balletlove Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I feel like something is wrong with me, I'm 21 years old and I never had a real boyfriend or relationship, other than my ex that lasted one week but that doesn't even count. I never cared to have a boyfriend and didn't mind waiting for the right guy to come along unlike my friends who constantly dated. I noticed guys tend to just use me, and never hear from them again or just become their booty calls. I just don't get it, I'm not trying to sound conceited but I always get compliments from strangers and people I meet about my beauty almost every day, its kinda flattering and I know I'm attractive but I never let it get to my head, and sometimes I just cant see it myself either. And I hate when everyone asks me why I'm single if I can get any guy, and its not true, because I can't even get one, my mom even asks me and sometimes think I'm a lesbian because I never had a bf. No one is ever interested or ever ask me on dates.... I'm probably going to be single forever
sugarmomma Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I feel like something is wrong with me, I'm 21 years old and I never had a real boyfriend or relationship, other than my ex that lasted one week but that doesn't even count. I never cared to have a boyfriend and didn't mind waiting for the right guy to come along unlike my friends who constantly dated. I noticed guys tend to just use me, and never hear from them again or just become their booty calls. I just don't get it, I'm not trying to sound conceited but I always get compliments from strangers and people I meet about my beauty almost every day, its kinda flattering and I know I'm attractive but I never let it get to my head, and sometimes I just cant see it myself either. And I hate when everyone asks me why I'm single if I can get any guy, and its not true, because I can't even get one, my mom even asks me and sometimes think I'm a lesbian because I never had a bf. No one is ever interested or ever ask me on dates.... I'm probably going to be single forever You are so young and it is okay to NOT be in a relationship. Doesn't mean that something s wrong with you or that you're a lesbian. You say that guys seem to use you for booty calls. Rule number one-you should never have sex with a guy too soon. I would say give it between 60-90 days. If a guy sees that he can get it that easy he will think its like that for every guy. Guys will respect you more when they see that you are confident and have respect for yourself. There is a book called Why men love Bitches and I swear by it. Take my word. I am much older than you. You just need to work on your self esteem, self love, self acceptance and confidence. There is nothing wrong with you and stop doubting yourself. DO NOT EVER SETTLE FOR BEING SOME MAN'S BOOTY CALL. STAY AWAY FORM MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS OR MARRIED OR EMOTIONALLY UNAVAILABLE.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I didn't start dating until I was 18 ( I'm 19 now) so you can understand my frustration at the time for not having any experience. Looking back now, I would have loved it better had I waited a bit longer to find the right person to have given up my virginity, but it doesn't necessarily make me a bad person to have lost it either. Everybody is different, it doesn't make you a freak or anything. It's better to wait for the right person to actually come along rather than just settling. There's nothing wrong with you. You should be glad you have high standards. And you can always make the first moves if the right guy comes along as opposed to always having a guy ask you out.
Recommended Posts