Baggy Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Hi Everyone, Thanks for listerning to what i have to say. Firstly, i dont think that anyone should ever experiance my pain, i dont htink that anyone should feel what im feeling right now. I live in UK, am 20 years old and have dated my beautiful girlfriend for 2 and half years. We are both at uni, we met in our first week at uni and spend most of our time together. We got along so well, we knew everything about each other and shared all of our uni experiances together. I love my girlfriend Bhavini, she is the only person that i have ever had feelings for, and i mean true, deep down feeling. You know when i kiss her, my heart races sooo fast, when i think of her beautiful eyes, it just makes time stand still. We have had our ups and downs, mainly over stupid things but have worked through these. Our relationship was honestly the best thing in the world. But, some time ago, my girlfriend got cold feet. I am Sikh and she is Hindu, two different religions. My girlfriend decided that it would be best to leave me in the dark, she wanted to go on a break for a while which i let her have her space. And then yesterday she said she wanted to break up with me. I cried pretty much all night to her, asking her why. The reason was because she didnt want to offend her parents and wanted to fit in with her family. My family would understand where im coming from, i would take time but at least they would stand besides me. My girlfriend believes that she will be disowned by her family if she stays with me. So, here i am, heart broken, my girlfriend isnt even bothered that we broke up. She did it over the phone last night. Its been going round and round in my mind, its driving me insane. I asked my girlfriend that if i was Hindu, would she still be with me, and the answer was yes. So, nothing that i have done wrong has caused a life time of pain. Im going to send her favourite roses at work tomorrow, hopefully she'll turn around. The problem we have is that we still have one more year of uni left, and i cant bare to see her pretty eyes fall in love with another man. I havent cheated on her, ive always loved her. If anyone has ever experianced this pain, please please let me know, i feel like my world has ended. I dont know who is reading my pain, but thank you for listerning. Baggy.
EmperorR Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 don't send the roses, nothing you do, say, buy will bring her back. Go NC, I know you feel horrible at the moment but there is nothing you can your powerless.
GorillaTheater Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 I could see how this could be rough, from family pressure if for no other reason. My understanding is that there was alot of bad blood between Sikhs and Hindus during the 80s, and may still be. It's got to be something like Serbs dating Croats or Armenians dating Azarbaijanians: it happens, sometimes successfully, but it's a tough road. For what it's worth, I'm sorry you're hurting.
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 God so much pettiness and hatred in the world, and so much pride and stubborness that people just will not let it go. If there's one thing I can't stand, its religion, race, gender, families or any other factors interfering in love, especially when there is a genuine, sincere, caring relationship. If this girl wants to side with old, tired customs that will get in the way of something beautiful that you have, then let her, as hard as it may be. I'm sure she is hurting just as much. She is probably afraid of her family and just trying to put on a brave front. It does make me sick though that people can get in the way of two people loving each other because of something which in MY opinion, of course not her families, is just so...meaningless in the face of love. I hope your next love will accept you for you; religion included. There are too many barriers between people, and though no-one should give up their religion etc, it shouldn't be such a 'block' between love. People can ALWAYS make relationships work if they choose, no matter WHAT the obstacles, so long as it is mutual.
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