hibiscus21 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 So I went to a club the other night and I met this guy at the end of the night and we danced together. He was a really sweet guy too. When we were leaving he asked me for my number so I gave it to him. He texted me saying it was nice to meet me and stuff like that. That next morning he texted me again. We talked for a little bit.but after awhile he started to just give me very short answers and would ask me questions in return. So I just left it. Later that night he texted me asking if I wanted to come hang out with him and his friends. I did, and this is where it got awkward. I was extremely tired that night, so I wasn't too talkative. He really wasn't interacting with me very much, his friends were more than he was. So that night wasn't too much fun, we sat aroumd drinking, honestly I think everyone was tired from the prev. night. His friends left and I stayed over at his house, all we did was make out. The next day we woke up and it still felt slighty awkward, not as much though. I left about an hour of waking up. That next morning he texted me to see how work was, so we talked a little there. Later that evening I asked how his day was and he just replied really in a short way, I asked another question and he never replied, its been a couple days since then and I haven't heard from him. So I'm just wondering what the heck happened, he seemed like he was interested in me. Should I text him again and see if he would wanna hang out or should I just leave him alone and move on?
xpaperxcutx Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I don't think you'll hear from him again. His interest has weaned, and you're no longer a challenge. You probably don't have much high hopes for him either. Chalk him up for a guy you merely met out one night.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 So anyone else have an opinion on this??
BCCA Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 A couple of things pop to mind... 1. Do you think that maybe when he invited you over to hang with his friends, it was with the hope that when they left, you guys might have sex? Did he invite you to stay over or did you decide that on your own? Just wondering if maybe he thought you were a tease. 2. Were you interested in him, or were you kind of like 'whatever' about the whole thing? I know Ive gone on dates where I was just thinking 'at least its something to do', and I think people can pick up on that. Let me know, and I'll give you a more detailed answer.
Isolde Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I'm left wondering why you went to this guy's house after a lukewarm evening. Overall, I get the feeling the physical chemistry between you guys is sorta there but there's no much of a click otherwise.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 A couple of things pop to mind... 1. Do you think that maybe when he invited you over to hang with his friends, it was with the hope that when they left, you guys might have sex? Did he invite you to stay over or did you decide that on your own? Just wondering if maybe he thought you were a tease. 2. Were you interested in him, or were you kind of like 'whatever' about the whole thing? I know Ive gone on dates where I was just thinking 'at least its something to do', and I think people can pick up on that. Let me know, and I'll give you a more detailed answer. 1. I decided to stay on my own, it was really late and we had been drinking and i didn't wanna drive, so i asked him if it was ok if i crashed there, and he said jokingly "sure, as long as you like to snuggle" 2. Honestly i think it was a whatever, its something to do that night. I knew that night i shouldn't have gone, just on the fact that i was sooo tired, so i knew i wasn't gonna be much fun. Lol so im not sure if that just ruined it or not. I was a little interested, but i think i should have waited to hang out with him another time.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 I'm left wondering why you went to this guy's house after a lukewarm evening. Overall, I get the feeling the physical chemistry between you guys is sorta there but there's no much of a click otherwise. I would definitely say there was a physical chemistry. I also got the feeling that we just weren't really clicking that night otherwise either, and i guess i'm wondering if that was because of the situation, both being really tired, or if it really just wasn't there.
BCCA Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I would definitely say there was a physical chemistry. I also got the feeling that we just weren't really clicking that night otherwise either, and i guess i'm wondering if that was because of the situation, both being really tired, or if it really just wasn't there. Chances are, it just wasnt there. I remember going on a date the day after being completely smashed. I was SUPER tired, and litterally puked like 20 minutes before the date. I wanted to cancel, but then didnt want to miss a chance, so I figured what the hell. It was a fantastic date! I felt much better, she gave me a bad time about being hung over, but in a playful way, and we had a lot of fun. Sounds to me like you find eachother attractive looking, but just dont connect on very many other levels.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 so should i not even contact him then, just leave it and move on?
