Star Gazer Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I never said I was brand new.. at least I'm not 'fake'... I'm not fake either sweetheart. Besides, I'd rather have implants than be used up. BTW - is that ALL you've got on me? My boobs? I mean, really. Your whole "fake" game is getting old. Old...ha, another joke.
boldjack Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I went to a dating site a couple of months back( marriage speed bump), and thought it had it's purposes. If a person is getting out of a LTR and hasn't been looking for a while, then a dating site would give them an idea of what kind of people are out there and a new perspective on finding someone else. Lizzie, Your posts tell volumes about your attitude . Using terms like "desperate", "damaged goods", "loser", and "baggage", tell more about your own lack of respect, than it does about those people who use these "convenience sites". If you approach people with an open mind and treat them with dignity, you will get a better result, whether on a "dating site", or at the shopping mall.
boldjack Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Ruby, I agree with most of what you say, and yes Dating sites are a "last 'resort" for most people. But don't you think that it can also be a first step, as well? After a divorce or break up, it's a way of getting your feet wet in the dating stream, without going in over your head, so to speak.
donnamaybe Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Using terms like "desperate", "damaged goods", "loser", and "baggage", tell more about your own lack of respect, than it does about those people who use these "convenience sites". If you approach people with an open mind and treat them with dignity, you will get a better result, whether on a "dating site", or at the shopping mall. And these supposed "damaged goods" are people over 40. LMFAO!!!! TOO FUNNY!
Art_Critic Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 If your life is not active enough that it enables you to come into contact with other single and potentially dateable people, you're probably in no shape to be dating anyway. Life has a way of taking over and when that happens the days of bars or partying and the like to meet people go by the waist side. You find yourself with more responsibility, bills, house payments, kids, whatever.. your day consists of work and life.. no time for finding single people.. The older you get your friends all go about their lives as well.. your friends slowly move away and get busy with life and then one day you find yourself without a ton of friends and only know coworkers.. What should someone do ?.. there isn't any more hours of the day free.. you go online.. Simple... that is the story of a huge clump of online daters.. When I was in my 20's and 30's I was working many hours and the only people I came into contact with most of the day were people from work.. and those people were either all married or employees and I don't mix work and social lives.. After my divorce to my first wife in my mid-late 30's I found myself unable to go out and find decent women anywhere.. Unless they were hanging out at my cabin in the mountains, which is where I spent my weekends.. Online Dating is a good thing.. many people have found the loves of thier lives that way.. I did.. I have a beautiful wife and a 14 month old son that wouldn't be in my life today if it wasn't for match.. Aging is guaranteed in life.. you cannot remain young forever, each and every young person gets older and even if we didn't need online dating when we were young we certainly are glad we used it when we got older That isn't to say that it is only for older people.. I'm just drawing from my experience which is from the older crowd.
yeex Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I would not categorize online dating as a last resort. It is more common these days than it used to be. I definitely do not rely only on dating sites to meet girls. That would only be an exercise in frustration. I meet women in real life and online. I have gone on dates with three different girls that i met online in the last year or so that were cool, just not my cup of tea for a long term relationship. Oh and I use the free ones like okcupid and plentyoffish. I have not used the paid sites. Not sure how those would compare.
alphamale Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 My best friend has been on those for years.. she dated a guy for a few years.. but now all she sees are 'losers'... she's getting depressed.. and IT IS kind of depressing.. by "losers" you mean not physically attractive or lacking money? or both?
Author Lizzie60 Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 by "losers" you mean not physically attractive or lacking money? or both? She said they are not physically attractive.. they look like they uneducated.. probably lack money (not sure about this one).. She's 55 but looks much younger.. and men her (my) age look way older than we do.. but then.. we (women in general) die our hair, take care of ourselves, our appearance. .etc.
mike1988 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 She said they are not physically attractive.. they look like they uneducated.. probably lack money (not sure about this one).. She's 55 but looks much younger.. and men her (my) age look way older than we do.. but then.. we (women in general) die our hair, take care of ourselves, our appearance. .etc. In person, women get along with me great, and always say how they think it's great I'll be in the Air Force making money and traveling, ect. But it's like...they aren't "interested". Online, I find it easier to find women who want to date. I'm only 20 yrs old, and I'm not even shipped out for my basic training yet nor do I have my uniform. Maybe this Summer, once I get to work in the Air Force, my luck will change.
