cadman Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 there's this incredible woman (different dept's) at work and after 3 lunch dates she told me she wants nothing more than friendship...we like to do alot of the same things and make each other laugh alot...since she has told me she only wants freindship, she emails or stops by or instant messages me 2 or 3 times a week....i can't get her out of my mind as she is so much what i am looking for...any chance this may ever develop into some more and if not how do i get over the fact that i finally found someone that interests me (as i am very picky) and she doesn't want a relationship out of it....
BCCA Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 If she came right out and told you she only wanted to be your friend, accept what she said and appreciate her honesty. This will never develope into a relationship. She feels guilty about it, so she kind of wants to make sure you dont hate her (hence the messages, stop bys, etc). Its very important to a lot of women to know that people dont hate them, while us guys could pretty much care less. Shes not the only woman in the world, and you will find another one. When you like someone and they dont feel the same way, you really just have to accept it and let it go. Her honesty was actually really mature, and you should be happy she told you sooner than later. Just keep your head up, and know that someone else will come along.
paddington bear Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I agree with BCCA - she's trying to prove that you can be friends, that she doesn't dislike you as a person, by keeping up the contact. Problem is, with seeing her every day and her sending you emails etc, she's gotten into your head and it will be hard to get her out of there. At least she told you upfront she just wants frienship, and believe you me, when someone tells you that, there is no way you're going to change their mind - I know you want her, and it seems like a challenge to 'get her'. But give up now, go down that road and you're heading for heartbreak city. As soon as is humanly possible start dating other women, get out there, she will cease to have as much significance for you and it will get her (somewhat) out of your head.
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