Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 I don't even want to have an actual relationship with him. Last week, he kept talking about how he wanted to take me out on Saturday night, and I was just thinking NO. I just want to have hot sex with him once... or twice... or maybe ten times. I know it's a bad idea, though. I have to have sex with someone soon, though, dammit! It's been A YEAR. I am dying over here!!
Art_Critic Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I am dying over here!! Just think about how he feels.. He is missing out on getting a taste of you and he doesn't even know it
carhill Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Roger that. 10 months and a whole pack of blue balls. I'm starting to feel like a virgin again. My only neighbors right now are goats. Poor goats
Art_Critic Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Roger that. 10 months and a whole pack of blue balls. I'm starting to feel like a virgin again. My only neighbors right now are goats. Poor goats Victim of DSB...................Deadly Sperm Buildup
carhill Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 I have old faithful on a regular schedule. One can hear the sperm screaming 'noooooooo'
boldjack Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Ruby, needless to say, you are sending him very mixed signals. You want his body, but have contempt for his mind. Imagine how he is feeling, if you can. I'm sure that you are a very hot woman, and I'm sure that he knows that you don't have very much respect for him. The turmoil must be terrible! You show him so much , then take it away. To be blunt, you are teasing him. If you have sex with him, it will end very badly. IMO. You should just leave him alone. Don't hang out with him anymore, don't flirt, find someone your "intellictual level", and get it on with him. I've been in his position, only the difference wasn't intellect, it was money. She was a rich kid. I was only good enough to ****, not to love.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 I know, Jack. I think it's going a little far to say I have contempt for his mind, though. I just know he's not on my level smartswise and ambitionwise. He lives life as if the best of it is behind him, even though he's only in his 40s. That is really sad. And he is not completely innocent in this situation. Many, many times I clearly communicated that I wanted the flirting to stop. He would cool it off for a few days, then go right back to very direct flirting. I even said it looked like we couldn't hang out, but he said no, no, he'd be on his best behavior, as the friendship was more important to him than something physical and fleeting. His first approach was for something serious. Then for a while, he tried for physical only. Once I made my own move for that to happen, he was just as fickle as I was, one day all for it and the next day full of doubt and talking serious again. He stopped by yesterday to say hi and chat about some neighborhood issues, totally platonic, so I don't think he has any hard feelings. The eyes say it all, though, from both of us. Two pairs of intensely blue and penetrating eyes. It's hard to look away. But yeah, I'm taking a few steps back from him. My whole weekend is booked up with plans, so I won't even be tempted to pass the time with him.
boldjack Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Ruby, I'm sure that you will do the right thing by him. It's very difficult when two people have different levels of feeling for each other. You seem to find him physically attractive, and mildly fun to "hang", with, and I think that he is much more "smitten", by you. I feel that he would make more of an effort to not get involved, but his heart is telling him otherwise. You need to be very careful, I think that he is already in love with you, and this can end very badly for both. You should return to being just neighbors, not friends or lovers. No more baked goods except on holidays, maybe, as long as you give stuff to other neighbors. No more hanging out on the porch, and getting stoned. Distance yourself from him.
boldjack Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 BTW Ruby, I think you know from my posts what I think of Elitism, snobbishness etc. You have said that he is not your intellectual equal, how do you know this? His intellect may be geared to a different area, than yours, but that does not imply inferiority. I think you are confusing Ambition with intellect. You know I say this without malice, just pointing it out.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 9, 2009 Author Posted September 9, 2009 You're right -- it's lifestyle more than smarts. He's definitely a lot more street-smart than I am (though I am not bad ). He has become my unofficial neighborhood protector, and when the other neighbor's friends hang out here and flirt with me (unwanted), he has subtle ways of pushing them away, which I love. We have talked about this -- at first, he said he wanted to intervene, but didn't want to step on my toes. I told him I appreciate it and he is always welcome to form a buffer between me and them, so now he does. They all seem to think we are somewhat of an item, but I don't mind because I am not interested in them and don't want them hitting on me. He doesn't seem to mind, either, and in fact seems to enjoy this role. I commented on it the other night, and he said, "No one's going to **** with you, Ruby. You've got protection all over the city." So sweet. I just don't see our lives mixing in any meaningful way. My friends and I are driven, hard-working, creative people who run our own businesses and look forward to futures of adventure and fun. He and his friends are mostly stoners and heavy drinkers who are fun to be around, but mostly sit around and bitch about the system, recounting memories of better days in the past. I am working toward many great things, and he is winding down from what he views as the peak of his life. Different places. He has basically given up on himself. I have only just begun.
