dreamergrl Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 So yeah, there's new guy, and just new guy. We'll call new guy D now. D has been in good contact through out the week. He tells me how he's been having to work more because someone hasn't been showing up, he has to work for what seems like forever, he works until 10 at night and just wants to relax when he gets home. He wants to see me soon. And (ready for this) he misses me. Well the phrase was, "we will hang out again Im sure of it. miss ya but i hope your doing good" See he tells me quite often he wants to see me and what not, so I make a suggestion, but I don't really get an answer. So I'm just going to not make contact for a while. Yeah, good idea? Oh, and he has yet to pick up the phone. But he doesn't get home until late, so I don't really expect a late night call. Then there's the thing were I'm suppose to be dating other guys, and not just setting my sights on this one. But I don't have anyone else to date. I got in touch with a old female friend today, to see if she wanted to hang out, but I got nothing. So I'm sitting here bored off my butt on a Saturday night, when I should be out, having fun. I'm 27 for crying out loud. Why am I home?? I should be out doing something. This sucks. Oh, I forgot to mention. We're on to Batman Forever (that's the third one right), as he managed to IM me today. I swore I put him on block before.
IcemanJB Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 Are you the type to enjoy a drink by yourself in the bar? If you are, that's awesome cuz I could never do that. If you're THAT bored, make the trek to Madison, and I'll grab a beer with you. All the college students are moving out, so the bars aren't packed with annoying freshmen anymore. And I can talk with that tone since I graduated yesterday lol. Do you have any other friends you could call up? Siblings?
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I hate going to the bar alone. I always get old creepy or young creepy.. well creepy guys hitting on me. LOL I was actually just in Madison last night getting my picture taken. I saw all the college students high tailing it out. No siblings. I tried talking to another friend, only to get nothing said back. Sigh. I even put myself back on a 'dating' site, only to get the pope, mullet man, Jesus, and the fat guy wearing a towel, shower cap, eating pizza while dancing and singing into a spatula.
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Most of my friends live in other states so I have a lot of nights by myself. I'm generally a loner but don't like to sit in my apartment all the time. Lately, I'll do things like stop in at a Starbucks where I can have a drink and stare out the window and nobody looks at ya funny. Or, I'll stop in at a non-couply type eating place and get something to eat. It can be very enlightening to be out and about by yourself. Try it sometime. You might like it. And ya never know who you might meet or run into.
missdependant Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Are you the type to enjoy a drink by yourself in the bar? If you are, that's awesome cuz I could never do that. If you're THAT bored, make the trek to Madison, and I'll grab a beer with you. All the college students are moving out, so the bars aren't packed with annoying freshmen anymore. And I can talk with that tone since I graduated yesterday lol. Do you have any other friends you could call up? Siblings? Do I smell moves being made here?
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I hate going to the bar alone. I always get old creepy or young creepy.. well creepy guys hitting on me. LOL I was actually just in Madison last night getting my picture taken. I saw all the college students high tailing it out. No siblings. I tried talking to another friend, only to get nothing said back. Sigh. I even put myself back on a 'dating' site, only to get the pope, mullet man, Jesus, and the fat guy wearing a towel, shower cap, eating pizza while dancing and singing into a spatula. Haha! you sound like me. Im going to the club alone. I dont have that many friends, but until 1130, im bored as hell. I feel your pain, youre not the only one sitting home on a Saturday. Dating site dont work for me, too many fake profiles. To be honest with you, that guy sounds like hes dating a few girls, and youre not one of the priority ones. Or you didnt give him a good enough impression to want to see you sooner. Maybe pull back a bit from him, dont answer his texts right away, make him think you are out not waiting for him. Games suck, but if you got no one else, might as well push it a lil bit.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Most of my friends live in other states so I have a lot of nights by myself. I'm generally a loner but don't like to sit in my apartment all the time. Lately, I'll do things like stop in at a Starbucks where I can have a drink and stare out the window and nobody looks at ya funny. Or, I'll stop in at a non-couply type eating place and get something to eat. It can be very enlightening to be out and about by yourself. Try it sometime. You might like it. And ya never know who you might meet or run into. I know, and I'm not opposed to doing things by myself, but that's what I've been doing except when I go out with D. Which isn't constantly, ya know, I'm on my own much more then I'd like. It doesn't have to be with him or a guy or anything. It's just too much alone time. I talked to someone about a charity type group, waiting to hear about that.