mortensorchid Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Today I was on Facebook and sure enough, the man from the previous thread started by me was there. This time he IMed me after we had not spoken to each other in any way, shape or form since he canceled on me last Saturday. He asked how I was, I said I had just taken my last final that day, and I was going to take a nap. He asked what I was doing for the rest of the day, I said that tonight I'm driving to another city nearby to see a band from Detroit. I asked what he was doing, he said he was going to see his friend's band practice. I said I was going to take my afternoon nap and talk to him later. And that was that. He's not interested or has any intention of getting together with me, does he?
bitbyte Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Having not followed your thread.. My question would be that if he's not interested, why else would he be contacting you? Today I was on Facebook and sure enough, the man from the previous thread started by me was there. This time he IMed me after we had not spoken to each other in any way, shape or form since he canceled on me last Saturday. He asked how I was, I said I had just taken my last final that day, and I was going to take a nap. He asked what I was doing for the rest of the day, I said that tonight I'm driving to another city nearby to see a band from Detroit. I asked what he was doing, he said he was going to see his friend's band practice. I said I was going to take my afternoon nap and talk to him later. And that was that. He's not interested or has any intention of getting together with me, does he?
DarkestDreams Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I followed your thread. He might want to get together at some point, if he's bored enough.. that's probably why he's keeping you on the back burner. You need to let this one go, he's not interested in the way you want him to be interested.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 Yes, unfortunately. Oh well, back to the drawing board ...
loveslife Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Yes, unfortunately. Oh well, back to the drawing board ... I think you can turn this around as empowering for you. Try to think of the things you want in a man and in a relationship. Then measure him by those standards. If he falls short (which obviously he does) then you're the one making the decision this isn't for you. AND you can then get excited by the possibilities you're opening yourself up for.
DarkestDreams Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I think you can turn this around as empowering for you. Try to think of the things you want in a man and in a relationship. Then measure him by those standards. If he falls short (which obviously he does) then you're the one making the decision this isn't for you. AND you can then get excited by the possibilities you're opening yourself up for. I couldn't agree more. This is his loss, not yours! I had an amazing first date with this guy last week..He was simply gorgeous, has the career I'm going for in the long run and there was never a silent moment...the hours went by so fast! After a few bad dates, you can imagine how excited I was. Well, he didn't call afterwards. Granted, he never promised to, but if he was interested, he would have contacted me in some shape or form. I got a lame "How's it going" text 3 days later. I do want a relationship, but I want someone who's into me..and I do mean into me! Nothing less is going to cut it for me at this point and if I don't come across anyone, well that's fine as well, as I don't mind being single. You win some and you lose some. It's all in the game...and we all hate the game
Author mortensorchid Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 Absolutely LL and DD! It's his loss not mine. And too bad too. I also want a relationship with someone, but I'm not going for some loser who's just going to keep me on the back burner someplace. If he's interested he will contact me and say "Do you want to see me?" rather than some lame text or something here and there.
loveslife Posted May 16, 2009 Posted May 16, 2009 MO and DD, I think we can all solve our relationship problems by learning to trust ourselves, respect ourselves and not settle for anything less than someone who is totally into us. For me, I'm noticing that the times I ended up feeling like I blew it in a relationship are invariably the times I felt insecure in them. It would make me act all stupid. But then for some reason I would persist because it maybe somehow validated my feelings of insecurity. I don't know and I think it's less important to analyze these things and look to the past and more important to just know how we want to live today. And commit to that.
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