rachel m Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Is there such a thing as being too into a guy? I've been seing this guy for a couple of months. We tell each other we like each other frequently. We're very affectionate towards each other and we give each other compliments all the time. Today, I told him I had never been attracted to anyone the way I am to him. He really liked that and I enjoyed giving him the compliment. Only thing is: I wonder if maybe I was throwing myself at him? I feel silly asking this. If it feels right I should go with it, right? If a man will be put off by a girl liking him too much, then he's really not worth my time, right?
tkgirl Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Is there such a thing as being too into a guy? I've been seing this guy for a couple of months. We tell each other we like each other frequently. We're very affectionate towards each other and we give each other compliments all the time. Today, I told him I had never been attracted to anyone the way I am to him. He really liked that and I enjoyed giving him the compliment. Only thing is: I wonder if maybe I was throwing myself at him? I feel silly asking this. If it feels right I should go with it, right? If a man will be put off by a girl liking him too much, then he's really not worth my time, right? if you are too into the wrong guy, then yes... definitely! but if you are as into him as he is into you, then that's when it's magic! sounds like you are close to that... go with it and enjoy!
Author rachel m Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 if you are too into the wrong guy, then yes... definitely! but if you are as into him as he is into you, then that's when it's magic! sounds like you are close to that... go with it and enjoy! Thanks tkgirl. I really don't know why I suddenly started worrying about this. Things have been drama-free and smooth-sailing so far. I'm not used to that. Wow, I was writing this and he called to wish me a good night. Feel all better now. I'm dating a real sweetheart.
gopher Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Thanks tkgirl. I really don't know why I suddenly started worrying about this. Things have been drama-free and smooth-sailing so far. I'm not used to that. Wow, I was writing this and he called to wish me a good night. Feel all better now. I'm dating a real sweetheart. Do you feel like you need constant reassurance?
tkgirl Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Thanks tkgirl. I really don't know why I suddenly started worrying about this. Things have been drama-free and smooth-sailing so far. I'm not used to that. Wow, I was writing this and he called to wish me a good night. Feel all better now. I'm dating a real sweetheart. awww! so sweet... yea, try not too worry too much about what you say with him... if he really is the right one for you, you can't really say or do anything wrong! just be yourself... and don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. You can probably tell if it starts to be too much for him by the way he reacts... in that case, back off or re-assess if he really is what you want. The last guy I was with I was really into... but I held back from telling him and eventually everything fizzled with us. Then again, I also wasn't getting that "I'm so into you" vibe from him either... maybe he was waiting for me? who knows, but if it had been "right" we would still be together! anyways, sounds like things are going great with you two... just sit back and enjoy the ride!
Author rachel m Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 Do you feel like you need constant reassurance? No I don't and I never really did in any of my relationships. I have been burnt in the past when I expressed too much affection to early. The guy thought I was more into him then he was into me. To be honest, and to give a bit TMI, I do know why I was worried: I have pms.
Author rachel m Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 awww! so sweet... yea, try not too worry too much about what you say with him... if he really is the right one for you, you can't really say or do anything wrong! just be yourself... and don't be afraid to tell him how you feel. You can probably tell if it starts to be too much for him by the way he reacts... in that case, back off or re-assess if he really is what you want. The last guy I was with I was really into... but I held back from telling him and eventually everything fizzled with us. Then again, I also wasn't getting that "I'm so into you" vibe from him either... maybe he was waiting for me? who knows, but if it had been "right" we would still be together! anyways, sounds like things are going great with you two... just sit back and enjoy the ride! Great advice! I have a head on my shoulder and I can handle it if he backs away. I guess the little fleeting moment of insecurity has a lot to do with the fact that I'm starting to fall for this guy. I'm sorry to hear about your guy! I hope you're not beating yourself up over it. I usually hold back too when I feel a guy isn't into me. Except with this guy that I'm seeing. I think I've been really honest from the get go about how I feel... Hey, maybe we're onto something here? Maybe letting a guy know how you feel is the best policy. That way, if he isn't on the same page, like my ex, then he'll politely exit your life for the best.
tkgirl Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Great advice! I have a head on my shoulder and I can handle it if he backs away. I guess the little fleeting moment of insecurity has a lot to do with the fact that I'm starting to fall for this guy. I'm sorry to hear about your guy! I hope you're not beating yourself up over it. I usually hold back too when I feel a guy isn't into me. Except with this guy that I'm seeing. I think I've been really honest from the get go about how I feel... Hey, maybe we're onto something here? Maybe letting a guy know how you feel is the best policy. That way, if he isn't on the same page, like my ex, then he'll politely exit your life for the best. yeah! I hope things work out for you and this guy... and yea, I'm all for letting a guy know what's up from the get go. I'm not kicking myself over the last guy (any more!) but definitely learned a lot from being with him. I think he was a bit shy, been burned etc... but I have to! (as we all have!) I think it eventually came down to we were both unsure of each other's feelings.. I don't know. Like I said, we would still be together now if we were really "right" for each other. And I know that right guy is out there somewhere for me... but I hope this guy is the right guy for you! good luck sweetie!
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