whattothink Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Is everyone in agreeance that men still must make the first move because of their "hunter" ways? I'm interested because I'm trying to follow the advice, but it's hard! I met a guy at a wedding because of mutual friends and would love to get to know him better, but I'm staying "lady-like" because of Patti's advice. Any thoughts on her? Her book? Men being hunters?
Touche Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Is everyone in agreeance that men still must make the first move because of their "hunter" ways? I'm interested because I'm trying to follow the advice, but it's hard! I met a guy at a wedding because of mutual friends and would love to get to know him better, but I'm staying "lady-like" because of Patti's advice. Any thoughts on her? Her book? Men being hunters? If you're pretty sure he was also interested, I'd make that first move. You have absolutely nothing to lose. But generally, I agree with Patti.
ruggy Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 From what I see, mostly women do not do much. Its the man who has to make all of the advances. Crash and burn or succeed and win is all up to the man having to make the correct moves.
Enema Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 If you're interested in a guy, ask him out. Sticking to blanket "dating rules" seems dumb. Do you want to date a guy that gets along with the "normal" you, or do you want the guy you had to "catch" by playing games?
Okfine Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I watch the show and I agree with Patti for the most part and what she recommends to these men. The reason I find her philosophies work is not only because they also happen to be a lot of the same philosophies I have adapted to my romantic life and it's worked for me, but I see that if all those men can't even score a solid relationship on their own having success and looks then obviously what they are doing is wrong. Patti ends up giving them tools that turn out to be radically different from the way these men embrace dating and it's no wonder that they cannot find love on their own, they are doing everything wrong they haven't a clue what women respond to. The ones that embrace Patti's suggestions usually find someone the ones that fight it all the way end up going back to their old ways and continue to be lonely and play the bachelor life. Times may have changed but men are still men and women are still women and for the most part it's the same basic things that both genders respond to in the mating game.
Trialbyfire Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I don't know who Patti is or recognize the show(?), but the one rule personally followed, is not to pursue a man since I like hunters aka alphas. The balance of this is, what's your personality type? Are you comfortable pursuing men? If so, do it. If not, don't. There's no one-size-fits-all rule for everyone. Go with what you think and also what kind of man you're attracted to.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Get together with MeaganRaye and go pro ho! :laugh: "Pro-ho" LMFAO Yes, men are the pursuers, women are the selectors. It's nature.
Ariadne Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 But generally, I agree with Patti. She's one feisty Jewish gal, just like you. I really like her personality and her attitude. The only problem I see is that the partnership is geared to make some somewhat good matches, but no soulmates to be found there. Just some ok, whatever, we get along well at best. (Btw, most those girls are made out of wood imo)
Ariadne Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Btw, I love that show, but so far I haven't found any of those millionaires attractive. (Have you Touche? Any one in particular?) Only one I found somewhat so (the blonde short curly one in Las Vegas) because his demeanor reminded me of DG. But yeah, love is hard to find.
Touche Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Btw, I love that show, but so far I haven't found any of those millionaires attractive. (Have you Touche? Any one in particular?) Only one I found somewhat so (the blonde short curly one in Las Vegas) because his demeanor reminded me of DG. But yeah, love is hard to find. I'm much less "in your face" than she is. There's an abrasive quality to her that I'm not crazy about. I only found one millionaire physically attractive and that was the hotel guy from Vancouver. Remember, he picked the millionairess? Wonder how that's going. Oh and there was a Jewish guy form some other country who was also somewhat attractive. Other than that, no. I wouldn't have dated any of them though. Very wealthy men always made me a little uncomfortable for some reason. Oh and yeah..wow. Some of those girls are really pretty bad. Personally, I don't really get the whole thing. I'd always wonder if the person was dating me for my money. My favorite are those unattractive older guys (over 40) who keep rejecting woman after woman and only want the twenty somethings. Give me a break!
Ariadne Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I'm much less "in your face" than she is. There's an abrasive quality to her that I'm not crazy about. I only found one millionaire physically attractive and that was the hotel guy from Vancouver. Remember, he picked the millionairess? Wonder how that's going. Oh and there was a Jewish guy form some other country who was also somewhat attractive. Other than that, no. I wouldn't have dated any of them though. Very wealthy men always made me a little uncomfortable for some reason. Oh and yeah..wow. Some of those girls are really pretty bad. Personally, I don't really get the whole thing. I'd always wonder if the person was dating me for my money. My favorite are those unattractive older guys (over 40) who keep rejecting woman after woman and only want the twenty somethings. Give me a break! Haha! They all want a supermodel, twenty something, the prettiest one of them all, and then they hope to find true love with just that one. (Like that is going to happen, chances, one in a million.) I remember that one guy, yeah, he was cute. I wasn't particularly attracted to him myself, but I found him to be a very attractive man with lots of personality. I hope they are still together, she was cute too. And she is "abrasive" because she is running a show, I'd put you to run that show, and America will see abrasive alright.
DMoon Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Btw, I love that show, but so far I haven't found any of those millionaires attractive. (Have you Touche? Any one in particular?) Only one I found somewhat so (the blonde short curly one in Las Vegas) because his demeanor reminded me of DG. But yeah, love is hard to find. I actually like Patti Stanger myself. Shis is very blunt and honest. I like that she doesn't sugar coat anything. She is a personality. And I agree none of those guys were even remotely attractive physically or otherwise. They just have money and thought it would be enough to get 20 something child bearing women without developing anything else. only found one millionaire physically attractive and that was the hotel guy from Vancouver. Remember, he picked the millionairess? Wonder how that's going. The Vancouver guy picked the 40 something female millionaire, but she ended up on Dr Phil's show and stated that they are just friends. Nothing more. "Are you still dating Bill?” Patti asks the millionairess. “Bill and I talk a lot,” Heidi answers. “He became a very good friend of mine.” “He still thinks he’s dating you,” Patti says. “I got a text to prove it.” "I would not say we’re dating. I would say that we have developed a friendship,” Heidi maintains. “That’s a kiss of death, so forget him,” Dr. Phil jokes. “Once you become friends, it’s really hard to ramp it up because you’ve put him in a category, and that’s a problem.” http://www.drphil.com/slideshows/slideshow/5064/?id=5064&showID=1248
Ariadne Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 The Vancouver guy picked the 40 something female millionaire, but she ended up on Dr Phil's show and stated that they are just friends. Nothing more. Oh wow, thanks for the update! (Btw, I don't agree with Phil that you can't go from friends to more, if it's meant to happen you can start as enemies for all it matters)
Touche Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Well I'm not surprised since it was a long distance relationship. Ariadne, you're so funny! Maybe I would be like her if I had my own show. I do agree with a lot of her advice but it's her delivery that bugs me. That whole "picker" thing. She can be very coarse. Not my style. You know that whole "penis off the couch" thing?
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