florida89 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Hello there, I'm new here and I'm trying to make this as short as possible. See, last year my ex-girl and I were dating for about 6 months. She was the cute and shy type although she could be very spontanious when we're alone. She always had to hold my hand, even when I was cooking dinner for her. Everyone around us told me we were a great couple, but our mutual friends told me I had to look out for her more and treat her nice because she isn't the type to play games with. Still, after a while I noticed she was somewhere else with her mind and didn't really show the interest for me what she used to do. It went really bad, and I started to act all hysterical by closing her in by rushing questions. Eventually she told me she needed time and space to think. Suddenly out of nowhere this guy approached me by myspace and told me he was some kind of dating her the last couple of weeks but figured that she was actually with someone else, me. We hooked up together and confronted her with the question what's this all about. I saw in her eyes she really felt uncomfortable and that was also the first time I've seen her like that. She started trembling, tears were flowing and she walked away with her friends. We didn't speak to each other afterwards and after a month I couldn't take it anymore. I called her, and said I missed her and wanted to see her. We talked about it and she told me she loved me but she didn't know what to do. In february we stopped having contact and seeing each other because she thought it was best that we didn't hang out with each other anymore. A month later she texted me on my birthday and called me by the nickname how she used to called me. I got annoyed by that text and called her what was that all about. She told me she really missed me and needed me. At first I didn't believed her and asked if it was worth to work things out because she never knows what she wants. Still, she replied quickly after that with a yes. We started talking (again) and when we're on the phone we can have really nice conversations wich can lead out to 2 hours. It's already been 2 months since we're having contact again, and last week I heard some rumors that she's with this new guy for quite a while. I never asked her about that, because the rumor isn't really that trustful but she often talks about that guy (as just a friend). These last 2 months she rarely calls me, but speaks to me a lot by blackberry messenger and we sometimes meet and do some shopping or stuff. When we're going make our way to our homes she still kisses me and thanks me for being with her. On my way home I'm thinking: "What is this all about? Is this just a joke? Is she using me? I don't know what to do anymore. I'm still madly in love with this girl and have the urge to call her to tell her that, but I'm afraid I'll push her only further away. What should I do? Thanks for reading.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Read between the lines hombre' yoube already lost her she's keeping you as the backup while she's with the new man, but she isnt telling you the truth because she's keeping you from making a choice. She's a flake, why are you wasting your time on such a woman when you ould be dating out there yourself?
Author florida89 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I guess you're right then. You seem to be a straight to the point guy who knows what're you talking about. I started this thread becasuse I was looking for some neutral answers and you gave me one. Thanks I have to say I made a mistake by writing this. We're back in contact for 2 monts now, but it's been only a week or 2 since she haven't called me. She's in her exams after all still she always uses her cellphone messenger though. She's still checking me out how I am doing and stuff. It's also not confirmed she's with that guy. I only heard it from someone who heard it from someone else etc etc. Damn, making a descision is just hard for me when things are not certain.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Yeah shes keeping you on a leash for her ego boost. Dont let her use you as a friend while shes banging someone else. Cut her off. Call her and tell her she cant call you anymore.
Author florida89 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 So I called her and I told her I don't really like the idea of being a back-up plan. She didn't know what I was talking about since she said she wasn't dating someone else. Didn't really matter for me if it's true or not. I love her but it isn't enough for her so that's why I told her I don't want to get on with this any longer. She was pretty speecheless during the conversation, probably because she didn't expect me to make a sudden choice like that. I told her I love her and I didn't want her to take advantage of my feelings for her, that's why I needed to do this. Then I hang up and I deleted her from my cellphone and IM. Still feel strange though.. I feel pretty ****ty from the fact she doesn't love me the way I do and I'm certain it will bother me for quite some time, but I'm happy it is finally over. Oh well, I wonder if there's anything good on tv. Thanks for your advice, I just needed to open my eyes.
Chrome Barracuda Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I think you will find someone hotter who will be IN to you. and they wont be a flake and play games with your emotions life is too short!
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