Woggle Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 When you look at the drama this causes wouldn't it have been better to just date a single woman? With all the women out there why would you go for a married woman willing to put her family through hell for some cheap emotional high? In the end was this really worth it?
Author stampdaddy Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 When you look at the drama this causes wouldn't it have been better to just date a single woman? With all the women out there why would you go for a married woman willing to put her family through hell for some cheap emotional high? In the end was this really worth it? uhhhhh, hind sight is 20/20... of course it wasnt worth it.. and I wouldnt call it a "cheap emotional high", as I was fully emotionally invested.
Woggle Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 uhhhhh, hind sight is 20/20... of course it wasnt worth it.. and I wouldnt call it a "cheap emotional high", as I was fully emotionally invested. I am not saying you but women like her have affairs for these reasons. They are like emotional drug addicts and they don't care who they hurt to get that rush. Next time around I suggest you find a normal and sane single woman. They do exist.
Author stampdaddy Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 I am not saying you but women like her have affairs for these reasons. They are like emotional drug addicts and they don't care who they hurt to get that rush. Next time around I suggest you find a normal and sane single woman. They do exist. Ima lookin... I am not worried about that.. I will be OK.. NEVER go down this road again I can tell ya
MizzBlue72 Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 uhhhhh, hind sight is 20/20... of course it wasnt worth it.. and I wouldnt call it a "cheap emotional high", as I was fully emotionally invested. I know how the emotionally invested is. Sorry about that. It hurts like a bitch. My problem was that the emotional part took such a large toll on me. Sometimes it's just not worth it. But you have come such a long way ....
Tired03 Posted May 14, 2009 Posted May 14, 2009 Did I miss what actually happened in all of this? *confused*
Author stampdaddy Posted May 15, 2009 Author Posted May 15, 2009 Did I miss what actually happened in all of this? *confused* NOTHING actually happened, until H decided to divorce her. The whole thing is a mess. I am struggling with what I "used" to see and feel and have purpose for, with NOW, seeing ugly, a mess, no future, no purpose with her. Sure, I love her, but NO, I am not in love with her anymore because I can't be, I turned it off a while back when I didnt want the "affair" anymore. She hasnt done ANYTHING right and still doesnt. I dont want to "mourn", because I would be mourning an affair. But, it does hurt, that is for sure. I sure never would have imagined "this" is what EVERYBODY gets in the end... I have decided today to completely turn it off. I will not be here for her when this mess ends for her (or begins). I am OK with this decision for the first time ever.
Owl Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Glad to hear it, Stamp. This really is the only way I truly see you "healing" from all of this. Leaving the door open for her left your heart open for her as well. How can you heal when this is the case? Hang in there man...
Reggie Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 uhhhhh, hind sight is 20/20... of course it wasnt worth it.. and I wouldnt call it a "cheap emotional high", as I was fully emotionally invested. Stamp, healthy people with integrity can see this without using hindsight. I suspect you knew it was wrong but went ahead, anyway, as we often do in life. You must admit it is deviant behavior, eh? So, just don't do it again and stay away.
NoIDidn't Posted May 15, 2009 Posted May 15, 2009 Keep on trucking Stamp...and keep your paperclips to yourself thank you very much LOL ... would it shock you to learn that we once had a priest who collected string? I've heard stories about the huge ball o'yarn, but have never seen it the excess stuff doesn't sound unusual in and of itself, and I imagine by this point, the reasons he had for starting the collecting have morphed/changed, and it gets passed on to whoever needs it. though I am worried that you didn't post toilet paper among the collection. Dude, think back to your college days! Gotta stock-pile the stuff otherwise you're sneaking into the biology building with an empty backpack and hoping that the cleaning crew doesn't bust you helping yourself to extra rolls of paper ... lack of TP = stanky stanky person LOL, I thought the same after Stamps explanation of what the stuff was. Its stuff that can easily be "regifted" or "repurposed". And just tossed into an empty room that not being used yet. I get that. LOL. I think everyone needs to step back and take a couple of deep breaths. LOL (((SD)))
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