Sammyman13 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Been seeing this girl for about a month (both 30) however each day it seems that she suffers from low self esteem, a narcissistic personality, selfishness, shallow or is very insecure. How does one go about helping one with low self esteem issues or whatever personality issues she may have in a newly formed relationship without causing it to end quickly? Below are some comments that she made and some situations that I have been in since we have started hanging out which clearly points out that she has some type of issue. She does not live this lavish life style either but for some reason I think she cares WAY too much what others think of her. And please don’t hold back on replies in regards to telling it like it is! I need to really think if I want to pursue this relationship further... 1) Look at me, I am fat, wait until the summer and I will be in great shape. 2) Did I embarrass you when I surprised you on the subway the other day? 3) Were you embarrassed when I told our guy friend that we are hanging out? 4) I want to get my nose done and breasts redone. 5) I didn’t have to go to college because the stoke brokers hired me to be their personal assistant because I am so pretty. 6) I just got my haircut done at this expensive place, I would get it done at the local hair place but it makes me feel pretty. 7) I said your hair is great have you ever thought of putting a little curl in it? She said, “you don’t like my hair”? 8) She owns a house with her ex boyfriend and lives upstairs. 9) She only hangs out with guys and a few of her ex’s and thinks woman are annoying. 10) Tells me our guy friend could do better than his current partner. 11) When she is done with a guy, she is done and there is nothing to talk about. (however totally contradicts #’s 7 and 8) 12) Did you want to stop by my building during lunch, if you don’t want to that’s ok, just not sure if you wanted to? 13) She wanted to go to the strip club with me and I said maybe I can bring my computer friend along, being that he is a nerdy looking guy but an awesome friend she said “I don’t want to be embarrassed” Thanks Jack
tinklebell Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Sounds to me that everything's about the exterior with her, weight issues, hair, plastic surgery, being pretty, not wanting to embarrass or to be embarrassed. I've heard that women who voluntarily don't want to be friends with other women tend to be quite competitive. They see the other women as rivals. You probably need to think how she makes you feel in the relationship, not just what kind of a person she is, even though it's a fine line. But she gives me the impression of a high maintenance person.
Mahatma Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Eh... I would never date a woman who was still living with an ex. If they lived together at one point, that means they were pretty close. Just think about if you two ever got in a serious fight or something...
Author Sammyman13 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 I did not know this until about 2 weeks in as I never really asked her about her living arrangements. One thing my friend said what this and gave no explanation because he does not like her. She is built for destruction. What does that mean? Jack
Jersey Shortie Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 She has very low self-esteem and yes, sounds narrisistic. Don't ever trust a woman that can't be friends with other women. If you have a good relationship with your mother or sisters or female friends, it's going to get in the way. I speak from experience of a situation with my older brother. He had a very beautiful ex girlfrien who made his life miserable because she was a miserable, selfish person. But best of luck to her now that she isn't with my bro anymore.
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