bede86 Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 My ex and I broke up late february this year, been ages and i rarely think bout it...Untill i heard that she went to a mutual friends party thingy, i was invited but declined as i had plans, didnt realise she'd go...but we were in the same university course last year and i changed thus seperating myself from that crowd (who i never actually really felt apart of anyway) and just seeing facebook pics of her there at this function with people i use to hang out with really just upset me...towards the end of our relationship getting her to do anything was hard as she never had time but seeing her have fun with these people cut me deeper than when we broke up.......i guess i shouldnt think bout this.
scootncash Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I think what your feeling is very normal. If you really love someone those feelings dont turn off like a water faucet. Its quite normal to look at them now and think about the relationship you had with her. Healing takes a great amount of time. There really are no rights or wrongs to it. You cant change the past and your past is always there. The present belongs to you and you are the one who can choose what to do with it. I myself can look back at my ex after 3 years and those feelings have a tendency to surface but I still realize it was the past. I got past the pain and hurt and betrayl and forgave him. By doing so I allowed myself to heal. I will always carry a fondness for him. Yes I see him occassionally and we talk to each other but he is still with the girl he left me for and I look at that sometimes and I think I use to be the one with him but thats ok. It took a while before it stopped hurting to be able to get to where I am today. Thinking about this should be done. Its part of the healing process. Yes it hurts to know towards the end she didnt want to do anything fun but now she is. You should be doing fun things as well. You cant change the relationship and what happened. The only thing you can do is take the time for you. Give it time and accept what you feel. Your human and your hurting. It will pass it just takes a while but you will find yourself somewhere new and your new life will bring laughter and smiles once again. I wish you the best and hang in there, scootncash:)
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