tobe1424 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 so i was at my ex's parents house and she brings out a few albums so that we can see together....in one of them there is a few pics of her ex when they were in middle school and beginning of high school...were are oth 23 now... poing is im a jealous guy and it sort of bothered me...she said they were only memories of back in the days but no matter what, especially since they kept in touch untill the other day just as friend, it still bothers me.. should i make a big deal out of it and make the pics vanish or should i let it be? I know if i make a big deal out of it she might think im a bit immature but at the same time i know when she found pics of me and my ex that i thought i had thrown away, she was a bit bothered....but i threw them away.. a little advice would help...thanks guy
TaraMaiden Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 You say she is your ex? Then you have absolutely no right to say or do anything. Not your business what she does. She could have a whole wall festooned with every single lover and one-night stand she could ever want or have - and it would be none of your business.... And if you are 23, please, try to be a bit more mature. I thought maybe you were 17! of course, if she is not your ex, but you are still going out - then it is still none of your business. What happened is in the past. I have a couple of photos of my exes... my partner is not bothered. You see, here I am, and here I stay.... _/l\_
sotired Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 So she's your ex and you are jealous of her having pictures of her ex from high school in an album at her parents house??? You need to get over it. You have no say over what she decides to keep, especially since you aren't dating her.
Ariadne Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 should i make a big deal out of it and make the pics vanish or should i let it be? You can't change the past, and vanishing the pictures is not going to make the past disappear either. Just leave the pictures alone, and grow some balls.
Author tobe1424 Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 sorry guys for my typo...i meant to write my GIRLFRIEND instead of my ex...what was i thinking....big time my bad.... so what do you guys think
sotired Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Advice still applies.....It's not like she is keeping the pictures in her wallet. They are in an album at her parent's...Who cares? Trust me...NO ONE wants to date someone that gets so butthurt over silly crap like this.
WineCountry Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Let me tell you right now...get over it. When I was younger, i got jealous over stupid crap like that too. Boy did i learn. That kind of jealousy stuff gets old REAL quick. You have to nip that in the bud NOW if you want to have a healthy relationship with her or ANY woman. YOU are the guy here now..not her ex. So what if she has old pics of him? It's just a part of her life BACK THEN! Get ahold of your self, or next year it will be YOU she is showing pics of to her new boyfriend.
Author tobe1424 Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 thanks for the advice guys...perhaps i should not over react like a little sisi over that crap...
subdued Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I used to be the jealous type too. But I too have had a past relationship; so I understand what it is like. Some of my memories with my ex were bad memories and some were good ones. They should not be forgotten. Now that I'm with someone else. I would never go back to where I was before. My past relationship ended for a reason, despite the good memories. My memories with my current boyfriend are much better. Build up some goods memories with your girlfriend. Try not to get jealous. She is with you now, not her ex.
LoveLace Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Pictures are just pictures...they don't represent the present...and it's you she's with in the present, right? Focus on that instead.
Author tobe1424 Posted May 13, 2009 Author Posted May 13, 2009 sounds like the right approach...thanks again
karlag Posted May 13, 2009 Posted May 13, 2009 Theres no need to worry about pics. Do you really expect people to throw away EVERY pic of an ex away just because they broke up? People do reamain friends after a break up. So I had the same experience with my ex's mom showing off all the pics, old girlfiriends included, and I didnt think too much of it then but reading this I realized that his new GF is now faced with pics of me.... I wonder if she posted a blog about that. ;0)
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