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Haha! you sound like me. Im going to the club alone. I dont have that many friends, but until 1130, im bored as hell. I feel your pain, youre not the only one sitting home on a Saturday. Dating site dont work for me, too many fake profiles. To be honest with you, that guy sounds like hes dating a few girls, and youre not one of the priority ones. Or you didnt give him a good enough impression to want to see you sooner. Maybe pull back a bit from him, dont answer his texts right away, make him think you are out not waiting for him. Games suck, but if you got no one else, might as well push it a lil bit. You know, I was wondering if he's dating other girls. It's not really my place I guess to ask, but I'm very curious. Then again, the site we met on doesn't show him logged in recently very often. Is it wrong to find out if a guy your dating is dating other girls? I mean, things get steamy between us when we're together at times. I don't know.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 You know, I was wondering if he's dating other girls. It's not really my place I guess to ask, but I'm very curious. Then again, the site we met on doesn't show him logged in recently very often. Is it wrong to find out if a guy your dating is dating other girls? I mean, things get steamy between us when we're together at times. I don't know. Youre only seeing each other. Youre at the stage where both of you can be seeing other people until you see each other so often that someone has to say "are we exclusive?" youre not even close to that yet. Your instinct is probably right, and you dont like what its telling you. He might be, but its not your place to ask. If him seeing other girls makes a difference to you, you have grown too attached with not enough knowledge of the situation yet. You definitly ewant to back off a lil.
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I know, and I'm not opposed to doing things by myself, but that's what I've been doing except when I go out with D. Which isn't constantly, ya know, I'm on my own much more then I'd like. It doesn't have to be with him or a guy or anything. It's just too much alone time. I talked to someone about a charity type group, waiting to hear about that. I do understand completely. I wish I had more people to do things with, too. It's not that I don't enjoy my alone time but sometimes I'd like to be able to call someone up (guy, girl, whatever) and just meet for a drink or a movie. The thing is, at one point in my life I found myself spending way too much time with people I just don't really like all that much just so I wouldn't be alone. Don't wanna go there again. I'd rather just do things by myself than that. There's plenty of people out and about - it's all how you look at it.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Youre only seeing each other. Youre at the stage where both of you can be seeing other people until you see each other so often that someone has to say "are we exclusive?" youre not even close to that yet. Your instinct is probably right, and you dont like what its telling you. He might be, but its not your place to ask. If him seeing other girls makes a difference to you, you have grown too attached with not enough knowledge of the situation yet. You definitly ewant to back off a lil. I wouldn't be broken up about it if he was. But I can't help but to be curious. I'm curious about things by nature. And that he's told me that he hasn't made an effort to date since his last relationship. I guess I'm curious if that's really true, or if he's being honest. I suppose still some side effects from my last bf and his lies. I've always had a hard time at the stage of dating where I could date a few guys at once, it never works for me because I always am more partial to one. With that said though, I don't even have the option right now to find out if I'm more partial to him.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I do understand completely. I wish I had more people to do things with, too. It's not that I don't enjoy my alone time but sometimes I'd like to be able to call someone up (guy, girl, whatever) and just meet for a drink or a movie. The thing is, at one point in my life I found myself spending way too much time with people I just don't really like all that much just so I wouldn't be alone. Don't wanna go there again. I'd rather just do things by myself than that. There's plenty of people out and about - it's all how you look at it. I agree, it is how I look at it, and I mean I could easily go find a guy to hang out with, but no one that I care to involve myself with. During the week, work keeps me occupied, as I have a morning and afternoon shift. But the weekends just suck. I remember when I couldn't wait for the weekend
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I agree, it is how I look at it, and I mean I could easily go find a guy to hang out with, but no one that I care to involve myself with. During the week, work keeps me occupied, as I have a morning and afternoon shift. But the weekends just suck. I remember when I couldn't wait for the weekend Yeah, I do know what you mean. It's good though that you're not filling your time with some guy you don't really wanna hang out with just to not be alone. Truth be told, I do know people in the same city as me. With a little effort I could have more people to hang out with. I'd just rather not. And yet there are still times when I think I haven't actually spoken to another human being for too long.
