My ex broke my NC

[bluewolf17]

Long story short, my ex of 2.5 years (been broken up for 2 months) have been talking and going on dates for about a month. I started to realize he was just stringing me along, and after our last night Friday, I called him on it. I actually called him, and put everything on the line, told him that I wasn't interested in being friends, that I wanted to try again, that I loved him, and wanted it to work.

 

He told me the didn't want to be with me "right now". That we were in diffrent places(bs) and that he missed me, SOMETIMES. He basically was a jerk, and rushed me off the phone when I spilled my guts. I didn't beg, but I was honest and direct in my intentions. He told me we could talk about it later. I said no, no more games, no more strining me along. I told him don't bother calling, and hung up.

I was determined to go NC. I guess it's easier to do when they ARENT calling you.

 

He texted me today (I hate text's) and said "we can talk tonight".

 

I waited a few hours, then texted him back "Tony-After Friday night, you made things crystel clear. There is no need to beat a dead horse".

 

What do you think?

 

I think it's a good way to end it. I put it on the line, and he told me he didn't want the same thing. What's to talk about now, right?

[WhyYesThankYou]

Simple and elegant. I like it.

 

I hope he gets the message. Good on you, and good luck.

[Nuala83]

They all say the same things don't they. I need "space", I don't want to be with you "right now". It's complete and utter selfishness on their part and it suggests thay they indeed might want you again in the future but they want to keep their options open. You're damn right when you say he's stringing you along. He's offering you false hope and that's just cruel.

 

I think that text should be your last. It summed up perfectly that you were fed up and not gonna take any of his b***s**t any more.

 

Very very glad to hear you're gonna start NC. I don't know if you've done NC before but if you haven't, let me tell you it's horrible! I'm not gonna lie to you, I'm not gonna sugar coat it, it is reaaaaallly tough. I broke it the first time round and went right back to square one, thinking we could be mates but getting nothing in return. It was only when I called him to try and arrange to go out (I always called him after we broke up never the other way around) one day that everything suddenly made sense. He was so not bothered about meeting and so cold every time I showed a shred of emotion. So that phone call was the last.

 

I have no idea wether you and him can ever work it out and I'm not gonna tell you it's never possible because I simply don't know. But at this present time it's NOT. If you're anything like me you'll be worrying 'what if he finds someone else and forgets about me?' but I found out the hard way that it makes no difference if you stay in their life or not. If they're gonna find someone else, they're gonna find someone else. Eugh when I think of the time I wasted trying to force myself back into his life it just embarasses me. If anything, he just seemed to grow closer to the other girl.

 

Check out some of the NC threads on here. Personally I don't like the idea of telling them you're doing NC and I don't like the idea of deleting/blocking every tool for communication. Some of them (networking sites) yes. Some no. It aint easy to stick to it and it gets much tougher before it gets easier but it serves a useful purpose. You'll both be able to reflect, heal and get your sh*t together. I'm still hurting immensely but I'm not crying all the time anymore, I sleep better at night and I've started eating again. It's a step in the right direction for me and I'm sure it will be for you. GOOD LUCK!!!!

 

Oh yeah one more thing. At some point it's very likely that he'll want to contact you, especially once it's been a while and he's wondering where you've gone. If you do decide to respond (that's up to you), keep it very short. If he texts/emails to ask how you are/what you're up to a simple "everything's fine with me. Been kinda busy" or something to that effect should do. I wouldn't respond at all but every situation's different.