nemo28 Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Hi guys, I've been seeing a really nice guy coming up to 3 months now. We only see eachother at weekends though. To start with this was nice, kept the butterflies in the tummy feeling going but now it is starting to get to me. I am starting to get the feeling that he only wants a "weekend girlfriend" and someone to do drink with at weekends etc. I've asked him twice to meet up during the week but he has alot on with sport and goes to his parents house for dinner every night (he is 38!). I don't want to keep bugging him but i think after 3 months we should be seeing more of eachother than just weekends. We live very close by. What does anyone think?
TaraMaiden Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I think he has the best of every world possible! You need to decide what you would like, tell him what you want, and if he won't agree.... find a more regular relationship.
JohnnyBlaze Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 You could always try to make longer-ranged plans, not as a permanent solution but as a small test. Ask him what he's up to on _____day next week. If he's still blowing you off with over a week's notice, then I'd walk away. If he can't break dinner with mother for one night, you don't want to bother with him.
CarrieT Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 A 38-year old who goes home to dinner every night (and I'm assuming he has never invited you), would raise HUGE red flags for me. Have you flat out asked him if he has any intentions of expanding his relationship with you to include weeknights?
Author nemo28 Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 I asked him today if he is free tomorrow to go to the movies, he said he has football but will see if he can get out of it. Alarm bells should be ringing but I know he is not seeing anyone else as i have met all his friends and his siblings etc.. He is just set in his ways when it comes to weekdays and. No, i have never been invited to his mom's for dinner but then again, i have not brought him to meet my folks either.. I feel like i'm fighting for his time and it's not nice
dreamergrl Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 He's 38 and he goes home for dinner every night???
Author nemo28 Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 yea, his mom and step dad are old, he is very close to them and plus they live next door so i guess it's just handy but i wonder if he will ever break the habit
dreamergrl Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I don't know if I would date someone who is of that age, goes to his parents every night for dinner, and lives right next to them. It's great to be close to your family, but this seems a bit over the top. Has he talked about past relationships?
Author nemo28 Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 yes, he has had previous relationships but obviously i have not gone into the finer details of these. I think he is stuck in his ways, he has been single for a while now, probably just needs to break the habit
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