Hitting the Club Scene with your SO

[angie2443]

The OP and his girlfriend are around 19/20 years old (if I remember correctly). I think this needs to be taken into consideration when answering his posts.

 

OP, I think you are to young to have a steady girlfiend. Date around, have fun and give yourself and your girlfriend a chance to grow up.

[Hi.P.O'Crit]

O.K. I have to ask.

 

Most girls I've known like to dance. Several posters have stated NO to taking them to a club. In my area clubs are the only place you can go if you're girl wants to dance. And weddings and other functions where dancing takes place don't happen often enough.

 

So, where are you going to take your SO? Or, are you going to tell them no?

[donnamaybe]

O.K. I have to ask.

 

Most girls I've known like to dance. Several posters have stated NO to taking them to a club. In my area clubs are the only place you can go if you're girl wants to dance. And weddings and other functions where dancing takes place don't happen often enough.

 

So, where are you going to take your SO? Or, are you going to tell them no?

 

THANK YOU!

 

A previous poster said something about it being a place for single people to meet. That's not the only thing a club is for. Even when I'm in a relationship, such as I am now, I LOVE going out, whether it be with my man or my girlfriends. We have SUCH a good time dancing and laughing together. It's good to let the week's pent up energy out on a good night of dancing! And it's great exercise too!!!

[Hi.P.O'Crit]

The only time I actually like clubs are when I'm in a relationship. Otherwise it's too much of a meat market, as others already said.

 

Dammit, just noticed a typo in my last post.

 

EDIT: And I'd much rather my girl dance with me than some other guy. Why invite risky behavior?

[donnamaybe]

The only time I actually like clubs are when I'm in a relationship. Otherwise it's too much of a meat market' date=' as others already said.[/quote']

 

I know how to handle those guys.

 

And when I'm out without my man, I dance with my girlfriends. I do NOT slow dance with other guys when I'm in a relationship.

[mr.dream merchant]

Just want to avoid possible drama ya know? I can play it cool all night but some drunk skeemin ass dude can **** the whole night up. Its not that my shorty doesn't do anything about it, in fact, she handles it very well, she's used to it. But I just don't want to have to put one of the dudes we've both never met in check for moving in on my shorty when he knows she's hands off. All in all, I think I'm just expecting the worse and killing the mood. I know my shorty likes to dance but only with family/friends (distance in between them), or her boyfriend. Like I said before, I'm just gonna head out, enjoy myself and my GF, and let the good times roll.

[sxyNYCcpl]

MDM, I tend to agree with those saying you're making too big a deal out of it. First, your girl isn't responsible for others behaviors, second if she's truly loyal to you, at the end of the night she's going home with you, if she's not it's better to find that out sooner rather than later.

[Cherry Blossom 35]

Club+alcohol+testosterone+youth=trouble!

 

If she likes to dance, then she will want to go to the club. I'm not into the club scene, but when I want to dance, then this is where I will go. Everyone gets a little flirtations when they are dancing. After all, you're not doing the waltz, here.

 

It sounds like she's just having fun. She's not bending over for these guys, or kissing them or anything, is she? Then it's probably pretty innocent. If you see a guy hitting on your girl, politely cut in. If they are decent at all, they will turn around and leave.

 

If you make a big issue of this with your girl, she is going to get irritated with you. Unless there are other issues that make you think she will cheat, then I suggest you let it go.

[bitbyte]

If you're secure and confident enough it's never drama. A buddy of mine even okays his GF to get drinks from guys, then she takes it directly back to him. It's awesome. He takes the drink, sits back and smiles at the dude for the free drink. Also helps that he's a 6'3 Mixed Martial Artist. But it's all about the swagger.

 

 

Just want to avoid possible drama ya know? I can play it cool all night but some drunk skeemin ass dude can **** the whole night up. Its not that my shorty doesn't do anything about it, in fact, she handles it very well, she's used to it. But I just don't want to have to put one of the dudes we've both never met in check for moving in on my shorty when he knows she's hands off. All in all, I think I'm just expecting the worse and killing the mood. I know my shorty likes to dance but only with family/friends (distance in between them), or her boyfriend. Like I said before, I'm just gonna head out, enjoy myself and my GF, and let the good times roll.

[mr.dream merchant]

Not to get it mixed up but my GF does not have any kind of interaction with other guys besides me at the club. Not that I command it, she's just built that way.

[Enema]

I like clubbing with my wife.

 

I don't care if other guys hit on her. It's not like she's only with me until someone else shows interest.

 

What are you afraid of... your gf saying yes to an advance!?

[mr.dream merchant]

Just don't feel like dealing with the knuckleheads who don't take no for an answer.

[Jersey Shortie]

If you trust her, what's the problem? Let her have fun. Stop being so insecure. You're creating all this drama for no reason.

[Bells]

Heck, I figured once people started getting into relationships....they would tone down the club scene and find better things to do...I mean once in a while is fine. But she sounds like a party girl.

