totallyunsure Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 hi, there is a girl i really like and we have flirted back and forth-but i know she has had loads of boyfriends and 'been with most of them'.now she is a stunning woman so guys will naturally go for her and she has been pregnant and has had a pretty tough family life.as a guy or girl what would you do and would it matter to you?
samspade Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 she has been pregnant and has had a pretty tough family life. These are red flags, as are her "loads" of boyfriends. It would matter to me, but it's up to you. I personally steer clear of women with major family issues, emotional problems, and the like. It's one thing for her to have had a lot of partners, but consider that the ones you actually know about are probably the tip of the iceberg. And if she is so cavalier about her reputation, what does this tell you about how she might view you? Perhaps she would be worth a fling to me, nothing more, based on the limited information you've given.
Chicago_Guy Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Yes, reputation does matter to most guys. Many guys might hook up with a woman with a well-known slutty reputation but wouldn't want to marry her.
Trialbyfire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 You sound pretty young OP. With this in mind, I'm guessing this girl is also under twenty or in her early twenties. It's less about reputation and more about historical relationship patterning. If she literally...blows...her way through men, she's having sex for all the wrong reasons, using it as an external validator. Also, having major family issues, can cause behavioural problems. If she doesn't know what functional love is, only what abusive "love" and drama are, how will she behave in a relationship with you? Well of course, she'll behave the only way she knows. This doesn't mean people can't change. It's just rare that someone so young has got the self-awareness to realize that change is necessary and the time/experience to know how to change in a beneficial way.
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 hi, there is a girl i really like and we have flirted back and forth-but i know she has had loads of boyfriends and 'been with most of them'.now she is a stunning woman so guys will naturally go for her and she has been pregnant and has had a pretty tough family life.as a guy or girl what would you do and would it matter to you? Reputation does matter... but put it in context. Sometimes people grow and learn, just keep in mind that most times they don't.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Reputation matters less and less with each passing year. I don't even care how many dicks my wife has sucked. As long as she's still sucking mine.
Star Gazer Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Reputation matters less and less with each passing year. I don't even care how many dicks my wife has sucked. As long as she's still sucking mine. I thought you said you're lucky if you get head once a year?
Author totallyunsure Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 the woman is 21 years old,boyfriends im sure have cheated on her and her mum and dad are seperated and never talk to each other.
spiracles Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 so she's the town bicycle? awesome! so long as there is nothing stuck to the seat...
Author totallyunsure Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 i wouldnt go as far as town bike but if i do what all the other guys do and treat her that way she will always have no belief how awesome she is and keep being used by idiots.any womens views would be great
spiracles Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 it is not your job to save her. she is the way she is, and you don't know that she even wants to change. attempting to save her will not end well for you - fair warning.
Untouchable_Fire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 i wouldnt go as far as town bike but if i do what all the other guys do and treat her that way she will always have no belief how awesome she is and keep being used by idiots.any womens views would be great Hey, I've tried that "Knight In Shining Armour" bit. It only works if she has already decided to be someone different. Don't be a schmuck and think you can fix someone. Either take her as she is or leave her be. It's your life, do what you want, but take it from a guy who has been there done that.
mortensorchid Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Well if you are just looking for a casual fling, there's nothing wrong with having a little friendship or whatever else. If you are looking for a relationship of any seriousness, ain't going to happen. There's a gal in town here we call Greyhound - "Here comes the bus! Everyone's been on!" She does have the occasion serious boyfriend here and there, but picks nothing but losers, cheats on them, violence is always questionable if and how it happens, and she is the biggest drunken mess around. Hopefully this is not who you are talking about, if she's just "popular" than you have nothing to worry about in that department. If she truly does have a reputation, then you better reconsider.
bitbyte Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Why do you want to be with her? Can you imagine being able to help take care of a family in the future with her? hi, there is a girl i really like and we have flirted back and forth-but i know she has had loads of boyfriends and 'been with most of them'.now she is a stunning woman so guys will naturally go for her and she has been pregnant and has had a pretty tough family life.as a guy or girl what would you do and would it matter to you?
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Don't try to be captain-save-a-ho. ahahahahahaha
jayOG Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Damn, what's up with not treating people as people. You know this girl is a human being right? ------------------------------------------ If you can handle the situation, then go for it. Don't fall for her, let her fall for you. She'll walk all over you if you fall for her based on what you've said. She could be a victim of rape or child abuse, which often leads to one extreme. In this case promiscuity. What would we do without heroes????????? Just keep in mind heroes have super powers. Good luck.
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