Describe heartbreak

[Catwoman67]

Hi all. Many, many moons since I've been on LoveShack. Anyway, I was just sitting here listening to music from the 70's that reminded me of my ex and how he broke my heart, and I started to think, if I could put it in words, how would I? How would I describe a broken heart?

 

Well, I think it starts in your stomach and works its way up. You feel sick, empty, lonely, lost, like you'll never feel 'good' again. What a horrible feeling - I guess that's why I do not want to be 'in love' again - it hurts too much...

[now_what]

You summed it up perfectly - that is what it feels like. I would probably also add a feeling of restlessness and questioning to go along with the empty feeling -why did this happen? how could he have done this to me? When will I feel "normal" again? And my ex said he did not hate me. I wonder how he would have treated me if he had?

[PinkToes]

Dan Fogelberg, maybe?

 

Your words feel right to me, too. Plus the sad disappointment that comes with shattered dreams, when you were planning to be together forever, and suddenly you have to erase that person from your future. Very sad.

[Cora]

A broken heart is like a world with out hope, a mind without thought and me with out you.

 

- Pascale kasirabo

[confusedcookie]

ummm... hows this, i suddenly can't sleep at nights, and i wake up wide awake at 430am, at first disoriented, and my brain is going through overdrive, like there is something wrong with me, and it doesn't know what, and then it hits me at once, its bc we broke up. nothing is wrong, and nothings is out of order in my life, its just he's not in it anymore, and the little things will make me cry, and make me things of him.

 

i've always been a cry baby, and i can't control that... any god tips? is this one of those, as you get older, you'll be less prone to cry bc you've seen more and more horrible things?

[Nikki Sahagin]

Literally feels like walking downstairs and missing a step - or that feeling you get on a rollercoaster. That shock of suddenly feeling sick and losing your equillibrium, your balance, your poise, your place. You can't keep walking up the stairs so you tumble down. Its also like an anxiety in the pit of the stomach, and your whole body aches for them....like someones plunged their hand right through your chest and snatched out your heart....and theres just this sore ache - you can really feel the void. Its literally as people describe, it hits in waves, so its like walking along being calm, accepting it, and then being hit by a tidal wave...you can't breathe, you feel dissorientated, faint, hurt, lost for a second. Then you get back up again.

[ChefJan]

To me, living with a broken heart is eventually understanding that this person has caused your broken heart to completely take over your well being- Your eating habits, sleeping habits, work habits, all suffer. Your conscious mind is on this pain and this person 24/7. Your at work trying hard to get something done and this broken heart floods your thoughts when all of a sudden, you wonder what you were originally doing !!

 

I do know that once you experience this unbelievable emotion in life, it makes you a better person. Never would you want to inflict such pain on another and thus you learn from this and grow but its a long lonesome road to recovery and I wouldnt wish it on anyone, nor would I ever hurt another in my lifetime.

[Nedved]

I think all the above posts perfectly sum up every emmotion that we go through during the heartbreak. The thing i find that hurts the most is visions of your ex happy, kissing and even making love to another person. These thoughs are very painful for me.

[monkeymaid]

hey nedved, that was the hardest part for me as well till it passed, then it was the fact that i will never hold her hand again and walk in the woods or down the beach or even the street again. that the eyes i love to get lost in are no longer a place for me to even look at

 

for me and my broken heart, it feels/felt like someone is pressing on my throat just enough to cause discomfort, and doesnt stop for weeks. someone is sitting on my chest, and starrted a fire in my brain. combine that with the hopeless feeling that my life is not mine, and that even though yesterday, i was the man adn had everything going for me, today i dont even have a reason to brush my teeth or take a shower. hell, i dont even want to wake up and go through the effort of peeing. food means nothing, except that my friends are forcing me to eat it and when im notfeeling like that, i hate everybody and everyhting.

 

thats scratching the surface ofthis guys broken hearted expereince

[EmperorR]

You feel ugly, that no one will ever want to be with you or love you again. You can't eat, all you want to do is sleep, the person who dumps you consumes your mind your thinking about them all the time.

 

 

You literally dont care about anything, you fel so emotionless

[fabulous_chk]

Heartbreak is temporary insanity. Everything becomes irrational.

[D-Lish]

The couple times it has happened, I can't eat, can't sleep, can't go to the grocery store to buy a loaf of bread without feeling like I need to vacate because I am about to break down.

 

The one good thing is what you realize in the aftermath- you are capable of getting through it.

[notalone]

Heartbreak is literally all the unpleasant emotions in the world mixed up and served on a platter. Fear, anxiety, loneliness, sadness, guilt, insecurity, anger, self-pity, panic, loss...you name it, you have it all. All it takes is to lose someone you love, and you have seen hell.

[Catwoman67]

Dan Fogelberg, maybe?

 

Your words feel right to me, too. Plus the sad disappointment that comes with shattered dreams, when you were planning to be together forever, and suddenly you have to erase that person from your future. Very sad.

 

My quote is from Dan Fogelberg, excellent! I luved him and his music - you can tell which singers have really had heartache in their life, eh......

[Catwoman67]

You have all had devastating heartache, I can tell by reading your posts.

