nas Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 i am going to my bf´s daugther´s graduation. his ex will be there. how to be aloof without being rude? i don´t want to interact with this woman anymore than need be.
Ronni_W Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I'm guessing that you're not seeing your current relationship as a long-term thing? In which case, you don't even have to acknowledge your bf's daughter's mother...just totally ignore her. If, OTOH, you're expecting to be in his daughter's life for quite some time, then you'll score brownie points with her (and her dad) if YOU can stay above and outside of whatever crap is going on between him and his ex. That is, try to be the person who helps him to FORGET the crap instead of helping to keep thoughts about the crap alive. "Hello. Congratulations on <Daughter's> graduation. I think she is a lovely girl with a bright future ahead of her," ought to cover it in any event.
Author nas Posted May 18, 2009 Author Posted May 18, 2009 very good answer. my bf and i have been together 3 years. i went to the grad. i nodded smiled and said hello. she included me in her pictures i did not include her in mine. i wish i had posted this quicker and read your note sooner. i would have congratulated her too. all in all it went well i think.
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