northstar1 Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 You're right -- it's lifestyle more than smarts. He's definitely a lot more street-smart than I am (though I am not bad ). He has become my unofficial neighborhood protector, and when the other neighbor's friends hang out here and flirt with me (unwanted), he has subtle ways of pushing them away, which I love. We have talked about this -- at first, he said he wanted to intervene, but didn't want to step on my toes. I told him I appreciate it and he is always welcome to form a buffer between me and them, so now he does. They all seem to think we are somewhat of an item, but I don't mind because I am not interested in them and don't want them hitting on me. He doesn't seem to mind, either, and in fact seems to enjoy this role. I commented on it the other night, and he said, "No one's going to **** with you, Ruby. You've got protection all over the city." So sweet. I just don't see our lives mixing in any meaningful way. My friends and I are driven, hard-working, creative people who run our own businesses and look forward to futures of adventure and fun. He and his friends are mostly stoners and heavy drinkers who are fun to be around, but mostly sit around and bitch about the system, recounting memories of better days in the past. I am working toward many great things, and he is winding down from what he views as the peak of his life. Different places. He has basically given up on himself. I have only just begun. Why do I have this mental image of a ruggedly handsome good old boy in jeans and open collared plaid shirt, sitting on his porch strumming a guitar, drinking beer and smoking cigarettes and tipping his hat to you when you walk up the driveway saying "hello pretty little lady"
boldjack Posted September 9, 2009 Posted September 9, 2009 Well Ruby, money and power are vastly over-rated, as life style goals. I've had my share of both, and never found any more fulfilment, than I do farming or riding my horses, playing with my kids and grandkids,or having sex with my beautiful wife on a summer's night. You remind me, in many ways of my kids, wannabe world changers. It's good that you feel that way, I just hope that you don't forget that the world you want to change is a pretty nice place, as is. Be kind to this man, look elsewhere for your lovin, I hope it works out the way you want.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 OMG. We made out again tonight. We came *this* close to the whole enchilada. And when he left, he said, "Babe, I'm coming over again tomorrow -- but earlier." It's like the version of me that is writing in this thread is the angel on my shoulder, and the version that comes out to play when he's around is the devil in me. **** **** **** **** ****.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 Why do I have this mental image of a ruggedly handsome good old boy in jeans and open collared plaid shirt, sitting on his porch strumming a guitar, drinking beer and smoking cigarettes and tipping his hat to you when you walk up the driveway saying "hello pretty little lady" That's not far off. The other night he showed me pictures of himself when he was in his early 20s, in the army. And all the pictures from his teenage hippie days in the 70s, when I was just a kid. He's got that huge grin on his face in every one of them.
boldjack Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Jeez Ruby, he sounds like me!! If he shoots pool, plays poker, and rides bikes, he IS me!!:laugh:
Island Girl Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 OMG. We made out again tonight. We came *this* close to the whole enchilada. And when he left, he said, "Babe, I'm coming over again tomorrow -- but earlier." It's like the version of me that is writing in this thread is the angel on my shoulder, and the version that comes out to play when he's around is the devil in me. **** **** **** **** ****. See --- I don't get this RS. Here's a man who is attractive, sexy, great company, and you enjoy the same things. You can while away the hours in conversation and moonlight. You can be who you are and how you are with no pretense. That is a recipe for happiness RS. You can have a nice little checklist and keep looking it up and down - of course taking notice of what he isn't - instead of acknowledging what he IS. And how you feel when you are with him. So why are you so diametrically opposed to the idea of the two of you together??
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 IG, trust me, there are GOOD reasons. But I don't want to share them here because they are his business. One of them I am comfortable telling is that he has already had his kids, and has made it pretty clear that if he had more, it would only be to make his woman happy. I am pretty sure I want kids, and I wouldn't want to do that with someone who wasn't just as excited about it as I was, you know? Given that half of his income goes to his 3 kids for child support, and he has just begun putting one of them through an expensive med school, I doubt he could even afford to have more kids. He brought up the Saturday night date idea again, and I just had to change the subject. I think that tomorrow I am going to tell him I don't see a relationship in the cards for us, but I would like to discuss the possibility of just having sex. I want him bad, and it is clear the feeling is mutual. He once posed the same suggestion, so maybe he will be cool with it. Maybe not. Or maybe I'll change my mind entirely once I've had a minute to cool off. We'll see.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 Jeez Ruby, he sounds like me!! If he shoots pool, plays poker, and rides bikes, he IS me!!:laugh: Everything but the bike. He does love his sleek black sports car, though.
