mendsley Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 For the the last month I FINALLY was feeling better about my STBX wife and I splitting up until tonight. I called my son and was talking with him, I call just about every day, and he mentioned that he was staying over at his cousins house because his mom went to the clubs. Now, for some reason, I cannot get out of my head what the hell she can be doing. We seperated back in September of 08' after a 10 year marriage and this has been a rough road for me. I feel horrible right now, the sad thing is I know she has nothing for me but I still have this gimmer of hope that she will wake up and come back to me. We still talk a couple of times a week, but its mainly due to the fact that she needs some type of help. She blew the engine in her car and it's gonna cost $3000 to get it fixed and I told her I would pay for it, now I kinda wish I would not volunteered to help her. But I all ready told her I would help so I have to do it. Im not sure what my problem is but I cannot seem to get her out of my head, you would think that her leaving me for another guy would cause me to hate her guts? I'm trying to get out and do as many things as I can but it's $hit like this that causes a flare up....
TheBigCow Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 I think I know how you feel. Your situation must be a lot harder than mine was (I really feel for you ) but I went through something similar where I thought I was doing okay and then something made me crash back down. Although you feel like complete crap now, its my opinion that this is progress. You are now handling feelings that you'd pushed aside before.. so next time you pick yourself up this kind of thing won't tear you down in the same way. I really do feel for you and there isn't really anything that can be done to console that kind of hurt, but at least know that you are making progress in some way or other.
Author mendsley Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Thanks TheBigCow for the reply I really wish I can get over this crap. I am trying new things and trying to hang out with new people. I can feel myself trying to rush and find another woman. I know that would not be good so I am trying not to put myself in that position. Got to love the grieving process MIKE
TheBigCow Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Well I don't know. Its good to avoid rebound relationships and it would be silly to commit to anything at the moment but if you feel like casually dating then I reckon go for it. Its hard, but enjoy your freedom a little
boogieboy Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 You dont have to do a DAMN thing! let her new guy pay for her car. She split up with you, you dont owe her anything. You can say no!!!
TheBigCow Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Yeah COMPLETELY agree with boogieboy, just say you changed you mind, if you need to make an excuse then do, if you feel the need to throw the money away go buy something awesome for yourself
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