mortensorchid Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Several weeks ago I met this man on Facebook. Turns out he was a friend of a gal I went to high school with, somehow (I forget exactly how) we began to chat on the Instant Messenger. He seemed like a good guy, we began chatting quite a bit. We finally chatted on the phone and we were to go out this past Saturday. I had just gotten ready, and was about to leave when my cell rang. He said he had to cancel because he had to go see his dad because he was sick. I asked "Sick like you have to take him to the hospital kind of sick?", he said he wasn't sure. He said he would text me later, if he could go out or not. I said ok and hoped his dad would be alright. He also promised he would "make it up to me", which I wasn't sure what that meant. About an hour or so later, he sends a text saying he can't go out tonight (no mention of his dad's condition) but we would get together soon. I texted back "Ok ttyl". Haven't heard from him since. My tactic is that I'm going to wait and see if he calls again. Am I right? Just want some input.
AllInOne Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Since he is the one that canceled I think the ball is in his court. He should call you.
tigressA Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Wait for a week and if there's still nothing from him, forget about him. If he's so intent on making it up to you he will contact you within a week. Don't concentrate on his words; look at his actions. Saying he'll make it up to you doesn't mean anything if he doesn't get in touch with you to do so.
gopher Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Totally agree about the above post....don't contact him, let him get in touch.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Just wanted to add my agreement - don't call him, he'll call you if he actually is interested.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 Hmmm ... Well this is rather interesting. I was on Facebook today and open the Instant Messenger. He was on line. But I didn't send him a message! He can contact me somehow (phone, email, text message, etc.). But all times before he would usually IM me if I am on line. Just playing it cool, folks, no worries ...
OverThinker Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Good for you.... I agree with all above he needs to contact you. If not in a week then forget it unless your after an FWB.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Did he cancel like a few hours before he was going to see you? I would give him the benefit of the doubt for now, but there's a tiny alarm going off in my head. Has he tried to reach you by phone? I find messaging and texting too lazy of someone as a form of courtship.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 11, 2009 Author Posted May 11, 2009 He canceled a scant half hour before we were to meet. He said it was, like I said, an emergency with his dad. I ... Don't know at this point if I believe him or not. Time will tell I guess, but we'll wait and see...
BCCA Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Sounds fishy to me. I agree, wait a week and then consider it a done deal. Has he tried to reach you by phone? I find messaging and texting too lazy of someone as a form of courtship. 90% of the women I come into contact with talk almost exclusively through texts.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 He canceled a scant half hour before we were to meet. He said it was, like I said, an emergency with his dad. I ... Don't know at this point if I believe him or not. Time will tell I guess, but we'll wait and see... I have never have that happen to me before. Even if I was in a position to cancel, I would cancel either a day early or hours before, so they actually have enough time to make other plans. Something smells fishy. Has he in any way contacted you to set up a second date? If he had been looking forward to going out with you, he wouldn't wait a week to contact you.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 90% of the women I come into contact with talk almost exclusively through texts. But you still call once in a while right? Because i text my dates as well, but they actually do pick up their phone and dial my number.
BCCA Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 But you still call once in a while right? Because i text my dates as well, but they actually do pick up their phone and dial my number. I call, and I get a response back via text with most of the women Ive dated lately. Seems that things changed during my last relationship, because all the women I ask about it say they talk almost exclusively through texts. Personally, I hate texts/emails. Call me if you want to talk.
SoulSearch_CO Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 90% of the women I come into contact with talk almost exclusively through texts. I call, and I get a response back via text with most of the women Ive dated lately. Seems that things changed during my last relationship, because all the women I ask about it say they talk almost exclusively through texts. Cripes. I'm so glad my BF hates his cell phone and never uses the damn thing. The idea bothered me at first just because I was used to being able to reach people (and I'm talking anyone - not just my SO) easily by cell. But now I'm glad - text is not the main focus of our relationship.
Author mortensorchid Posted May 12, 2009 Author Posted May 12, 2009 We are, just for the record, on day 3 since the cancellation, and I have received no contact from him (phone call, email, text message, etc.) about rescheduling. And I have been on Facebook quite a bit (as is my regular routine), have seen him on line in the IM que, and he has never once contacted me. I will continue to wait and see if he ever does, but ... I do find the situation to be stranger and stranger as time goes on, thanks to everyone's insights. Will update if and when things change.
xpaperxcutx Posted May 12, 2009 Posted May 12, 2009 We are, just for the record, on day 3 since the cancellation, and I have received no contact from him (phone call, email, text message, etc.) about rescheduling. And I have been on Facebook quite a bit (as is my regular routine), have seen him on line in the IM que, and he has never once contacted me. I will continue to wait and see if he ever does, but ... I do find the situation to be stranger and stranger as time goes on, thanks to everyone's insights. Will update if and when things change. Mortensorchid, I honestly would not wait anymore. There's no way that he can easily go 3 days without contacting you and updating you on his situation unless he's 1) really busy ( which is unlikely because you've seen him online), and/or 2) he lied about his father just to avoid you. And I honestly would believe that had he tried to contact you, he would have definitely seen you online. It might be possible that he has alot on of friends on his messaging list, but that would not mean that he never skims through most his friends to see who's online. I know I would do that.
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