pandagirl Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 It seem this guy will not go away. After not hearing from him for 2-3 months, he dropped me an email this week telling me about his life and saying he wanted to hang out. As far as I know, he still is with his girlfriend. We've tried so many time to be "Friends," and each time it hasn't worked out. Why would a guy do this? It's been so long since we dated, and our "relationship" was very short-lived. I don't get it.
scootncash Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 It seems that some guys will find someone and chase them to the end of the earth and then turn around and ask do you think there is someone better? Could be this guys situation. Or it could be simply that he needs to reconnect ever not so often just to see if he can still inch a way in. If he still has the girlfriend and he's still occassionally contacting you then I would think he's just checking to see if he still has a foot in the door. Some guys really get into the FWB theme and if they find an open invitation well lets just say let the cake eating begin. This could also be a move he's into. Not knowing more of the situation that would be my take. If he is still with someone and contacting you via email to "hang out" then he certainly isnt being respectful of the girlfriend. Which in turn leads to he isnt respecting you either. Not to sure thats the kind of guy I would want to hang out with muchless reak some havac into my life.
Trialbyfire Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Yup, been there pandagirl. This guy is looking for an ego stroke since he's probably between crushes and feeling a little lonely. Don't be his emotional tampon.
carhill Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Ah, so he was having crushes while with his GF. PG, is this the guy you had sex with after (but not before) breaking up with him last year? If so, his periodic contact makes some sense. I'd still feed him a silence sandwich though
Prodigal Princess Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Don't be his emotional tampon. Love it. I agree with everyone else. Silence will speak volumes.
OpenBook Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Sometimes guys will use "casual connections" with other females to make their SO jealous. I've been on the receiving end of this. No idea if this is happening in your situation, but thought I'd bring it up. I hope you deftly jerk a knot in this one. It sounds like he's being a little too... assumptive with you.
Author pandagirl Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 Yeah, this is the same guy from last year, Carhill. I'm 99.9% sure he still has a girlfriend. I won't reply, but it makes me sad. It's been a year and I've dated other guys, but I haven't felt a stronger connection than with him. I really hoped we could've been friends, but after, literally, five or so attempts, it's just not going to happen.
You'reasian Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 It's been a year and I've dated other guys, but I haven't felt a stronger connection than with him. I really hoped we could've been friends, but after, literally, five or so attempts, it's just not going to happen. Strong connections are a rare treasure!
TaraMaiden Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 I hope I am not speaking out of turn, but why is your email still programmed to accept letters from him? You have not blocked his email? I can do this (not that I have, but it is possible). I would suggest you do that. Or else, when you see a letter from him, ignore it, do not read it and delete it. The mistake you made was to open it and read it. Why even let yourself care at all? Just very curious really, I'm not sure I see the problem. _/l\_ *H-P-T*
Author pandagirl Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 I hope I am not speaking out of turn, but why is your email still programmed to accept letters from him? You have not blocked his email? I can do this (not that I have, but it is possible). I would suggest you do that. Or else, when you see a letter from him, ignore it, do not read it and delete it. The mistake you made was to open it and read it. Why even let yourself care at all? Just very curious really, I'm not sure I see the problem. _/l\_ *H-P-T* To answer the question simply, I still care about him. I know everyone on here will tell me differently, but what I felt with him was rare. That being said, I accept the way things are, but it doesn't mean I have forgotten about him or don't miss him. And somewhere, I believe he feels the same way about me. Not all connections are romantic or meant to last forever.
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