nolanola Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 I guess petty isn't really the right word for it. I wish sometimes that I had better reasons for not contacting him - like that I've moved on and found someone new, but right now I don't. It's very hard and it's very hard for me to stand up to him and think about myself. I haven't contacted my ex in a long time. I told him that I wouldn't after he told me that he was seeing someone new. I just couldn't humiliate myself anymore. So far, I've stuck to that vow. BUT, he still texts me every few weeks (if I don't see him at work in that time). The longest I've gone without hearing anything from him is a month. Even though my resolve to not call has been strong, my resolve to not answer hasn't been as strong. The texts are not anything profound and he certainly hasn't made a big effort to win me back as his girlfriend. In fact, his last text said "You should call me sometime, I miss sharing". I should call him?! Grrrr.... Anyway, breaking it off with someone that has been so huge in your life is incredibly difficult. I don't have the answers for how to do it in the best way. All I can tell you is that I understand how you feel and how hard it is. Keep posting here when you feel like contacting her. Go for a run or put on a favorite funny movie. It really does help.
Phateless Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Oh I know. I've been screwed since I messed up. And if I do find a way around this, you can bet your a** that a book, or guide will be published. There's nothing to learn, you just do it. YOU control your own actions. Don't forget that. I've been through it too. Was with my ex for 5 years, lived with her one year. When I made the decision to go NC, it was immediate and all the way. I didn't slip up once. ALMOST did, but my friend yelled at me like I mentioned.
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