EmperorR Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 [venting] And I know people will say time, you will in the future when you meet the right person etc., but nope I won't. I've been burned way to many times. My shield and my guard will always be up, a few bad apples have spoiled the whole basket[/vent off]
PinkToes Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I know exactly what you mean. I wasn't cheated on, but I did fall for what turned out to be empty promises. And right now at least, I don't trust myself to know what to believe. I know love is always a risk, and I don't want to live in fear of getting hurt again, but that's where I am right now. Guess it's all just part of that blasted healing process.
LadyV Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 DITTO! I am at a point too where I don't trust myself either....
playlislay Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 Yup! Me too! Its like the first time I learnt that touching an oven would burn me; I carry the scars and know not to go near the oven without some form of protection. When you are a child it seems that nothing can hurt you, that is until you leanr what does cause you pain and what doesnt. Its just a shame that its taken me so long to realise that 'this' (love) can cause great pain if you havent read the manual, so-to-speak. Its also made me realise that you cannot, under any circumstances, trust a humans word, no matter how sincere and trusting they may seem. Its like that lovely cheeseburger that you have from time-to-time, harmless. But little do you know that it is creating fat that is slowly clogging your arteries, just waiting to kill you! Cheeseburgers and people are the same, decieving. Who would have thought that I would create a link between cheeseburgers and relationships? lol! If you couldnt trust the one person that you had the deepest respect/love/trust for, then why would anyone else be any different? A very negative sentence from moi ( Its a shame, I used to trust so much- a fairytale lovestory would have been my vision. Now I am left with the impression that I should scrap all of my morals and beliefs, and let my new partner/future husband to sleep around whilst I turn a blind eye. Its obvious that its going to happen and I dont want the pain again, so sod it! Let them do what theyve got to do, Im past the stage of wanting to care. Right, after that mini waffle I shall get back to my work! )
Meaplus3 Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 [venting] And I know people will say time, you will in the future when you meet the right person etc., but nope I won't. I've been burned way to many times. My shield and my guard will always be up, a few bad apples have spoiled the whole basket[/vent off] Try not to think this way. I know it's real hard to trust again after beign hurt, but you can and will.. it just may take some time. When you find that special someone it will happen. Best wishes. Mea:)
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 11, 2009 Posted May 11, 2009 I am right there with you. In a way I think trusting is naive and childlike and has no place in an adults brain. My ex broke my trust a few times (I also broke his...but unlike him, I learned my lessons and would never repeat them...he just continued...so I can conclude he learnt nothing, just how better to get away with it...). But mine come more from random experiences where people in high positions of authority have abused my trust. In my bitter mind right now, men are completely transparent. ANY guy that has said anything nice/kind to me, I see right through (whether i'm wrong or right) and girls are master manipulators. I also know of so many of my family and friends experiences that have just been horrible, so in a way its kind of like vicarious learning. You watch and hear from others, and your guard goes up a bit higher. I hope I learn to trust again, but I NEVER want to be taken for a fool again. I just hope I don't build my wall that bit too high...maybe we don't need walls, just a couple of rottweilers running around in the back somewhere to chase out the ones who f*** us over
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