xpaperxcutx Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 There are plenty of rulebooks, some better than others. Which since I read them and I usually do know, so for me not knowing is upsetting. Its not exciting in the least for me. Yeah, I know, but how can a book actually help you when you're actually on date? You can't really read their minds, and often advices from certain books do in fact jeopardize your chances.
dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Yeah, I hate not knowing. I like to know what's going on, instead of wondering.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Yeah, I know, but how can a book actually help you when you're actually on date? You can't really read their minds, and often advices from certain books do in fact jeopardize your chances. You dont have to read their minds when you know the outcome based on actions. For instance I know early on if a women is into me of course, I dont have to worry about anything after that. No need to worry about sex, or second dates. If she isnt into me, I end the date. Cant build up expectations to things like that on first and second dates or else you could get dissapointed. it also affects the way you act. You also cant worry about making people like you, you have to act natural. So theres no need to wonder. They either like you or they dont. Cant put all your eggs in one basket, you date until someone you can easily get along with comes along. I am able to keep it "ho hum" if you will. Keeps me from getting nervous.
Mycroft Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 This is something to be considered when dating, not to play games though. Emotions are fickle and you can't always control them. Its important for both people to keep contact meaningful, especially in the beginning of a relationship. I'm sure there's plenty of incidents where a person comes off way too strong, but generally I don't think it was one person going overboard, it was both, but only one got tired of it. Its probably a good sign things weren't meant to be.
monkey00 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I find that during the dating phase, it's good to follow the 1:1 ratio rule...not strictly of course. If you find yourself calling most of the time and attempting to set up dates with little reciprocation on the other end. It's best to leave the ball in the other person's court and let them be the initiator. If they call back great, if not..just move on. The dating world can be cruel sometimes, but I think everyone should be allowed to keep their self-respect and be less available.
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