DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 [/url]Ok basics basics....I am the type of person who has read a few of dating books that emphasize on MEETING people you don't know that you can have a great first impression with. A book like dating to relating is something that I have read.......but it teach me how to get on dates with people I already know. Please give me the basics of this. I'm not obsessive...so tell me the way it is.
BobSacamento Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 Well do you normally do things with this person in a group? If so, I'd try getting a 1 on 1 meeting. That would be my main goal to start.
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 http://www.wikihow.com/Start-a-Relationship Well.....we do talk. Its a social gathering so....I don't know what we could really do. How about having some cards on hand ??
Mahatma Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 Spend some time off the "wikihow - how to start a relationship" and get out. You do not need to read relationship books in order to get a relationship. Just go out and do something you enjoy with the person and see where things go.
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 hehh.....mkay that should work. But what about flirting ? Isn't that important ? By the way any intimacy advice ? ( I mean social)
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 hmmmm......we have known each in 3 years as well......aquantinces (spelling wrong). We have like family parties....and my father is getting closer to hers. I don't know if that really means any thing, I'm just throwing out so you know that there is a family connection which is good right ? I also am friendly with her brothers and when they were over I tried to talk to them each specially.
carhill Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 That depends on your culture. What part of the world do you live in? In California, that post would sound like a one-way ticket to the friendzone....
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 How about the north east coast ? lol total opposite right ? I'm taking you live California.....I live in the shore region so maybe its similiar ???
carhill Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 A family connection is good in cultures where the family arranges courtship and marriage. Otherwise, I see the friendzone in your future The corollary is that it is only rarely that a girl will date a boy the family likes. Boring.
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 I forgot to mention that we have only had a rew of these get togethers. Also I said my dad was trying to get more close its not like we are seeing each every month.....Is there any remedy or any way I can prevent this ? Its not liek I have gone any romantic itimacy just yet, which is bad. Also I haven't seen her in awhile, only about since last week since I have seen her. We talk much on facebook though.
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 By the way, if there is any way out of this, I would like to make a romantic relationship....not a "all about sex" relationship, I geuss that would be a FWB.
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 16, 2009 Author Posted May 16, 2009 So ask her out on a date. Simple. That simple ? I don't think i have the best intimacy with her. But I'm trying to work on that. Um carhill i am making htis way complicated it seems by your response, but please tell me if I need any more advice on this. I mean I don't want to be turned down, but such is life. I just want to well prepared, I do want to be in a good relationship, i believe i know her well enough to at the very at least sat that.
carhill Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 If she's interested in you, she'll say yes. If not, no. Either way, you have good information. Love is long. Opportunities are many. Enjoy!
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 Well...is really that concrete ??? I mean maybe I could communicate in a certain way. I wouldn't think its presice I mean people change their minds about how they look at people all the time.
carhill Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Your brain and her brain work completely differently. Projecting your own processes onto her won't work. The healthy thing to do is what is right for you, for your process. If she's on the same page, she'll respond. The longer you wait and the more time you spend on this, the less likely of a positive outcome. That's been my experience.
Author DavidoffAndorra Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 Don't mean to sound immature, but I love the way she is and I try to be the man she wants. Alot of people say she is really attractive, but thats totally on the last of my list for her. I know you have alot more expierince than I do, but I don't have much of a character any way in my perspective. I do ask if there is anyone elese out there who could contribute, that it would be great.
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