xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 This is gonna require alot of polling from guys, but females are also welcome to express their opinions. Is it true you don't like being pressured into a relationship? Or is that an excuse? I know some people like a girl to chase them, some like to do more of the chasing. But when we, girls, starts calling you to confirm things, asking and testing the waters with you, do you really feel like we're trying to pressure you and trap you into a relationship? I honestly have heard my fair share of girls telling each other guys don't like to be pressured. But are we just making excuses for you guys to ease our own insecurities?
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Its true, guys do not like to be pressured. No one likes to be pressured into anything. Have you ever been pressured for sex? Think about how that made you feel. If a guy wants to be in a relationship with you, he will say so. Pressuring him doesnt mean you will get it. Not only that, do you really want to pressure someone into something they dont want? Its nagging, you want to be a nag? Dont fool yourself into thinking they might want it but just need a kick in the ass. If you have to pressure, it wasnt meant to be. testing the waters just makes guys resent you when they dont know how to handle the tests btw. You might wanna slow down on that.
mortensorchid Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I don't think anyone likes to be pressured to be in something they don't want to be in, male or female, myself. I do know plenty of people who have ALLOWED themselves to be pressured by a man or woman to be in the relationship, let alone being pressured to get married to that person still pressuring them. What kind of a relationship will you have once you have pressured the person into sealing the deal? Not a good one, I would imagine. It's all "It's my way or the highway" type thing. Someone / something will eventually give, when are you going to draw the line in terms of what you do or don't want the other person to do?
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Be straight up about this, who are you pressuring to do what?
shinedown Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I think there's a difference between pressuring someone, and giving them reassurance. It's a fine line though for most guys. Me personally, I like to know where I'm going and I don't mind the girl calling to confirm or asking me certain things. I quite like it because it's a rare suprise. Don't get me wrong I do enjoy the chasing aspect of it all and the build-up it provides, but it's nice if the girl throws something in now and again. I suppose it all depends on what type of guy it is. But imo a little bit of pressure/reassurance is sometimes needed.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Be straight up about this, who are you pressuring to do what? Boogie, I wouldn't say this thread applies to anything that's happening to me now, but I have noticed that the threads on LS has gotten alot of people constantly asking about what's going on with the opposite, especially in regards to whether they all actually want a relationship or not. I was reading http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t189112/ and it really got me thinking if most of the guys that girls are dating are actually pressured about a relationship.
Odyssey Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I do hate being pressured, especially after i text the girl that I'm busy a particular week for example. And she would constantly contact me, as though to be re-assured that i was still interested in her. That would really bother me. Come to think of it, maybe it's just a mis-communication thing with texting. I never really thought about it, until now. But in terms of my pass (failed) relationships, i did feel kinda pressured that i had to be in a relationship with her just to be happy.
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