Art_Critic Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I would like to have a relationship with someone who gets out into the world and lives life, whose life does not completely revolve around work, who makes time for the things he likes to do. I'm going to find this kind of guy out in the world, not online. You really don't quite understand my point... My life doesn't all revolve around work.. but when I was single it did revolve around work, animals, caring for multiple homes, going to the cabin on the weekends for hiking, fishing etc.. and many other things.. Many of those things have responsibilities tied to them and you can't just put them down.. The point is that life gets in the way of finding time.. A few hours a week... hahahaha... Do you have a clue to how hard it is to find a few hours a week when you are busy living life... The young have plenty of time on their hands and have lives that don't revolve so much around things that keep them tied down.. You are young.. no ? Oh.. and by out in the world where do you mean ?
Art_Critic Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I would like to have a relationship with someone who gets out into the world and lives life, whose life does not completely revolve around work, who makes time for the things he likes to do. I'm going to find this kind of guy out in the world, not online. Can I ask you if you have found this guy ? if not then why not ? You do know that he exists in an online dating page out there.. You should live a little yourself.. try online dating... Not all people online are hermits losers you know..
donnamaybe Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Can I ask you if you have found this guy ? if not why not ? You do know that he exists in an online dating page.. not all people online are hermits losers you know.. You should live a little yourself.. try online dating... And since the guy who was found OFF line is now an ex, what's the harm, right? Obviously meeting that one in real life didn't work out, so...
Art_Critic Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 And since the guy who was found OFF line is now an ex, what's the harm, right? Obviously meeting that one in real life didn't work out, so... Good point DM...
boldjack Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Ruby, not everybody is as proactive as you. Don't you think the sites would be useful to maybe, shy people, for example?
paddington bear Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 You really don't quite understand my point... My life doesn't all revolve around work.. but when I was single it did revolve around work, animals, caring for multiple homes, going to the cabin on the weekends for hiking, fishing etc.. and many other things.. Many of those things have responsibilities tied to them and you can't just put them down.. The point is that life gets in the way of finding time.. A few hours a week... hahahaha... Do you have a clue to how hard it is to find a few hours a week when you are busy living life... The young have plenty of time on their hands and have lives that don't revolve so much around things that keep them tied down.. You are young.. no ? Oh.. and by out in the world where do you mean ? That, as I see it is also the problem, there are many people like Art Critic, off fishing by a lake somewhere, watching a dvd at home, having dinners at friends' houses and so on, that you never actually get to meet them, they have lives, just not lives that bring them into the circle of other single, new people - unless you happen to go to a wedding or funeral or something like that. Hence online dating would seem to make sense, however, for the reasons posted above, I don't really like it. I don't think everyone on there are losers. I joined one myself and I'm not a loser (I hope)...having said that, unfortunately, for me, I got nothing but very very odd men contacting me...like you wouldn't believe the strangeness. However, I do know a lot of normal, ordinary people who had no other means to meet someone who found their other half that way, but at the same time, it's just not for me...which leaves me kind of stuck as I'm not meeting available people 'in the real world' or using online dating....there must be a 3rd way...and I will find it, and when I do, share it with you all...yes, and pigs might fly. And that attraction at the onset is what gets a LOT of people in trouble because it clouds their judgement. Ha ha! Yeah well, this is true as well particularly when you add alcohol to the mix, which I always do, but at least you get a better sense of a person from the offset - there has to be some kind of attraction there, otherwise there's no point. I'd prefer to see or talk to someone and think 'oh he's nice' then date him, fall for him and then find out he's a complete idiot and I was ruled by my hormones than get all excited about meeting some guy who I've been emailing for weeks, feel I have a connection with only to find that we are totally incompatible and all that time emailing was just for nothing, at least with the clouded judgement you're learning something, having a new experience. My advice to anyone doing internet dating is to simply get the first date over and done with as quickly as possible. You either click or don't in person, whereas you can falsely click online or over the phone.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Ruby, not everybody is as proactive as you. Don't you think the sites would be useful to maybe, shy people, for example? I am inclined to be introverted, but I have trained myself to be more outgoing when I need to be. Of course I see the purpose and appeal of dating sites -- I was just explaining why they don't appeal to me. I can think of a dozen ways to get out into the world and meet people: play a sport socially, take a walk in the park or along the lake, volunteer, take a class, take a long weekend trip, do a marathon or 5K (even a walk), go to a jazz club, join a book discussion group -- these are just a few.
Isolde Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 The problem with that, RS, is that a lot of people don't get approached even when doing those kinds of activities, and/or don't meet people they are interested in. IMO, that's when online dating begins to seem like an option for some, even though it hasn't worked for me. Out of curiosity, are you willing to approach/ask out men?
burning 4 revenge Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Written by Lizzie. Oh, the irony. .............
burning 4 revenge Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 She said they are not physically attractive.. they look like they uneducated.. probably lack money (not sure about this one).. She's 55 but looks much younger.. and men her (my) age look way older than we do.. but then.. we (women in general) die our hair, take care of ourselves, our appearance. .etc. Men who dye their hair look terrible So do a lot of women for that matter Embrace the gray Lizzie....or white...
Ruby Slippers Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Out of curiosity, are you willing to approach/ask out men? No. In theory, I am fine with it and I think I would have no problem doing the approaching, but in the real world, I think it's a bad idea.
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