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I wouldn't be broken up about it if he was. But I can't help but to be curious. I'm curious about things by nature. And that he's told me that he hasn't made an effort to date since his last relationship. I guess I'm curious if that's really true, or if he's being honest. I suppose still some side effects from my last bf and his lies. I've always had a hard time at the stage of dating where I could date a few guys at once, it never works for me because I always am more partial to one. With that said though, I don't even have the option right now to find out if I'm more partial to him. Oh man, suppose he is still a lil burned from his last relationship? he might not be ready to move on yet. I dont know about this one. It might not be the time yet for you two. Worse than that, if you ask him, you might chase him off. Just back off a lil, let him come to you. Tread lightly.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Yeah, I do know what you mean. It's good though that you're not filling your time with some guy you don't really wanna hang out with just to not be alone. Truth be told, I do know people in the same city as me. With a little effort I could have more people to hang out with. I'd just rather not. And yet there are still times when I think I haven't actually spoken to another human being for too long. Most of my old friends are 30-40 minutes away, which isn't really much, but yet it seems like a hike. And why even try when they don't really talk to me much anymore. I should try to make new friends, but it's hard for me. Oh man, suppose he is still a lil burned from his last relationship? he might not be ready to move on yet. I dont know about this one. It might not be the time yet for you two. Worse than that, if you ask him, you might chase him off. Just back off a lil, let him come to you. Tread lightly. Yeah, I've been thinking that too. I'm not all stalker, but when we started talking, I checked out his page on myspace. It seems like he has attempted dating since the last girl, but he says he hasn't really tried. It just looked like there were girls interested in him. Seriously, I wasn't trying to stalk. I was just checking him out to see what type of impression I could get from it. Like, he'd have "hopeful" then "frisky" then "depressed" ect ect for his status. There'd be a comment from a girl showing interest. I'm picky about who I meet. He's been very sweet towards me. He writes me when he gets done with work. Sometimes we chat. I don't know. I am taking it slow, and I know I can't ask yet about if he's seeing someone. I'm just so freaking curious. Someone shoot me lol
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Someone shoot me lol Haha! Ill get in line with you in front of that firing squad. Having no good friends sucks ass.
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Hey, I had an idea. It sounds like it's not so much that you need someone to entertain you as you want stimulation. At least that's how I get. I just don't wanna look at the same four walls sometimes. What if you adopted a project of some sort. Like pick a category of place you want to explore - for instance, lets say you really like pepperoni pizza. You could take it upon yourself to try every pepperoni pizza in your area, one each weekend. That's perhaps a lame example. But is there something you could get excited to explore? I mean, like I've said in previous posts, life is too short to not live your life. We can't control others but we can become more interesting people ourselves. What do you think?
missdependant Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Haha! Ill get in line with you in front of that firing squad. Having no good friends sucks ass. I agree.. I have a lot of friends, but no close friends. :-(
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Hey, I had an idea. It sounds like it's not so much that you need someone to entertain you as you want stimulation. At least that's how I get. I just don't wanna look at the same four walls sometimes. What if you adopted a project of some sort. Like pick a category of place you want to explore - for instance, lets say you really like pepperoni pizza. You could take it upon yourself to try every pepperoni pizza in your area, one each weekend. That's perhaps a lame example. But is there something you could get excited to explore? I mean, like I've said in previous posts, life is too short to not live your life. We can't control others but we can become more interesting people ourselves. What do you think? I write a lot. It helps me vent my thoughts, and ease up on them. I think that is why I like this forum so much. But that's a good idea so I'm not just cooped up, I'm actually getting out. Now I just have to find that thing I want to explore. How about martinis LOL jk.. that'll get me in trouble haha
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I agree.. I have a lot of friends, but no close friends. :-( Yeah, like there's plenty of people I talk to, but not people I can closely confide in.
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I write a lot. It helps me vent my thoughts, and ease up on them. I think that is why I like this forum so much. But that's a good idea so I'm not just cooped up, I'm actually getting out. Now I just have to find that thing I want to explore. How about martinis LOL jk.. that'll get me in trouble haha It could be anything you want!! ANYTHING. Just enjoy.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 It could be anything you want!! ANYTHING. Just enjoy. How about sex :laugh::laugh::laugh:
loveslife Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 How about sex :laugh::laugh::laugh: If that's what you wanna explore, then you're a free woman - go for it.
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 If that's what you wanna explore, then you're a free woman - go for it. Great, I can see it now, next weekend. I have to explore different sex around my area. Okay.. Birth control CHECK! Condoms CHECK! Warming Massage lotion CHECK! The day after pill CHECK! .... and incase something goes very wrong..... MACE.. CHECK!
Author dreamergrl Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Anyone else have an opinion on if I should or shouldn't ask if he's seeing any other girls. Or if I should just say, just get back to me when you decide you want to hang out. I'm not sure what to say to him any more.
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