 

I can find some serious issues esp if you're not a clubber, and she is (though I'd have a problem dating a woman who always liked frequently clubs on a routine basis, because I know there are better things to do...>Dave and Busters, putt putt golf, the beach, camping, etc etc etc)

[bitbyte]

Just don't feel like dealing with the knuckleheads who don't take no for an answer.

 

No one actually has to say no. If she's getting hit on, and she's in your arms, no other words need to be said. In fact you should feel good that everyone's target is in your hands.

[Enema]

Let her go by herself if it causes this much drama and you don't even like clubbing. Sometimes what you don't know, can't hurt you.

 

If she doesn't come home, well... what did you really lose?

[westernxer]

Clubbing is a great way to end a relationship.

[missdependant]

If you trust her, what's the problem? Let her have fun. Stop being so insecure. You're creating all this drama for no reason.

 

 

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! This coming from the girl who doesn't want men to HAVE FUN watching porn and turning a thread about porn and strippers into one of the biggest drama fests I've ever seen on this forum!

 

ROFL!!!!!!

 

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[missdependant]

PS. Dream Merchant,

 

My boyfriend and I don't go to clubs.. but we go to raves which have sort of a similar atmosphere. We mostly go for music, but there are a lot of people on all sorts of psychedelic drugs. Ecstacy seems to be the main one among the kids at raves, which makes them feel invincible when it comes to hitting on people. Lots of girls hit on my bf, but I don't get upset about it.. these days it's flattering to know that I'm with such a hottie. ;-)

 

I used to get hit on a lot, and when I did I'd pull my boyfriend close and give him kisses or start dancing with him and turn whoever was hitting on me down..

 

I don't get hit on anymore being pregnant! Instead all of the druggies start rubbing my stomach and talking to it -_-

[Isolde]

It's one thing if she's a party girl, then that could be a legitimate problem/red flag/what have you. However, clubbing is just another thing to do, and I don't see why being in a relationship should preclude it.

 

It annoys me when people act like "I can't do ______ because OMG I'm in a relationship". Since when does being in a relationship constitute having some sort of disability that prevents you from doing the things you once did? Two people changing their lifestyles drastically for the sake of a relationship, doesn't make sense. It indicates there's not enough compatibility to begin with.

 

Dancing is probably just as much fun in a relationship as single, and there are different kinds of clubs, some less sleazy than others. Try a nice Irish pub that just happens to have a dance floor, vs. one of those tool magnet rave type clubs. Or something. Check out a different kind of venue, and it'll satisfy her urge to get out and drink and dance, without inviting unwanted attention from "knuckleheads".

 

Just my opinion.

[mr.dream merchant]

Well if its any kind of help, these are Hip Hop clubs that we hit up. The kind of people in there are cats who think their game is one in a million and they all think their swagger is so nice they can bag any chick, regardless of her status. I'm a calm collected dude, just not when its dealing with cats trying to bag my shorty when they know wussup. I mean it really makes me wanna grab a cat by the shirt collar and sneak him real nice. I almost did last time, but that was 5 months ago. It only got to the collar part, but my GF was too scared to go clubbing since because I'm "psycho". How the **** am I psycho cause I wanna beat a disrespectful dude's ass? Like I said before, I'm a calm and cool guy, I just hate being disrespected by other dumb ass cats who think they're superman. The same dude who I snatched up came up right to my chick and tried to put in work. I told him she was with me and he said "And who the **** are you?" I didn't even reply I just snatched lil buddy up and my GF's cousins separated us. **** like that really turns me off from the club scene. Then my GF and I got into a fight that same night because she said that I'm psycho and I ruin our nights out, that I don't know how to have fun with other people, I'm insecure. I don't get it. Was I supposed to smile in homeboy's face like a pussy? I was gonna **** duke's dental work up.

[Tony]

People come here for advice and comments, NOT LECTURES!!! If you can't be of positive assistance to an OP anywhere on this forum, simply don't post. If this thread continues with lectures and insults aimed at the OP, it will be closed. There's simply no point in publishing posts that are of no help whatsoever to the OP.

 

Many thanks in advance for your cooperation.

[missdependant]

Think what you'd like. :-)

 

I DO have a real job, and pull in good money. I wouldn't risk an awesome job, and my education just for some drugs.

 

I am just BARELY graduating from state and had a 3.8 GPA. Yes, I spent some of my free time going to concerts while in college.

 

Like I said, I've been to TWO concerts since becoming pregnant. One of which was a Flobots concert at a campus in Colorado, the other was a rave.. and I got the ticket for the rave as a gift before even finding out I was pregnant. I wasn't just going to trash a fifty dollar ticket. I don't stand in mosh pits or sit at the bar while I'm at concerts, and I am usually pretty far away from the dumb kids spinning glow sticks.

 

There is such a thing as having fun responsibly.