kayy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 So i've been @ my job for about 2 years. There's this guy that has worked there for awhile & i'm a bit interested in him. We talk all the time at work & i'm not sure if he feels the same. should I request to his friend on facebook? would he be creeped out? would it be werid when i see him at work? or think i'm 'chasing' him? or am i just over analyzing everything way too much?
whichwayisup Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Don't add him to your facebook. Get to know him face to face, not online. Just ask him to go for a coffee with you!
BobSacamento Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I'd hate that personally. Sometimes you want to keep your personal life and work life separate. FB requests I think are so obvious. You just want to take work out of getting to know someone. Ask him out for a drink if you really want to know him.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 So i've been @ my job for about 2 years. There's this guy that has worked there for awhile & i'm a bit interested in him. We talk all the time at work & i'm not sure if he feels the same. should I request to his friend on facebook? would he be creeped out? would it be werid when i see him at work? or think i'm 'chasing' him? or am i just over analyzing everything way too much? Stop bieng a coward. Dont be so afraid of rejection. Ask him to lunch. It takes two seconds. Dont build it up so much so that you'll be really disappointed if he says no. Think of it as nothing. Just ask, if he says no, oh well, his loss. You are overthinking it.
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I'm so sick of Facebook. It keeps people emotionally unavailable. Talk on the phone or go for lunch. It's the way we used to do things in the olden days.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I'm so sick of Facebook. It keeps people emotionally unavailable. Talk on the phone or go for lunch. It's the way we used to do things in the olden days. HAHA! The olden days, before the internet and cell phones. When if you didnt want to call, you had to meet face to face. I miss those days. texting is so chickenshiit.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 HAHA! The olden days, before the internet and cell phones. When if you didnt want to call, you had to meet face to face. I miss those days. texting is so chickenshiit. I also used to miss those days when people actually dial numbers rather than go for the speed dial.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I also used to miss those days when people actually dial numbers rather than go for the speed dial. My index finger is getting a blister just thinking about rotaries.
tinklebell Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 So i've been @ my job for about 2 years. There's this guy that has worked there for awhile & i'm a bit interested in him. We talk all the time at work & i'm not sure if he feels the same. should I request to his friend on facebook? would he be creeped out? would it be werid when i see him at work? or think i'm 'chasing' him? or am i just over analyzing everything way too much? Don't do it. I never thought people who added me on facebook or asked for me to add them were interested in me. I only thought of them as people who wanted to increase their number of friends there. As other posters have said, do the personal thing. That's more real.
bitbyte Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I don't see a problem with it as long as it goes somewhere (i.e. a date). The whole point of FB is getting to know the superficial stuff of someone, that's why it was created in the first place. It's just a tool.
normal Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Casually ask him to do something with you after work instead of relying on facebook.. Like, "Hey, do you want to go grab a drink with me?" or "Do you have plans after work?"... and go from there. The worst he can do is say "he's busy" or "no." Which, if he' single and interested even in terms of friendship, he probably won't. Inviting him to facebook as a means of expressing attraction is a little tacky. Considering you are able to do this in person, he may get the idea that you are insecure or cowardly. I promise that just a casual talk and a casual invite to hang out won't be painful. Talk to him.
Mahatma Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 A facebook request is NOT the first step in a relationship.
Bells Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I also used to miss those days when people actually dial numbers rather than go for the speed dial. Yeah, now you get people using the ol' "I don't like to talk on the phone" excuse. They prefer to text now days. Guess, I'm old fashioned. lol!
ilovefreshair Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I know it's not easy, but if you're interested in him then you need to suck it up and casually ask him if he's busy after work and if he'd like to grab a drink. If he says no.. at least you can stop wondering!
sb129 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Facebook is useful for some things, but I don't think this is one of them. I also prefer to keep work and personal life separate. If you have barely spoken to him, asking him to be your FB friend IS a little creepy and I would probably deny the request if it was me. Talk to him in person! You have nothing to lose...
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