BCCA Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 so should i not even contact him then, just leave it and move on? See if he contacts you, but you should not contact him again. I really think youre going to have to let this one go. Honestly, I wasted a lot of time on 'whatever' dates and people, and its really pointless.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 I love how this girl met "some guy" ... "late in the night at a club" and how he was "so sweet". My god some women are so stupid and easy. Oh and the reason this douche lost interest is because sitting around making out all night is the worst thing you could have done. Not only is the chase over and the element of intrigue gone (he got you in some way shape or form) but he didn't even get to hit it. That next morning must have been atrocious. He had to wake up with a hangover next to some chick with smeared makeup and last nights clothes yet he doesn't have a drunken lay to fall back on as a "it was worth it". Subconsciously, you're ruined to him. And there isn't even that "well, maybe I can hit it again some time" mindset to justify an ongoing relationship. If you want to see this guy again, you need to hope he hits a drought and gets really desperate. But to be honest ... I'd have to be in one hell of a rut to call "that one club girl who cock teased me a few months ago". Glen's official advice? Move on and don't look back. Chalk it up to a learning experience and don't ever again spend a drunken night with a guy you like unless you plan on ****ing.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 .....sitting around making out all night is the worst thing you could have done. ****ing. Why is this the worst thing i could have done?
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Why is this the worst thing i could have done? Because ... it obviously wasn't what HE was looking for. And its not like either of you got anything out of it. Who the **** sits around and "makes out" all night anyway? What are you, like 13? At least tell me you both took ecstasy because then it would at least make some sense. But seriously ... you probably walked away from that encounter thinking "Oh how sweet, we kissed all night ... how deep and meaningful". He walked away from it thinking "All night and I didn't even get a ****ing blowjob". You would have been better off not touching him at all. At least then he would have left wondering if you even liked him. Which would have guaranteed that he'd call.
czombie Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Why is this the worst thing i could have done? how much time did yall actually spend making out..? Making out for me gets boring really fast...I start making moves very quickly.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 how much time did yall actually spend making out..? Making out for me gets boring really fast...I start making moves very quickly. It was about 15 min or so. It was after we went to bed, we did a little more than make out, but we didn't have sex. He was the one who stopped it. He said he better stop and let me get some sleep.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 It was about 15 min or so. It was after we went to bed, we did a little more than make out, but we didn't have sex. He was the one who stopped it. He said he better stop and let me get some sleep. WTF? Do you have a 3rd nipple or some such **** that you're not telling us about?Any chance he likes dudes?
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 I guess thats what i don't understand, cause he seemed really into it. I was into it. I don't know what the hell happened.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 It could be a variety of things. He may have felt like a champ during the chase but when it came time to perform, maybe he became a bit intimidated. Any chance this is his first time? It could be that his buzz was wearing off and you weren't quite as hot as initially thought. Not trying to crap on you, just trying to figure this one out. Bizarre to say the least. I'm thinking he got nervous for some reason ... something that has to do with him being self conscious. Which would explain why he's a bit embarassed and not calling you back.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 it could be a possibility, he did seem a little new to it. I didn't go straight home with him from the club, it was the next night he invited me over, so he wasn't drunk when he saw me again, and that was the night we were doing stuff.
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 it could be a possibility, he did seem a little new to it. I didn't go straight home with him from the club, it was the next night he invited me over, so he wasn't drunk when he saw me again, and that was the night we were doing stuff. Are you decent looking? I mean ... you're not obese or wear an eye patch or anything, right? If he was sober then yeah ... he wasn't comfortable going any further for whatever reason. But it was likely on him. Something that he's self conscious about. Inability to perform, small penis, inexperience, maybe he just panicked a bit. Who knows ... but at the very least we managed to determine that its probably not your fault. Again, assuming you're normal looking.
Author hibiscus21 Posted May 14, 2009 Author Posted May 14, 2009 Yes, i think im decent looking, i've had a lot of guys tell me im hot, so i assume that im normal looking. So assuming that he did panic, should i just let this go? Should i try and talk to him?
Glenn Quagmire Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Yes, i think im decent looking, i've had a lot of guys tell me im hot, so i assume that im normal looking. So assuming that he did panic, should i just let this go? Should i try and talk to him? Well if he panicked and it was actually on him then calling him and playing it off like it was no big deal will go a long way in repairing things. At worst, it was really you all along and he;ll just keep ignoring you. Ant any rate, you have nothing to lose.
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