Star Gazer Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 they look like they uneducated.. probably lack money (not sure about this one).. How does someone look uneducated?
boldjack Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Sg, Maybe they were wearing a "dunce", cap or something:D
donnamaybe Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 How does someone look uneducated? I'm not sure about looks, but one thing that makes someone appear uneducated, to me at least, is horrific spelling.
mike1988 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 How does someone look uneducated? Women know I'm a smart guy...and they also know I'm nice, tough, and pre-Military...I thought that would make me irresistible. "Women love smart guys" "Women love Military guys"...all BS if you look at my situation.
donnamaybe Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Women know I'm a smart guy...and they also know I'm nice, tough, and pre-Military...I thought that would make me irresistible. "Women love smart guys" "Women love Military guys"...all BS if you look at my situation. Maybe you just don't come across as confident. Who knows?
mike1988 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Maybe you just don't come across as confident. Who knows? But I do...it's crazy. I'm like...the perfect man on resume. Tall, decent looking, Military, guitar player, 20 yrs old, tough but nice...and then I see women dating shaved headed barflies...and it's like...what the hell?
Art_Critic Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 She said they are not physically attractive.. they look like they uneducated.. probably lack money (not sure about this one).. Money and education can't be determined by looks and even more by a picture in someone's online profile.. they are not even connected with one another.. You friend is really cutting out the big heart of the dating pool by judging people like that and the chances are she is throwing out almost all the rich, smart guys... By the sounds of it your friend isn't really showing any intelligence by choosing her men this way.. JMO
donnamaybe Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 But I do...it's crazy. I'm like...the perfect man on resume. Tall, decent looking, Military, guitar player, 20 yrs old, tough but nice...and then I see women dating shaved headed barflies...and it's like...what the hell? Maybe that's all they think they deserve. Don't dwell on 'em. I play guitar and three other instruments and sing. Too bad I'm taken and OLD ENOUGH TO BE YOUR MAMA!
Star Gazer Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I'm not sure about looks, but one thing that makes someone appear uneducated, to me at least, is horrific spelling. (Nevermind. Tony's watching. )
mike1988 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Maybe that's all they think they deserve. Don't dwell on 'em. I play guitar and three other instruments and sing. Too bad I'm taken and OLD ENOUGH TO BE YOUR MAMA! First time I ever had sex was two months ago today with a woman who had four sons, one only three years younger than me. LOL I figured if I can't ever have a girlfriend my own age or younger and I'll probably never have a wife or family, why not date women who atleast want sex, ya kno?
boldjack Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 This thread is in danger of being hijacked. I'm more interested in hearing Lizzie "diss", the "desperate losers, with baggage, who are damaged goods", using dating sites.:D
kizik Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 IIf your life is not active enough that it enables you to come into contact with other single and potentially dateable people, you're probably in no shape to be dating anyway. Totally! I'm not fake either sweetheart. Besides, I'd rather have implants than be used up. BTW - is that ALL you've got on me? My boobs? I mean, really. Your whole "fake" game is getting old. Old...ha, another joke. I LOVE catfights! This is getting HOT.
Ruby Slippers Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 What should someone do ?.. there isn't any more hours of the day free.. you go online.. Simple... Hey, if online dating works for you, more power to you. But I don't think it's my cup of tea. I think the no time excuse doesn't really hold water. I don't care who you are, you can set aside a few hours a week to do something social that you enjoy. Instead of browsing a dating site and sending out e-mails, you can use that time to go out and do something. I met one of my exes at a free swing dance class that I went to with a friend. I wasn't planning to meet anyone -- I was just out having fun. I would like to have a relationship with someone who gets out into the world and lives life, whose life does not completely revolve around work, who makes time for the things he likes to do. I'm going to find this kind of guy out in the world, not online.
paddington bear Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Ahem! Just to get back to the original topic for a moment. The problem with dating sites as I see it is that you see some pics of someone, get a few brief details, maybe you start to email each other, you start to bond with someone you've never met, this might go on for quite a while before (drumroll!) you decide to meet in person. You meet the other person, they don't really look like their pictures, or if they do, their voice is not like you imagined, they move their lips in a funny way and so on and on. Basically dating sites do everything backwards. You bond with an imaginary person, get your hopes up and inevitably most of these blind dates are going to be a disappointment. However, if you catch someone's eye in reality, at least there's an attraction there from the offset. The broader question is where in hell do you meet someone when you're no longer in college, when you've been stuck in the same workplace for 10 years with Dave from accounting with haliatosis and no new staff coming in, if all your friends are coupled up and they've no single friends available and when bars and clubs are full of 20 somethings???? It's really difficult.
donnamaybe Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 And that attraction at the onset is what gets a LOT of people in trouble because it clouds their judgement.
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