Sam Spade Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 22 Year old guys are pretty wishy-washy... They'll give up a booty call to hang with their buddies... I absolutely would not let him come over if he contacts you last minute. Tell him you have made plans! "Bros before hos!" Sorry, couldn't resist :p! On a more general note, now that I'm finally a bit older (and cooler) I honestly believe that the NSA stuff, while marvelous in theory, is more trouble than it's worth (sooner or later).
xpaperxcutx Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Sorry to threadjack, but could someone please clarify NSA and FWB for me. I thought they were the same thing?
Lovelybird Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I think you are just not being HONEST, with yourself If you want to be treated as more than a booty call, then stop what you are doing, stop cheating yourself with it-is-just-sex-attitude I don't see you like to be treated as booty call, so stop the game yourself. The sex is never that simple. Sex ties to your soul and spirit. You cannot control others, but you can control yourself
Lindarose84 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Sorry to threadjack, but could someone please clarify NSA and FWB for me. I thought they were the same thing? As I understand it (and someone correct me if I'm wrong), NSA is more of an infrequent thing- i.e. you can just meet some guy online and decide you two aren't looking for more than just hooking up that night and maybe a few other nights and that's it- you go your separate ways. FWB is someone you've actually formed a friendship with and maybe one drunken night, it went too far (or maybe one sober night you guys were just randy and it was convenient) and you guys hooked up and decided it would be best not to elevate this to a relationship for fear of ruining the friendship, but you would still like to continue the hookups while you guys are single and looking for more serious prospects. HTH
carhill Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Yep, friendship is a "string", where the person is valued as a friend, without the emotional involvement and expectations of a relationship. "No strings" means the person has no value nor expectations beyond the moment. They do not occupy emotional or thought space whatsoever. Think about people you "know" but do not "think about" in any meaningful way. They exist and you are politely indifferent to them. Once out of contact, they fade into the background until the next random meeting.
Author RedSoxGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 Wow! I didn't expect so many responses.. He ended up texting me yesterday, after I posted this. Just saying "hey, whats going on" he already knows I work in the afternoon, so I just told him I was working. Than I didn't hear another word from him yesterday. I still think a simple yes or no to my invite would have been nice. I don't see why courtesy gets thrown out the window, just because I'm not "dating" him.
Trialbyfire Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Wow! I didn't expect so many responses.. He ended up texting me yesterday, after I posted this. Just saying "hey, whats going on" he already knows I work in the afternoon, so I just told him I was working. Than I didn't hear another word from him yesterday. I still think a simple yes or no to my invite would have been nice. I don't see why courtesy gets thrown out the window, just because I'm not "dating" him.You didn't answer my question about how long it took YOU to respond to his original text.
Author RedSoxGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 You didn't answer my question about how long it took YOU to respond to his original text. Oh he texted me asking "when are you up for round 2?" on Monday at like 4:00, I responded at 7. I had a work meeting until 6:30...
xpaperxcutx Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Wow! I didn't expect so many responses.. He ended up texting me yesterday, after I posted this. Just saying "hey, whats going on" he already knows I work in the afternoon, so I just told him I was working. Than I didn't hear another word from him yesterday. I still think a simple yes or no to my invite would have been nice. I don't see why courtesy gets thrown out the window, just because I'm not "dating" him. i think you can put him in the drawer that says " one night stands". He's standoffish, and slow. You can easily go out to the bar and get a date without having to wait for him to respond to you.
Author RedSoxGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 i think you can put him in the drawer that says " one night stands". He's standoffish, and slow. You can easily go out to the bar and get a date without having to wait for him to respond to you. I was thinking he may even have a girlfriend. Even though he told me he didn't.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 I was thinking he may even have a girlfriend. Even though he told me he didn't. And you believed him?
Author RedSoxGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 And you believed him? Well, until a person gives me a reason to doubt them, I do try to trust what I'm being told is the truth.
JeezLouise Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Oh he texted me asking "when are you up for round 2?" on Monday at like 4:00, I responded at 7. I had a work meeting until 6:30... Maybe he was in a work meeting, too. It took you 3 hours to respond to his text about hooking up again, so maybe something else came up on his end?
Author RedSoxGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 Maybe he was in a work meeting, too. It took you 3 hours to respond to his text about hooking up again, so maybe something else came up on his end? This was another night I invited him over, so I don't think that matters so much. And him having other plans is fine, it was just that he never had the decency to answer.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 This was another night I invited him over, so I don't think that matters so much. And him having other plans is fine, it was just that he never had the decency to answer. You said he was 22 right? I'm 19, and I always have my phone with me unless it runs out of battery. I mean even at 22, I'm certain people keep their phones on themselves at all times in case someone calls. So it's only reasonable that he had gotten your message, read it, but choose not to reply.
Author RedSoxGirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 You said he was 22 right? I'm 19, and I always have my phone with me unless it runs out of battery. I mean even at 22, I'm certain people keep their phones on themselves at all times in case someone calls. So it's only reasonable that he had gotten your message, read it, but choose not to reply. Ok. Than he shouldn't have initiated getting together again.
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