UWMbadger Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 So I met this girl in class and we had to work on a project that took all semester. We ended up hanging out; bars, a big college party on campus, etc. I finally ask her to ice cream and that seemed to go well; I mean we were talking for nearly two hours during the get together. A few days later, on a Wednesday, we are talking after class as she was going to get coffee, the conversation continues to the coffee shop so we go in and she buys me coffee (I purcahsed the ice cream). During the coffee she mentions having some people coming that weekend, still though I ask her to dinner that Friday and she says yes. The next day in class she mentions the people maybe coming Friday but it is 50-50. On Friday she lets me know that dinner will not work but that we would still study (in a group) on Saturday. I don't bring up the subject Saturday and I don't see her Sunday or Monday. We had the final and we speak afterwards, and we are both done tomorrow. I just generally ask what she'll be doing tomorrow and she mentions that she has to have dinner with someone but will go out later and to let me know if I go out. I guess I need to know if I should call her tomorrow about getting dinner on Thrusday; or if what happened last week was a blow-off and I should move on.
OverThinker Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I just generally ask what she'll be doing tomorrow and she mentions that she has to have dinner with someone but will go out later and to let me know if I go out. I don't understand the bold part but based on what you said I would call her
Author UWMbadger Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 Yeah, bad typing on my part. I asked her vaguely what she planned to do tomorrow since we were done and she mentions that she had to have dinner with someon but will go out later and that I should let her know if I go out.
OverThinker Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Call her tell her your Gonna go out with some friends or a friend or whatever but you would like to get together nextday weekend you get the idea. end phone call. Let her know you have a life and not just waiting around for her. Shes obviously playing a game of somekind playback. But GO OUT.
RcBunnys2 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 It didn't seem like a blow off at all, she just has a life of her own. I would keep at it, it looks like you have a chance. Just don't go at it too strong and you should be fine.
Author UWMbadger Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 Well, I called and her cell clicked. Not voicemail, just clicked--that can't be good. I guess I'll see if she calls me back soon; though it seems that the moment has passed. Thanks for the advice.
Rollercoasterr Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 After the click incident I probably wouldn't go after it anymore. Even if it didn't go to voicemail, it still rang. She knows you called. If she wants to talk, she'll call you back. Let her come after you since you've been the one going after her so far.
BCCA Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Honestly, I think you played it well, and did everything right, but some things just arent meant to be. Are you both going home for the summer soon, or are you going to still be around eachother? I've know plenty of people to steer clear of relationships/dating right before they leave, just so they dont have the burden of trying to maintain a LDR over summer break. I would have said go ahead and try giving her a call, but it seems you did, and she didnt answer. I wouldnt read too much into why she did that, I've accidentally done that plenty of time, but I also wouldnt call again. She knows you called, if she wants to call you back she will.
Author UWMbadger Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 She just called me back; this weekend is insane because of graduation but she said we should do dinner next week. Once again, thank you all for your insights.
BCCA Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 She just called me back; this weekend is insane because of graduation but she said we should do dinner next week. Once again, thank you all for your insights. Sounds good dude, good luck!
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