 

The only way I can get through it at work is this way, sometimes it works, sometimes... anyway, I give myself 'crying time'. I tell myself, okay, you want to cry, you can't right now, so I tell myself - if you hold off until e.g. noon, you can go in the bathroom and cry for 5 minutes. Then I get up, get a super cold glass of water, put it on my desk and start working - or pretending to anyway. Whenever I feel like crying I take a drink of that cold water and tell myself, okay, wait for 1/2 hour - then go cry, and sometimes, you can put it off longer, but damn it is so hard.

 

I thought of a few other 'feelings' - true, worst part is when you first wake up and it hits you. You just want to shut the curtains, pull the blankets/comforter over your head and sleep sleep sleep. I tell you, I have four cats (used to have 6) and don't know what I would have done without them, they are such a comfort. Also someone mentioned disoriented - absolutely - also, I find that when you are heartbroken - I would sit outside at lunchtime, and watch people walking around, going on with their lives, and wonder how their loves lives are? are they happy? do they see that I'm not? do they care - hey the world is going on without me? nothing has changed for them? why not? I am heartbroken...almost a surreal feeling...

[Meaplus3]

Heartbreak is not an easy thing to get over. Because when the object of our deep affection no longer want's us around it's a huge blow to ones sense of self. I've found that letting go really comes from deep within. By not feeling guilty and blaming oneself for the end of an R, it really helps to move past things. It's never easy but can be done. And trust in a new wonderful person that enters our lives can happen again. Try and keep your chin up. Things will get better.

 

Mea:)

[Jmina]

Hey,

 

I was heartbroken for about 18months give or take 2 years ago, personally i used to describe it as being

 

shattering

guttered

wiped me off the face of the earth

wake up call

roller coaster

physically painful - especially in the first 4 weeks, the emotional ache sat in my chest and stomach

 

in the first few days or maybe few weeks i heard a quote along the lines of

 

"finding out someone has gone is like walking a staircase in the dark, you come to the top floor and go to take a step but the floor falls from beneath you and you experience a dark sickly suprise"

 

i used to feel this often throughout the early days when i remembered what had happened.

 

I found it to be something i had extreme reactions to - emotionally and mentally.

 

i cant explain the pain and grief i felt without bringing up the growth i gained

 

without that drastic loss, someone i thought i needed in my weakest moments left, i had asked for it without realising, i put out to the universe to become stronger. i wouldnt be where i am today. strong, confident, willing, peaceful, thoughtful, open - it has become a long continuous journey that never stops but changes, and it has made my life about me. my focus has been shifted onto myself for the better.

 

thanks for answering my prayer universe!

[CM2009]

I agree with all the op!!!

[Nedved]

hey nedved, that was the hardest part for me as well till it passed, then it was the fact that i will never hold her hand again and walk in the woods or down the beach or even the street again. that the eyes i love to get lost in are no longer a place for me to even look at

 

for me and my broken heart, it feels/felt like someone is pressing on my throat just enough to cause discomfort, and doesnt stop for weeks. someone is sitting on my chest, and starrted a fire in my brain. combine that with the hopeless feeling that my life is not mine, and that even though yesterday, i was the man adn had everything going for me, today i dont even have a reason to brush my teeth or take a shower. hell, i dont even want to wake up and go through the effort of peeing. food means nothing, except that my friends are forcing me to eat it and when im notfeeling like that, i hate everybody and everyhting.

 

thats scratching the surface ofthis guys broken hearted expereince

 

their difficult thoughts to deal with monkey maid and its very upsetting!! It seems your going through a very difficult time and i think you summed it up perfectly when your remembering the good times and romantic strolls etc. Its hard to accept and very sad knowing that we can't share these experiences with them anymore.

[Soul Bear]

After your heart smashes into a million pieces, you arteries get stabbed with sharp poisen fragments of your broken hopes and dreams and the toxin flows through your body. They fill your mind body and soul and consume you.

Unfortuantely there is no operation for a broken heart that is provided on th NHS.

 

That was pretty dark...sorry

[t0ri]

I'd agree with everything that has been said.

 

Anxiety, hopefulness, confusion, doubt, wonder, questions, self-doubt, crying, anger, physical sickness, loneliness, depression, worry, sleepless nights, no appetite, lack of motivation, nostalgia, irritation, etc. Not to mention the thoughts of your ex moving on happily without you, that they simply don't want you anymore, and thoughts of them with someone else (all a big slap in the face!) - bringing on every emotion possible.

 

And for me, I go through the above emotions, have a good cry or four, then I feel fine for a few days. Then the cycle returns and I have a bad few days full of distress. When will the cycle ease up?!

[iBelieve In Symmetry]

Literally feels like walking downstairs and missing a step - or that feeling you get on a rollercoaster. That shock of suddenly feeling sick and losing your equillibrium, your balance, your poise, your place. You can't keep walking up the stairs so you tumble down. Its also like an anxiety in the pit of the stomach, and your whole body aches for them....like someones plunged their hand right through your chest and snatched out your heart....and theres just this sore ache - you can really feel the void. Its literally as people describe, it hits in waves, so its like walking along being calm, accepting it, and then being hit by a tidal wave...you can't breathe, you feel dissorientated, faint, hurt, lost for a second. Then you get back up again.

 

Beautiful, accurate description! Things like this make me feel a lot less alone while going through this.