totallyunsure Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 hey,i have been on a couple of dates with a woman and we get on pretty good-very touchy feely.but when we come to the end of the date we are both shy im not sure whether to take charge(initiating sex wise)or be respectful and wait till she takes charge.basically how many dates is it before you take it to that stage?i would prefer only women to answer as i dont want boastful guys coming on saying they score everytime on the first date!!!!!!!
Mahatma Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 hey,i have been on a couple of dates with a woman and we get on pretty good-very touchy feely.but when we come to the end of the date we are both shy im not sure whether to take charge(initiating sex wise)or be respectful and wait till she takes charge.basically how many dates is it before you take it to that stage?i would prefer only women to answer as i dont want boastful guys coming on saying they score everytime on the first date!!!!!!! Take your time.
JustLooking123 Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 Here's my opinion on the subject. There is no official timeline, as every person and relationship is different. That said, in the early stages, things should advance little-by-little on each date (roughly). For example, some "innocent" touching on date 1, a kiss on date 2, making out on date 3, etc. For this girl, sounds like it's time to move things to the next step, which would be some kissy-kissy. For the next date, can you arrange something at your home (e.g. cook her dinner, watch a movie or game if she's into sports). This will make it easier and more comfortable to make a move. Good luck!
missdependant Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 I waited about a month before hitting the sheets with the guy I'm with now. I don't remember exactly how long, but I waited a while. We kind of went in this order... held hands, kissed, made out, fooled around and eventually had sex. I know the sex waited until about a month.. at the beginning we saw each other twice in one week. Then we saw each other about three times a week from then on. It's hard to give a number of dates, because it depends on how much time you spend together on the dates, whether or not there's any deep conversation, etc. The only thing I'd strongly advise against is the first date.. second and third date are questionable. Everyone moves at their own pace, but I figured it would be best to wait it out in this case.. and I was right.
missdependant Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 Oh, and it wasn't really either of us taking charge.. we were pretty mutual. At this point I don't remember who made the first move; it was probably me.
carhill Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 So, when you embrace her and kiss her goodbye at the end of the date, how do you feel?
Mahatma Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 I waited 3 months with my current g/f for sex. This was mostly because she was a virgin. However, I have seen how successful we were by waiting before sex. It is important to build a solid base first I think. If I ever date another girl, I plan on waiting again. It will likely not be 3 months, but at least a month or so. Even after a month you hardly really know someone, but sex is fun.
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