SophieA Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Actually, ladies can answer too. I am just wondering...say you're away due to college or some great job opportunity...you're meeting all kinds of new people. There's a gorgeous girl/guy (or two) that flirts with you mercilessly. You think they're gorgeous, there's no denying it...you haven't seen your partner in months... what keeps you from having a one night stand? Your partner would probably never find out. **I am just interested in your responses...this is all hypothetical, please no one get fired up at me! LOL!
hoping2heal Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 One night of physical gratification by a very attractive person, isn't worth a life without my partner. I guess it could be different for others but for me, I think my bf is sexy BUT that's hardly the reason I'm so into him. If they never find out, the relationship would crash and burn out of guilt eventually anyway. It's just not worth it, and as for the "flirting mercilessly" if that's where it was going, I'd just distance myself from that person not because oh no, I might cheat if I don't, but because I know it would hurt my bf. It would hurt anyone's partner.
KikiW Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I agree with last poster. While it's a nice ego-boost to get flirted with by an attractive person, the point of being in a relationship is that you have a lot more than just physical attraction going for you... you have common interests, views on life (or even if you don't have all the same interests and view, you are kept intrigued by the discussions and "debates" you can have about them). If you wanted to just get laid by a hot guy/girl, then there's no point in being in a relationship. Wow, I can't fathom the pain I would cause my baby if I slept with someone else. Even if he never found out about it, I would never be able to live with myself. He's just way too important to betray like that.
Island Girl Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 I agree with the previous posters. Not only that, anytime a guy is flirting with me, etc. I am constantly reminded that they aren't him. He knows me so well, he knows how to talk to me, how to push all of my buttons including those that make me hot even across the 5600 miles. So there is never even a temptation. Some find it hard to believe but that is true. From the very beginning he was like no other. And that is true most of all in the bedroom. I would never throw all of that away for what would be mediocre sex with some guy. Even if he never found out I am quite sure my conscience ad my guilt would effect my behavior and he would pick up on that. And even if THAT didn't happen I would not be able to live with committing that level of betrayal in this relationship. It would eat me up inside and I would feel like I cheapened such a beautiful wonderful relationship. No way. No how.
Island Girl Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 BTW - I can answer for him as well. "No. I never do it. Why do I want just somebody when I have My One. Beside My Honey will kill me if she ever find out. And I can't hide from her." I just talked to him and that came straight from his mouth. I tried to explain that it was if I would never find out but he just kept saying, "I say no. Why do keep asking me this one when I already say my answer?!!" So there you go.
allyy Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 It's not even about "OMG If I do it I would feel soooo bad" or "If I ever cheat on my boyfriend I would feel so guilty, I wouldn't be able to continue on the relationship". It's just the fact that I love him so much no one is worth it. I don't even think about the possibility of hooking up with another guy. What can I say?.. *Sigh* I just love him so much.
Island Girl Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 There's a gorgeous girl/guy (or two) that flirts with you mercilessly. You think they're gorgeous, there's no denying it...you haven't seen your partner in months... BTW if the above happened it would be my responsibility to shut this guy down. If he doesn't know what "I'm married" means then I'd spell it out and bruise his ego in the process. He wouldn't go down this road again -- let's just put it that way.
LonelyTiger Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 A one night stand with some gorgeous guy would be great fun - it would also be emotionally unsatisfying and leave me feeling empty and lonely - been there done that! What I have with my husband is 'something else'! I have promised him that I will wait for him because he's my life. I want him and only him. Nobody else will do. Easy decision really.
Lovin a scrapper Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 Actually, ladies can answer too. I am just wondering...say you're away due to college or some great job opportunity...you're meeting all kinds of new people. There's a gorgeous girl/guy (or two) that flirts with you mercilessly. You think they're gorgeous, there's no denying it...you haven't seen your partner in months... what keeps you from having a one night stand? Your partner would probably never find out. **I am just interested in your responses...this is all hypothetical, please no one get fired up at me! LOL! Interesting post. There is not one woman on the face of the earth that is worth jeopardizing my relationship my fiancee, who by the way is the most amazing woman that has ever lived. No offense to any woman on here b ut its just how I feel. As I have stated before, she is my best friend, the love of my life and soulmate and I would not even consider any thing like that. I love and respect her far too much for something like that to happen no matter what.
Rollercoasterr Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 To me there isn't any reason in the world to give up the amazing man that I have. He completes me, body and soul. He is like the very air I breathe, and without him my life wouldn't be worth living. No one on earth could ever compare to him in ANY area for me, so a one night stand is forever out of the question. I would never even consider it. As for him, I copy/pasted the thread and asked him what he thought and I really wish I could remember what he said to post it, because it was the sweetest thing I've ever heard in my life. Just about brought me to tears. But I can assure you that he feels the exact same way that I do. He makes me believe in the concept of soul mates more every day.
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