juliemanooli Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Okay so, I met this guy Derek. All in all a great guy, has all the qualities that I would look for in someone. But.. apparently he's got a bad rep. Girls have told me numerous times that he is "a bad boyfriend." or he "always runs back to his ex Jessica" and that "he moves very quicky". I'm not gonna let opinions get to me, but i will be careful. Now.. We've gone on a few dates together. On the last one, we walked on the beach at night. Not once did he even try to hold my hand. I was a bit concerned..was he even into me? That night, I felt like i was close enough with him to confront him about the warnings i've gotten from people.. and he says, "i do admit, i move very quickly in relationships" and i said to him, "well it sure doesnt seem like it" (since he hadnt even tried to kiss me, or hold my hand for that matter) and he replied with a "well i've learned". Also, with his ex, he told me straight forward that it use to be that way, but he's finally realized that they're better off as friends. So whats my problem? Its been 2 days since that date, and he hasnt contacted me.. After it ended, he told me to call/text him whenever i'm free again. But..me being selfish, I never contact guys first because it makes me feel vulnerable. what i wanna know is if he's really into me? or is he just trying to take it slow based on his previous relationships.
Citizen Erased Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 He sounds like a lot of work. Contact him when you're free? How lazy is that. Uh he can call you when he wants to know if you are free.
BCCA Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 they're better off as friends. Eek. I would have liked it better if they just didnt talk. Friends seems like this girl keeps giving him the boot, but he's still waiting in the wings. Especially if he keeps running back. I guess you never know, I just dont know any guy who talks to an ex, except for two reasons: 1. sex 2. get back together. After it ended, he told me to call/text him whenever i'm free again I dont think he's interested. I've only said that to girls I was making it clear to that I would only go for a FWB/minimal effort situation. If he was into you, he would have either tried to get something planned, or talked about doing something else and called. Its only been two days, and some people just make no sense, so see how it goes. But if its Friday and you havent heard...hes not interested.
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