jennesis2 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Thank you so much to the readers who have helped me in my great time of transition! Now on to a new dilemma that I hoped you could help me with. In a nutshell, I have recently become "mom" to my boyfriend's three children- his two little girls (5 & 7), and his younger brother (15) who is his dependent after their mother's death two years ago. Anyhow, recently my boyfriend and I got full custody of the girls, as their mother who is a trainwreck just got incarcerated after her 2nd DUI and third assault charge, and violation of probation. She is an alcoholic and an absolute mess. We are thrilled to have the girls. It was a rough transition though, as my boyfriend's family lives an hour away from me and my work. I was having to commute every day to be with the girls afterschool every day because their father's work hours are 1-9pm. So we have decided to rent a place where I live. We are signing the lease today. We are letting the girls and the teen boy finish out their school year, which ends on June 5th, and then we are all moving. They shall re-enroll in school out here after the summer. The question is: What is the best way to break the news to both the children and the teen? I think the children will be fine, as they will be entering 1st and 3rd grade, but the teen? I don't know . . . he will be entering 11th grade in a brand new school. Thanks!
boldjack Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Jenn, your right about the little ones, they are young enough to adapt easily. The teen-ager will require some special care and an extra amount of love and guidance. Do you have any family near where you live? If he (teenager) already knows someone at the new school, it will be an easier transition. We took over custody of my nephew and because all of my own kids went to the local school, he always had someone to talk to and to introduce him to other kids.
sparklemama Posted May 17, 2009 Posted May 17, 2009 I agree with boldjack if you have friends or family who have children similar to his age that he can get to know it will help his transition to a new place and school.Luckily he will have all summer off to meet other kids his age and to get to know the new area.
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