Juno Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 ...send a text to just say Hi and and hope you are enjoying the summer? Help me...I feel so weak today. I want to reach out to him in a small way. It's been 3 weeks today of nc. All I really want is a "hi" in return.
webmuse Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 it's been 3 weeks.. if you cave now, you will be back at square one & feeling the initial pain.. don't cave!
playlislay Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Hun, dont do it! I did this-TWICE! The first time gave me a glimmer of hope as we were texting each other all night. 6/8 weeks later I had a traumatic time at home, studpidly text him just to say hi. He replied, we had another text conversation, which was fine. But when I tried to text him the next day-nothing. I sent an friendly email-nothing. I was slightly offended, angry and upset. Not too upset, but enough to hurt. He eventually replied but was being quite off, which caused more upset. I havent spoken to him since and I dont want to either. He has a new gf and I vowed to myself that I wouldnt contact him once he was taken. So it looks like Ive lost one of my best friends and best lovers. ( So yes, please dont do it, especially if he split with you.
Author Juno Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 Hun, dont do it! I did this-TWICE! The first time gave me a glimmer of hope as we were texting each other all night. 6/8 weeks later I had a traumatic time at home, studpidly text him just to say hi. He replied, we had another text conversation, which was fine. But when I tried to text him the next day-nothing. I sent an friendly email-nothing. I was slightly offended, angry and upset. Not too upset, but enough to hurt. He eventually replied but was being quite off, which caused more upset. I havent spoken to him since and I dont want to either. He has a new gf and I vowed to myself that I wouldnt contact him once he was taken. So it looks like Ive lost one of my best friends and best lovers. ( So yes, please dont do it, especially if he split with you. Thanks for the reply. I haven't text him....yet. Been fighting the urge all day. He can be so aloof sometimes (well most of the time), and I doubt if he will even reply. This may sound crazy, but I want to be kicked in the teeth one last time. I want to know if he is seeing someone now. Sort of like you...if I know he is taken, I will have no other choice but to move on and purge him from my conscience. Will does it always feel as your ex has happily moved on with a brite future while you remain in a holding pattern of sadness and despair?
robinincarolina Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 ...send a text to just say Hi and and hope you are enjoying the summer? Help me...I feel so weak today. I want to reach out to him in a small way. It's been 3 weeks today of nc. All I really want is a "hi" in return. I am on week 2. Don't do it. Wait it out. You don't want him to remember you as weak. He will probably contact you sooner or later. They usually do. When he does its up to you to replace the negative images with positive ones. It takes men time to sort through things. They avoid emotional issues. Don't put one on him. You can do this if I can. Its killing me too, but its the only way. Call a friend. Its like giving up smoking. You have to get through the cravings one at a time.
twicebitten Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Thanks for the reply. I haven't text him....yet. Been fighting the urge all day. He can be so aloof sometimes (well most of the time), and I doubt if he will even reply. This may sound crazy, but I want to be kicked in the teeth one last time. I want to know if he is seeing someone now. Sort of like you...if I know he is taken, I will have no other choice but to move on and purge him from my conscience. Will does it always feel as your ex has happily moved on with a brite future while you remain in a holding pattern of sadness and despair? YES, I think mOST of us feel this way (your LAST line) BUT there will come a time that you will NOT CARE!!! And PLEASE don't contact him ... I've been there (too often) with my last ex ... AND ... it caused me MUCH hope & MUCH pain!!! I truly believe that I'd be comp-letely healed by now, if I'd NOT contacted him & started the roller-coaster all over again ..UGH!!! DON'T DO IT GIRL!!! XO - Twicebitten
Lisalisa2 Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 Even if you do txt and get a reply, it won't make you feel any better. Don't do it.
Author Juno Posted May 17, 2009 Author Posted May 17, 2009 I was weak, and texted him. Initially he didn't reply, but later he did and what followed was completely unexpected. Please see my other post "what the heck". How could I ever love or care for this person.
playlislay Posted May 18, 2009 Posted May 18, 2009 First- What the hecK Juno? This man is weird.....seriously? Unless you said something to spur him on.....? ;OP Second - Told you so missy! No more texting!!!!!! I dont know what I would prefer? My ex not replying or him jerking off? lol! I would ask him straight out-did you send me those pics/vids to disgust me and make me stop texting you? A simple yes or no will do
lovelinefan Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Wow, I had this huge urge to text my ex something today, anything - I was searching for something to write - it was a moment of weakness... so I came here to help me stay strong, and I read this thread - thanks Of course, your situation would never apply to my ex, but hearing for the millionth time why it's best to not break NC gave me some much needed strength.
Author Juno Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 First- What the hecK Juno? This man is weird.....seriously? Unless you said something to spur him on.....? ;OP Second - Told you so missy! No more texting!!!!!! I dont know what I would prefer? My ex not replying or him jerking off? lol! I would ask him straight out-did you send me those pics/vids to disgust me and make me stop texting you? A simple yes or no will do I didn't not say anything to spur him on. The conversation went like this: him: I'm napping. me: you are always napping him: sent you a pic then BAM - big as can be, right there on my phone. then another pic, and another, and another. A total of 5 althogether. His final text to me was: Wow...enjoy the photos. I did. Gotta run. Bye. This is not normal behavior for a normal person, or for a person who is hurt, angry and trying to move on. This is bizarre. I am digusted, and traumatized that he can be so disrepectfully towards me. Yes you told me so. I should have listened.
boogieboy Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Nahh, keep texting him for your own benefit and not his. See how many other ways he can outright tell you to leave him alone. Now its just funny. Hes a funny guy!
wild trillium Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Wow. That is pretty disturbing.You can do way better than a guy who is willing to behave that way. Wow.
boogieboy Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 Juno the only text he wants to hear from you is "can we try again?" Wait until you are prepared to send that text to contact him.
Author Juno Posted May 19, 2009 Author Posted May 19, 2009 Juno the only text he wants to hear from you is "can we try again?" Wait until you are prepared to send that text to contact him. Nope...don't think he wants to hear from me "can we try again?" During our conversation, he asked why I wanted the item returned I left at his house. I light heartedly said, I prefer you not use with your new girlfriend. He replies: new girlfriendS
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