Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Hey guys, quick run through... Lived in Australia with my ex for 10 months and 2 months here in the u.k, got back to oz and she told me within a week she didn't love me the same anymore, i hung around for 3 weeks acting sad, i had nobody there.... It's been 3 months since and now i am on 16 days no contact, had to break it twice over money she owed me but its sorted now.. Everyday i wake up i'v started new hobbies, working out , bought a motorbike etc but it's still so hard because i love her and know even if she did miss me we live on other side of the world so we can't start from scratch. I have so many memories from my home now because she lived her for a while and we did lots here do you think i'd be running away from things if i moved city and got busy with a new job/new life etc? I'm still tryin to accept its over, i know she's dated a few people since me...i'v been through all the emotions , denial, anger, sadness, depression now i'm back to denial with a hint of regret. i don't know what to do as my next move with moving on
Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 you cant run away. You need to turn and face your pain. Dont bury it, it will only end in an endless loop of depresion/anger/resentment etc etc. Take all this advice by all means on here, but find your own path. what is it YOU think you should do?
Author Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 well i think i should be with my ex, but doesn't everyone going through heartbreak? i'm not planning on flying back to her to get rejected anytime soon though... having trouble finding work at the moment so i'm not busy enough and feel i need to meet new people i don't know
Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 99% of folks on here do...and 99% dont ever get back with them...why is this? Because they play games. Love aint no game bro.
Author Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 I've forgiven already but i don't need to keep telling her... I'm doing NC for me not for her, i get that its over from her side. I can't keep harassing her
Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 You need to forgive YOURSELF! Just do what it is that YOU want to do. It doesnt have to be harrasment to be friendly chit chat bro.
Author Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 everytime we've spoke since the split she is cold, mean, heartless and to be honest she makes me feel worthless so that's when i said enough is enough, specially if she's screwing other guys.
Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 All I can say bro, is BELIEVE IN YOURSELF. Your mind as a powerfull tool.
Author Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 the rest of the money my ex owed me hasnt gone into my bank account yet, should i send her a short text reminding her? she took ages last time... i would be breaking 2 weeks NC though... how should i word it?
Soul Bear Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 From your heart, with sencerity. Depends on what you are trying to tell her Mig?
Author Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 i just want to tell her i want my money back lol without seeming horrible nor nice. just neutral
Author Miguelrg Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 i just wrote 'just a reminder to transfer the other 445 asap'
LIMEstrike Posted May 19, 2009 Posted May 19, 2009 I've thought about this, and no you can't leave the place you had memories with her. If I went to barnes and noble everyday with my girlfriend, and we broke up, and I stopped going to barnes and noble, then barnes and noble is just a memory of my ex and I'll never think of barnes and noble as anything else. BUT if I continue to go to barnes and noble and face that direct memory head on, it will become a newer memory, and as time continues, barnes and noble will be just a bookstore again, with those memories under its carpet. I hope this makes sense.
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