Juno Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 ...I have absolutely nothing to say to him. Today marks 2.5 weeks since we last communicated. Seems longer. I can't under any circumstance contact him. It's better this way. He knows all to well how I feel about him and he knows he has the power to push/pull me at any time. I need to demonstrate to myself that he is not more important to me than myself, so no phone call, text, IM or email. I want to know...I need to know if he is seeing someone else. If so, that would be the nail in the coffin for any hopes of getting back together. Odd as it may seem, it will the the extra push I need to let him completely go. He was so great at "it" and so horrible at everything else. OK...just needed to voice my feelings as therapy to get me through the next moment in time.
keeping it moving Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Girl I know what you mean my guy of almost two years dumped me via email. Its already been two months of strictly no contact. I didnt even respond to his email. For what? No way was I giving him any satisfatction. I was told that the best response is no response. Do I have the urge to call him? No not really but just like you said there is absolutely nothing else left to say. Before had receiced the email I told him to decided what he wanted cuz he said he didn't know but I had found out that he had met some other chick so I told him either you are going to be with me or you are not but one thing for sure was that he wasnt going to with me and be with another chick. So basically that night I said everything I had to say. There was other stuff prior that I found out that he was doing nothing too incriminating but still very disrespectful towards the relationship that I had never brought to his attention but I decided to lay it all on the table that night even if it meant loosing him or him dumping me because either way he was going to know where I stood with dignity and self respect still intact. I know exactly how you feel trust me and even though it has been two months since the break up it still hurts but I find that if I keep myself busy I don't think about that person as much. One thing I have learned since previous relationship is when in a relationship never make that person your whole world never becomeing dependent on them rather keeping my sense of self and my own life and this is extremely important especially when things go sour in a relationship. Getting up and dusting yourself off and moving on after a harsh break up will be easier.
bluewolf17 Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 All I can say is... Hang in there. What keeps me from calling, is the fact that he hasn't called me. Guys will call if they want to. So knowing he must not want to hear from me, saves me from that dreaded phone call.
Author Juno Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 Thanks for the replies. I haven't yet reached the point where it gets easier. I so much wanted a life with him. Simple, with purpose and passionate. That sums up the relationship, yet we caused each other great frustration...ugh. We weren't each other's ideal mate, but what we had we held close to our hearts. I now know the mind games he played on me were more affective than my determination to resist his attraction. Part of me thinks he is using this NC as another game to see how long I can take it, how long before I crack and go running after him. That has always been my m.o. He seems to relish the attention and the ability to make me dance like a puppet on a string. I accepted his bad behavior because I wanted to be with him at all cost. It was I relinquishing control, not him controlling. My wake up call....only an idiot or a person weak in character would put up with being treated poorly. I am neither........ exhale.
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