is ripe to strike. Tension mounts, sweat glands widening, breathing heavier. Then bang; I go in for the kill. Scrumptious, I say. And yes, I'm glad I'm the hunter. but THE first kiss? Haha, yeah...Summer camp, GORGEOUS Spanish girl, who has of course kissed before. Bonfire going, but she and I keep sitting & talking until the fire burns out and we're the last ones left. I ask her: "so you've kissed before, right?" and she says yes. And I, so nervous that I could've pissed my pants, somehow don't think twice and pull off: "So are you gonna show me how it's done?" and she says yes. And I go in. Don't know HOW I pulled that line off, but somehow I can pull pretty decent lines when the moment is right (though I guess one could argue about its "smoothness"; I think it worked well though) But yeah, pretty memorable I guess. Wow - that sort of turned me on!
Kamille Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 yummy first kisses... I find I'm always surprised when a guy finally leans in for a kiss - even though I usually send kiss me signals. I will do the touch-arms elbow things, lean in, look at his lips. But even so, because I am surprised, first kisses are also not my best kisses. I get really good on the second date, when I know and hope for more kissing. And, also, I have learned from past experience to only get myself in potential 'kiss me' situations with guys that I want to kiss: meaning, if we end up in a secluded space, that usually means I want to kiss him.
BeautifulMan Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 On my first kiss I felt the time was right so i just did it and after I regained proper blood flow to my head she said it was sweet. If she's into you, you'll know when the time is right. Now first kisses with girls aren't anything special, as a matter of fact my first month in college I met this girl and 2 days later she was sticking her tongue down my throat.
Cora Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 The sweetest first kiss I got I remember well! I was at the guys place and sitting on his sofa. He was sitting over in another chair. We were both shy as heck! He asked me how fast was my heart beating and I said REALLY fast. He said yeah, mine too. He gets out his cell phone and sends me a text asking you want me to come over? I text him back saying of course! He shyly walks over and sits close. I awkwardly ask him so you like kissing? He says yeah. I say well kiss me then! He did and the rest was history. After that we couldn't get enough of kissing each other.
zhsoj Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 I must be a weaker male as I had no delusions of being a hunter when I hadn't done anything till I was 25. I'd relate the story but it's pretty pathetic/"sweet". Gah. On the plus side I wasn't told I was absolutely terrible at it, so it must have been near tolerable.
colosseum Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Iceman, I'm glad we're in agreement. And JeezLouis, I have a penchant for the dramatic. Happy that I'm not alone. On another note: I can't remember my first kiss with the girl I'm currently dating. I think that's a problem. That's a problem, right? Any way I can figure it out via asking the girl slyly..?!
Lakers5peat09 Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 I just do it, no questions asked. Had my first real kiss when I was 11. You just got to go for it. Most girls always know when you want to kiss them.
missmich Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 The first kiss between the man I'm dating now and I was very sweet,really it was I wanted to be creative and make it something he'd always remember and something that would make him laugh as well. yeah it was kinda cheesy too! lol He came over after being out his friends,I was invited but had said no at the last minute since it would have been the 3rd time meeting with him and I was nervous about meeting his friends. I'd all ready decided that I'd allow him to kiss me that night as well. So he came in and I was like hi how are you and gave him a little hug then I said "hey can you do me a favor please?" and of course he said sure. So I said "can you please tell me what my neck tastes like?" he kissed my neck a little and said he didn't know so I told him to guess again on the 3rd try he still didn't know so I said "oh well maybe next time you will be able to guess right" and I walked away....but he grabbed me and pulled me close and kissed me! I'd used some Jessica Simpson Dessert powder on my neck that night! So yeah,it was sweet!
BobSacamento Posted May 20, 2009 Posted May 20, 2009 One of the biggest signals I've noticed for going for the first kiss with some woman is the application of the lip gloss. If I notice that's been whipped out and put on at the end of the night then I'm going in lol.
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