missmich Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Hopefully I can use this thread to vent a little and try to become more clear about what's really going on. PMS makes me think all weird. I started the pill this month and it's made my period last for 12 days now! It sucks and I can't wait for it to stop and be normal again. I've been dating this great guy for close to 2 months now and,yes we started things a little fast and then slowed it down b/c he isn't ready for another relationship yet. I'm fine with that and want to take it slow as well so neither of us get hurt. We saw each other on May 6th and had a really great date night together! We were both so happy! Laughing and cuddling and smiling the whole night. He even sent me a really sweet e-mail when he got home thanking me for the great time he had and telling me how happy he was. Normally I do that so it was a nice surprise. We haven't talked much since then and haven't seen each other b/c he's been quite sick and I totally get why he hasn't been able to call me. We didn't talk at all yesterday except for a few minutes of chatting on facebook. I did message him and leave a voice mail that he didn't respond to. That's fine though I guess. It's now 3 in the afternoon on a nice sunny Sunday and I was hoping we could go out. I asked him yesterday in a message that he didn't respond to. Today I messaged him asking how he was (after calling and not getting an answer,sometimes his phone doesn't have service in his house) and saying that I felt like hell but it was nothing. He hasn't responded yet. I guess I was kinda hoping he would have by now. Just to ask what was wrong or something. Normally,like when I don't have such bad PMS happening I do have issues with being insecure BUT I've been doing well at keeping them in check. Especially since meeting this guy. He's quite different then the men I'm used to dating and I trust him and feel no need to be so insecure. With all the PMS stuff though I can't tell if he's not calling cuz he's lost interest or whatever. He used to call me daily but I guess as a part of slowing things down he's decided not to call daily anymore? Sorry for being so out it with this post. I'm all over the place today.
paddington bear Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Evening Primrose Oil - seriously, one capsule per day, for the rest of your life! It's a miracle, wonder, simply thing to do. Told a friend about it, she started to take it and 2 months later she rang me and said that her boyfriend said to say 'thank you!!!!'
xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Evening Primrose Oil - seriously, one capsule per day, for the rest of your life! It's a miracle, wonder, simply thing to do. Told a friend about it, she started to take it and 2 months later she rang me and said that her boyfriend said to say 'thank you!!!!' Paddings, you're definitely a salesperson. OP, I don't think its' your pms. I question your guy and wonder if he's actually seeing someone else. How do you go from being close with for 2 months, and then immediately stop answering the phone? Something's fishy and I don't like it. Have you tried his house phone?
Author missmich Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I don't think he's seeing anyone else. We had that talk and neither of wants to see anyone else and we agreed to only sleep with each other. I do trust him in that way. Often when I call him on his cell I can't get through if he's at home. He told me from the start that he often doesn't have service if he's at home. He lives with his parents for the time being and doesn't like when people call the families house phone,I did once before I knew that and won't do it again. He also told me when we first met that he was sorta getting out of a bad place emotionally b/c of the recent (December) break up and we met late March and that some days he may not want to be around me. I get that and want to give him the space he needs. I know he's been super sick for over the last week and is needing a lot of extra rest now. He may just not feel like talking right now and that's why he didn't call me. He did also tell me one time when I was upset and jumped to conclusions about something that if his feelings for me changed or if I'd done something wrong that he'd tell me. So that's why I'm sure it's the PMS that's making me think unclearly. I'm also down about not having steady work right now and being low on funds.
Author missmich Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Awww! He just called me now! He asked me to see a movie with him tonight. I said he needs to take me out in the sunshine too! lol I briefly explained that I have bad PMS and can't think straight and not to worry about it or take my feelings to personally if I cry or get mad at him. He feels sorry for me being this way.
Author missmich Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 I just got back from having a really nice time with my special guy. I can't really say it was a date since his buddy (who is also great) was with us. We saw a good movie and he dropped his friend off first so he could have a little time alone with me and everything was all right again I feel silly for having those thoughts I had earlier,but I knew they were wrong. I'm going to seriously think about this Evening Primrose oil stuff. I've heard of it before and will look into it soon. Hopefully my period goes away asap!!!
D-Lish Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I think you should let him call you a little bit more.... Period or no period, guys like a little mystery in a woman. I wouldn't spend too much time talking to him about your period woes- save that for marriage:lmao: Seriously- you're calling him and contacting him too much. Let him do some chasing. When a guy tells you he's in a bad place emotionally, then goes on to say he wants to slow things down.... Start doing your own thing. When a guy says he wants to slow things down, it means he's on the fence.... The worst thing you can do is to go overboard contacting him. Let him come to you more. If you had a great night tonight, leave him with that impression and wait for him to call you again.
Author missmich Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 Yeah,normally I don't tell guys I'm dating about my period woes. lol But he knew I just started the pill and I wanted to share with him the joys of starting it Just kidding! He'll probably call me tomorrow and if not that's fine. I did remind him of a date we had planned for this coming week and he said not to worry cuz he'd remembered it
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