Okfine Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I can't stand traveling. I don't even like leaving my state ... It shows.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Hahaha this board is like playing a game of telephone. Things get really distorted. Exactly. This thread is all over the place. It is amazing to see how each poster's fears and prejudices bubble to the surface immediately. Most merely skim what you actually wrote, see a few key words that incite a reaction, and emotionally react to those. I have only had ONE boyfriend who truly loved the adventurous, freedom-loving side of me. He would be in heaven with a gal like you.
boldjack Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Sorry... It's still storming, no farming tomorrow. You being a city girl.... the reference is probably wasted.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I live in a big city now, but I grew up in small-town Texas, and I know the song, along with "Ruby, Don't Take Your Love To Town". And yep, I still say "y'all".
Els Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Actually, the only one who swung all the way around to talking about how freedom-loving equates with sexually promiscuous is this guy: Most guys won't admit it, but the ideal wife is someone who only leaves the house when we tell her too. Meaning ... we want you all to ourselves because we're too insecure to handle you going out and possibly getting hit on by other guys. However, we also need our space and we want the ability to go out and have a good time. If you *really* want to please your man, even if it comes at the sake of your own sanity ... get a harmless hobby. Maybe an all-woman book club or a needlepoint class. Something that you do which is completely nonthreatening to him. Sort of like his poker night at "Daves House". It gets you out of his hair but he's not worried about whether or not you're making out with some strange on a nondescript dance floor. You each get your alone time but nobody feels threatened. Basically, a guy who says women should be boring so as not to make their man feel insecure, but men should go out and do their own thing at bars. I wouldn't put too much stock on his opinions if I were you, OP.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 The Turban? Yea, really funny Racist comment. Agreed. I can't stand traveling. I don't even like leaving my state ... It shows. And agreed.
paddington bear Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 OP, I sent my wife off on more adventures than I care to remember in the decade we've been together. Taught her as much as she could retain about traveling for cheap or free. Took her on mileage runs. Spur of the moment. Bla, bla. I like a woman who likes her space and me too. She liked more of the former When you find a compatible man, all this will become a non-issue. BTW, I was serious about beer in Frankfurt. Got the reservation held. Next Thursday. Berlin is better!!! Next time. By the way, I should stop posting on LS late at night, apologies to Isolde and the OP, whom I got confused with one another, hence a not making much sense post earlier in this thread
Author loveslife Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 Thanks so much you guys!! It's really great getting so much feedback since this really is something I've thought about a lot. I'm glad I'm getting back to what I really enjoy. Closing down this part of myself is kind of like dumbing yourself down so a guy doesn't feel threatened. As has been suggested, when I find the right guy it will be a non-issue. I am very heartened though to hear that there are men out there who appreciate a woman who enjoys adventure and freedom. Funny, I'm just remembering a conversation I had with someone years ago, when I was in my early 20s. She said when I found the right guy I wouldn't mind giving up my freedom. My feeling is it doesn't feel like giving up your freedom when it's right. She disagreed. To me, a part of freedom is knowing you have someone right there with you, someone you can count on and love. At the end of the day, I think it's all part of the same package.
carhill Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Berlin is better!!! Hello!! Train No cheap airfares to TXL right now. Frankfurt and Dusseldorf. I'm doing a promo run. When I find a woman who likes doing weird stuff like that, we'll have fun.... you're never too old.
Author loveslife Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 Hello!! Train No cheap airfares to TXL right now. Frankfurt and Dusseldorf. I'm doing a promo run. When I find a woman who likes doing weird stuff like that, we'll have fun.... you're never too old. What's a promo run?
carhill Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 What's a promo run? Double EQM promo on UA. Get another level of elite status plus enough miles for a free round trip from one trip. We have "do's" with fellow travelers all over the world. Think of it as LoveShack of the skies If you want more info, PM me, since this stuff is off-topic. They just lowered the fares to Australia last night. Can do that for 670 or so, starting July 1. Hmmm....
Phateless Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I'm finding that a part of me that has long been repressed is starting to come out again. At heart, I am very much adventurous and into my freedom. This doesn't mean I don't want a relationship though. One issue I've had in the past, which is why I think I suppressed this part of me, is that guys mistake not "needing" them with not wanting them. But maybe I've been with the wrong guys. Guess my question here is two-fold. Is there a way to make clear you want to be with someone even if you also want to be free to do your thing? And, are there guys who find it a turn-on when a woman can entertain herself so to speak, takes off and does thing spontaneously and on her own? Oh god I love it when a woman has her own life. I NEED time away just like you do. I think if you're with the right guys, they'll appreciate you for it.
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