Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I have a profile on a dating site.. I posted a few pictures. I just checked in.. (I don't check very often) and I got a message.. from a guy who called me by my real name.. but he doesn't say who he is.. On his profile ..he's 20 years younger.. single.. no children.. Humm.. would that 'creep' you out..
dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 :D:D I'd be kinda freaked. I mean God only knows who it could be.
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Well Lizzie.. he obviously knows you Do you think he is an old customer ? Maybe one of your female coworkers screwing with you ? Would I be freaked.. I don't think so... you can always block them
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I jumped when I saw my name.. From his description, I have a slight idea.. but not sure.. he'd definitely be an 'old' lover.. I answered asking him to identify himself.. since we apparently know each other...
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 My wife and I had been emailing on Match for 2 weeks and I decided to send her my work email and the next email I got from her was.. "you are Art from so and so ?.. We know each other professionally.. I'm so and so from so and so " She was a client of mine and had been for years...We had worked together on many projects and she would send me work all the time.. I didn't know her personally or socially though The rest is history...
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 so you knew her from work.. how come you never asked her out? Did you know she was single?
burning 4 revenge Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I jumped when I saw my name.. From his description, I have a slight idea.. but not sure.. he'd definitely be an 'old' lover.. Well that at least limits it to under three thousand
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 so you knew her from work.. how come you never asked her out? Did you know she was single? I had never met her in person before match.com.. we only talked on the phone and my sales reps were the ones shuttling the work back and forth to my company...
OpenBook Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 What was the tone of his message to you, Lizzie? And do you know anyone who would want to "mess" with your head? Any disgruntled ex-BFs in your past? I wouldn't get too worked up about it... unless this person starts getting abusive and hostile with you. Then you can just report them.
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 The message was OK.. just checking how I was... If it's the guy I think it is ... he's a younger guy who wanted to have a 'steady' long-term relationship... and I had to tell him I had found someone.. (this is usually my 'excuse' to be left alone )... and now he sees my profile on a dating site.. oh well.. I can always tell him it's been there for ages.. and that I rarely checked.. (which is true)... On the other hand.. I don't really owe him any 'excuses' ...
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 On the other hand.. I don't really owe him any 'excuses' ... No you don't and you don't owe him any more replies either.. If you figure out who he is and don't want anything to do with him then I would suggest getting hard, cold and direct with him or you will never hear the end of him.
alphamale Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Humm.. would that 'creep' you out.. yes it would creep me out if a 24 yr old male responded to my online ad
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 yes it would creep me out if a 24 yr old male responded to my online ad I would think so too.. So I guess you're 44..
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I check out the online dating ads when I'm bored, and I'm not looking, it's like window shopping with no money. Anyway, I've been single for 4 years and I see the same guys on there after all this time. Some of them seem normal yet they are still on there. Okay, I know what you're thinking, I'm on there too, well... I'm not normal in case you were wondering. Go read my posts and you will see. My profile can't be viewed, so believe me that i am not looking. I had the experience of communicating with a fellow for over 6 months before I realized he knew me after 1 month, and it took me that long to figure out I knew him. It didn't amount to anything, but the next time I got an online message from someone I knew, I fessed up right away and told him I knew him. That's too bad this person wouldn't say how they knew you. Sounds freaky to me.
Gold Pile Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 If he just happened to come across your profile and it had wording or pics that he recognized....that's ok. But if he's been stalking around looking for your profiles, then this is a fish from Denmark. You know you have a hot body, Is your face as hot?
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 If he just happened to come across your profile and it had wording or pics that he recognized....that's ok. But if he's been stalking around looking for your profiles, then this is a fish from Denmark. You know you have a hot body, Is your face as hot? I don't know about that.. I've been told that I'm very attractive.. but when I look at myself, I think I look awful.. and I don't just mean the face.. I also mean my body... but I know others think differently. I have posted my face before..
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Oups.. just checked the site.. and he replied to my message... he said: 'come on.. read the profile... you can solve the puzzle. We had lots of good times together but you don't have feelings for me anymore." Now I know.. he's the guy I thought. This guy is a 10.. (used to model).. but still he can't find anyone..
jerbear Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I have a profile on a dating site.. I posted a few pictures. I just checked in.. (I don't check very often) and I got a message.. from a guy who called me by my real name.. but he doesn't say who he is.. On his profile ..he's 20 years younger.. single.. no children.. Humm.. would that 'creep' you out.. Darn, it was not me! Yes it would "creep" me out if a younger guy or someone I knew contacted me. Usually they have pictures so you can get an idea. I think you're a hottie even if you feel you look awful.
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Darn, it was not me! Yes it would "creep" me out if a younger guy or someone I knew contacted me. Usually they have pictures so you can get an idea. I think you're a hottie even if you feel you look awful. Aahhh... Jerbear.. you're a sweetheart.. thank you.
boldjack Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 If this is the guy that you thought, do you think that he still has designs on you? You need to try to assess if he just wants a rematch or if he is a genuine threat (stalker) with too much emotional involvement. As a person with a "colored past", ex-lovers can be anything from a nuisance to a real danger. I had a woman, who would send me nude pics and suggestive letters, would call my present wife and threaten her, until I got a restraining order. I didn't feel really comfortable until she went to Cal. I'm sure that you have had stalkers . Ex "customer" perhaps?
JeezLouise Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I am just boggled by the fact that a woman your age, with such purported hotness, goes on a dating site! Or is this how you obtain "customers"?
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 If he just happened to come across your profile and it had wording or pics that he recognized....that's ok. But if he's been stalking around looking for your profiles, then this is a fish from Denmark. You know you have a hot body, Is your face as hot? GP... check my profile and you'll see my face..
boldjack Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 That you go on a dating site is YOUR business, and nobody else's.
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 That you go on a dating site is YOUR business, and nobody else's. Exactly..well said.. there are a lot of 'losers' on dating sites.. but there are also very attractive men (a few) who are there because they don't go to bars or they are too shy.. whatever.. It's way easier to check a dating site.. imagine the 'pool' of people you can see in one hour..
donnamaybe Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 I am just boggled by the fact that a woman your age, with such purported hotness, goes on a dating site! Or is this how you obtain "customers"? Or that not long ago she created a thread claiming everyone on dating sites are "used up," "damaged goods," or "losers."
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