juliemanooli Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Ive been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. we text/talk via phone just about every day, and i've hung out with him like 2 times. (busy schedules this month) When he's with me, i get the vibe that he's really into me. But one of his good pals today asked him about it, and he didnt give him a straight respond. He said, "idk". Am i being paranoid..or do i get the feeling that he's playing me? or just wanting to use me as a hook up? or does he really not know whether or not he likes me? what I wanna know is, after a couple dates and 3 weeks of just talking, can you tell whether or not you like someone?
You'reasian Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Ive been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. we text/talk via phone just about every day, and i've hung out with him like 2 times. (busy schedules this month) When he's with me, i get the vibe that he's really into me. But one of his good pals today asked him about it, and he didnt give him a straight respond. He said, "idk". Am i being paranoid..or do i get the feeling that he's playing me? or just wanting to use me as a hook up? or does he really not know whether or not he likes me? what I wanna know is, after a couple dates and 3 weeks of just talking, can you tell whether or not you like someone? Best way to find out is to talk to him face to face next time you see him and ask him. Good luck
BCCA Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Well, guys arent usually going to talk up a relationship, especially after 3 weeks. Truth be told, I'm not really trying to listen to other guys tell me the ins and outs of the person theyre dating. Thats a pretty typical response. He also has no idea how you feel. So, he doesnt want to tell everyone about this great girl hes been seeing, and then the next time they ask, he has to tell them how you dissapeared/told him off/etc. And if he just wanted a hook up, all your interactions would involve going to his house and/or drinking. How do you know what he told his good pal? Is this guy feeding info back to you?
IcemanJB Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Ive been talking to this guy for about 3 weeks. we text/talk via phone just about every day, and i've hung out with him like 2 times. (busy schedules this month) When he's with me, i get the vibe that he's really into me. But one of his good pals today asked him about it, and he didnt give him a straight respond. He said, "idk". Sometimes we aren't going to say anything about it, even to our close buddies. I'd be more willing to talk about it if I were sure things were going well for awhile. Am i being paranoid..or do i get the feeling that he's playing me? or just wanting to use me as a hook up? or does he really not know whether or not he likes me? what I wanna know is, after a couple dates and 3 weeks of just talking, can you tell whether or not you like someone? I make this sort of decision pretty quickly after meeting a girl. I remember one I knew I liked her after the day we met; we didn't even start dating for about 7 months after that, but I knew something was there. You could try talking to him if you're really worried. Honestly though, until he starts ignoring you, it's probably not a big deal.
Author juliemanooli Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 His guy pal happens to be like one of my good friends who i've known before I met Derek. (the dude in my story)
BCCA Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 His guy pal happens to be like one of my good friends who i've known before I met Derek. (the dude in my story) So...he's kind of selling his friend out to get close to the friend of yours he likes, is that about right? Seriously, thats not right. He shouldnt be giving you info like this, its not even helping you at all anyway, and its a betrayal of his friends trust.
Author juliemanooli Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 well, he kinda didnt really rat him out.. i dont think? This is exactly what his friend said, "yea derek is making me really mad because he's not giving me a straight answer. He's just like.. yea idk if I like julie" Is he trying to make derek look bad? maybe he's just looking out for me.
Mahatma Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 well, he kinda didnt really rat him out.. i dont think? This is exactly what his friend said, "yea derek is making me really mad because he's not giving me a straight answer. He's just like.. yea idk if I like julie" Is he trying to make derek look bad? maybe he's just looking out for me. Your friend could like you too. Never trust anyone else but the person.
BCCA Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Is he trying to make derek look bad? maybe he's just looking out for me. I'm always leery of people offering me info like this. I think this other guy likes you, or at the very least, wants you to relay positive info back to your friend he likes.
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