thewingwoman Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 After reading the post about the day-by-day no contact report on here, I was inspired to start a blog about my own progress... I've only started it today, but actually writing down my summary of the weekend, and realizing how well I did with No Contact and such, it made me feel a ton better. I plan to keep it up, with progress reports, even when I break down (which has been known to happen), and when I'm doing well... Or even when I get shocking news of sorts. Has anyone else done this? Has it helped you to keep a log of how you've been handling the breakup? I've never really posted much information on my breakup here, but if you're interested, the blog is posted at http://www.breakuprehab.wordpress.com
Nuala83 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Heeyyy good on ya wingwoman. Look forward to reading your blog It's really helped me big time. Right now some of the entries are a bit depressing or dull but that's gonna change as I get stronger. A shiny gold star for you!!
Author thewingwoman Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Heeyyy good on ya wingwoman. Look forward to reading your blog It's really helped me big time. Right now some of the entries are a bit depressing or dull but that's gonna change as I get stronger. A shiny gold star for you!! Thanks. Reading back over mine, I realize it's pretty boring in the sense that it accounts for what I did this weekend and the same bar is mentioned a few times... Yet another way it's helping me. It made me realize that I am, in fact, "predictable" like he claimed I was (He said he didn't ever ask me to do anything because if he wanted to see me, he'd know where I was because I have a 'bar schedule'). But I did actually break the mold this weekend by doing things I don't usually do on a regular basis, like visiting the drag strip to watch my dad, and going to a pool party.
WTRanger Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I do and currently am keeping a log of my progress. Though, I use the old school pen and paper method. I find that keeping the old school method I'm able to put my actual deep feelings in there without the fear of anyone reading it. Yeah, it's a guy journal. I will say this, keeping the log has helped me in more ways that I could ever have imagined. It's amazing to read back pages and see where I was at. In fact, I've got several books, don't know if that's a good sign, but I look back at them and learn from my past. It's like studying my own personal history. I'll read an old post, and realize that I got through that so I can get through what I'm currently going through. This is just my personal opinion, but I'd never put something like that on the web where an ex, especially the ex that caused it, could find it and get their jollies about how I'm feeling. I'm generally pretty guarded about what I put out on the web, but that's just me.
Author thewingwoman Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 I do and currently am keeping a log of my progress. Though, I use the old school pen and paper method. I find that keeping the old school method I'm able to put my actual deep feelings in there without the fear of anyone reading it. Yeah, it's a guy journal. I will say this, keeping the log has helped me in more ways that I could ever have imagined. It's amazing to read back pages and see where I was at. In fact, I've got several books, don't know if that's a good sign, but I look back at them and learn from my past. It's like studying my own personal history. I'll read an old post, and realize that I got through that so I can get through what I'm currently going through. This is just my personal opinion, but I'd never put something like that on the web where an ex, especially the ex that caused it, could find it and get their jollies about how I'm feeling. I'm generally pretty guarded about what I put out on the web, but that's just me. Wow. It's great to know that this system has helped you through your hard times. Hopefully it will work out well for me too. I had my reservations about putting it up on the web, and even though I do mention names and have my photo on there, he has no way of finding it unless he's totally stalking me, and that's just not his style. Not to mention, he doesn't know anything about my 'wingwoman' profiles, so he couldn't search my username to find it either. Other than putting up a link here, I will not post it for anyone else to read. I posted it here because I know there's several others going through the same thing as me, and I would love to get advice from any of the folks here that might read it. I'm a pretty open book, so even my deepest feelings will be posted there. No censorship for me. Not really my style. When I type, just like when I talk, it's exactly what I mean. It just sometimes doesn't come out right... which might be why I'm in this mess in the first place. lol
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