Island Girl Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 oooooooooooooooo girl I don't know how I'd be able to hold off. THAT kind of hot passion is what I live for! (Thankfully I married my ultimate) The kind of evening you have described (many many times here), some weed, some drinks, lots of laughing with good music thrown in -- ahh that is what my idea of heaven is!
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 God, I know. Just the kissing!!! Tonight we found ourselves in this steamy, lusty, half-clothed heap, just panting and dizzy. omg One thing that's REALLY hot about it is that though there's this raging inferno behind everything he does, I can tell that he's keeping himself in check as much as he can, to respect me and be a gentleman. Every now and then, though, he lets that tiger out to roar, and I'm just like WOAH. Take me now! OMG, if we do it, I just know it's going to be crrr-azy! I actually stopped smoking weed a couple of months ago, so I could kick up my drive and remove any dead weight, and it has totally worked. But he and other neighbor have the BEST stuff, so maybe this weekend we will have to twist some up, crank the sexy music, and go to town. *ahem*
Island Girl Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 God, I know. Just the kissing!!! Tonight we found ourselves in this steamy, lusty, half-clothed heap, just panting and dizzy. omg One thing that's REALLY hot about it is that though there's this raging inferno behind everything he does, I can tell that he's keeping himself in check as much as he can, to respect me and be a gentleman. Every now and then, though, he lets that tiger out to roar, and I'm just like WOAH. Take me now! OMG, if we do it, I just know it's going to be crrr-azy! I actually stopped smoking weed a couple of months ago, so I could kick up my drive and remove any dead weight, and it has totally worked. But he and other neighbor have the BEST stuff, so maybe this weekend we will have to twist some up, crank the sexy music, and go to town. *ahem* OH GAWD He's like that?????!!!!!! I am so the girl getting ravaged and taken and loving it!!! My my RS -- you are going to have a GREAT weekend if you go through with it!! Here's me ------> :sick::sick: <------------ ENVY
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 We might have to take this to PM. He's got this DEEP, gravelly voice, with a native CHICAGO ACCENT (I love it). "Dat's what I'm talkin' about!", "Oh, I'm just watchin' da Cubbies." And sometimes, all low and deep while we're kissing, he GROWLS at me. It's more like a purr-growl. Or he'll suddenly scoop me all up and maneuver me, and ****ing GROWL. OMG it's hot.
boldjack Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 Ruby, if you've ever heard anything I've ever said, hear me now!! I KNOW what is going to happen. You are going to f**k this guy , he is going to rock your world, then you will have a BF, that you are ashamed to be with around your artsy-intellectual friends. The moment you have sex, he will be your man. It doesn't matter what he says,this is how it will be. I know this Guy, I used to be him, other than college, I still am. Just remember, I warned you.
Island Girl Posted September 10, 2009 Posted September 10, 2009 We might have to take this to PM. He's got this DEEP, gravelly voice, with a native CHICAGO ACCENT (I love it). "Dat's what I'm talkin' about!", "Oh, I'm just watchin' da Cubbies." And sometimes, all low and deep while we're kissing, he GROWLS at me. It's more like a purr-growl. Or he'll suddenly scoop me all up and maneuver me, and ****ing GROWL. OMG it's hot. OMG OMG I am having flashbacks! My hubby has that really deep voice - also with an accent and I just LOVE when he flings me all over the bed like a rag doll - Once we were out in the rain and just as we got to the door, as I was fumbling with the keys, he pushed me up against the door and while he was gripping me (his whole body was pressed against me) his mouth was right next to my ear and he said really low and growly, "if you don't hurry up I'm taking you right here" and then "ate" my neck --- oooooooooooo so flippin' hot. DAMN.
Author Ruby Slippers Posted September 10, 2009 Author Posted September 10, 2009 that you are ashamed to be with around your artsy-intellectual friends. The man is a brute. He barely even has respectable table manners!!! Can't I just enjoy him? Who is losing out here? I get to have sex with him; he gets to have sex with me. What's the problem??!?!?! The moment you have sex, he will be your man. Well, ****ety **** ****! It doesn't matter what he says,this is how it will be. Oh, he has made his desires to be mine very clear. When he left, he told me he'll be thinking about me at work all day tomorrow. When other men come around and hit on me, he's like a quiet bodyguard. He always says, "Ruby, I'm not trying to be possessive." Tonight I told him, "Oh, yes, you are. And I think it's sexy as hell, honestly." That shut him right up. lol Just remember, I warned you. You're breakin' my heart, Jack! Just breakin' my big Texas heart.
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