colosseum Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Don't hate. Been dating this girl for a few weeks. I think she's pretty, but what does it say when I don't find a single picture of her attractive? I mean, pictures of her are just not...ones I would look at and say "hey, she's cute I want to date her." Dumb question? Or does it say something more, maybe about...how I actually feel? Because if you really like someone, shouldn't he/she look pretty to you most of the time, if not all the time? It's the exact opposite here...
Island Girl Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 You don't think she looks great in pictures -- some people take really horrible pictures just like some people seem to always take great pictures. It is so common there is a term for it (photogenic vs. non-photogenic). Quit looking at her pictures and look at her in front of you in real life. Like what you see? Then that is what matters. You don't make love to a picture.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 What the hell does a picture matter? It's not like you'll have a poster of her hanging over your bed while you two are getting it on. What's right in front of you is what matters - not some picture. I don't think my BF is very photogenic, but I think he's absolutely handsome (or adorable - I know guys don't like that word) when we're together.
Lakers5peat09 Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Means nothing. A lot of people take horrible photos. Don't read too much into it. I find a lot of women look much more attractive close up than a photo.
OpenBook Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Yes, I think it does say something about you. Maybe you are more worried about other guys' reaction when they see her photo? You fear they'll say, "You're dating HER?!?" and thus your own status is lowered in their eyes? I'm just guessing here... but it is odd to place significance on what she looks like in photos.
Jersey Shortie Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 If that's the case , the OP has a huge insecurity problem on his hands and he is better off trying to fix that then how his lady looks in pictures.
sotired Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Some people are just not photogenic. I'm one of them....I have ONE picture that I like how I look in it. The rest I look terrible, but people say I'm attractive and when I look in the mirror I think I'm decent enough...but in pictures...blah!! Photos are strange. Ever see those model shows? Most of those girls are plain ugly to me and they end up with the most beautiful pictures. You aren't dating a picture. You're dating a person.
OverThinker Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 True beauty lies within and you can't see that in a picture.
era Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 You don't make love to a picture. LOL.. actually some guys DO.
Author colosseum Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 If that's the case , the OP has a huge insecurity problem on his hands and he is better off trying to fix that then how his lady looks in pictures. Yeah, I'm working on that. Lol. *sigh*
CandyGirlXO Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 LOL yeah I have this problem also. I do not take good pictures at all, I mean I have a lot of great pictures, but it takes 10+ shots to get 1 good one. My ex pointed that out in a loving way. He said, you are hot, your pictures don't do you justice. He started filming my instead, and I look cute even in videos, just not photos. For that reason, I hate taking pictures, I can't stand them. It upsets me but oh well, I never have problem finding boyfriends.
Lizzie60 Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 This is easy... She's just NOT photogenic.. that's all. Apparently I'm told that I look good.. but I just can't stand looking at my pics.. I don't find myself photogenic at all... Same with my daughter.. she is stunning.. but not in pictures..
spiracles Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Apparently I'm told that I look good.. but I just can't stand looking at my pics.. I don't find myself photogenic at all... if that's you in the avatar, i see no problems.
Isolde Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I know this one guy who looks like perfection in photos--sooo cute and handsome--and IRL he looks sort of plain, I'd still happily date him but he just doesn't look like his photos at all. Some people just know how to pose really well, and some don't.
JeezLouise Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 This is easy... She's just NOT photogenic.. that's all. Apparently I'm told that I look good.. but I just can't stand looking at my pics.. I don't find myself photogenic at all... Same with my daughter.. she is stunning.. but not in pictures.. The first time I saw this avatar, I thought it was someone's BUTT!! LOL!
Trialbyfire Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Take a look at Carter Oosterhouse. He takes some magnificent pictures, at certain angles. But when he's in a video or interview, he's not as attractive as certain pics. No matter how attractive a person is born, if they're a spazz in real life, it's hard to find them attractive. It sounds like your g/f has very attractive body language. This will not translate to pictures, unless she knows how to pose or the picture is taken by a very talented photographer. Look at certain supermodels. When their pictures are taken naturally, they don't look near as good, as when they're primped up by talented makeup, hair and wardrobe people, photos taken by talented photographers with perfect lighting, then talented photoshop people, fixing the balance of the flaws.
Isolde Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Your fiance!!! Seriously, Oosterhouse is the perfect example of the type of guy I find objectively attractive, but personally does nothing for me... nothing at all.
Star Gazer Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 My BF is way more attractive in person than he is in pictures.
Trialbyfire Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 Your fiance!!! Seriously, Oosterhouse is the perfect example of the type of guy I find objectively attractive, but personally does nothing for me... nothing at all. This pic is one of my four selections for a polyandrist marriage.
BobSacamento Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 She probably takes bad photos. All my FB photos I look like a drunken fool.
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