mark1210 Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Hey Gang, I'd like to get some input/advice from you all regarding a certain situation. I've been dating this girl now for a month (4 dates total). The first date was drinks at Applebees for about an hour. We had a great time, hugged and said good night. Second date was bowling, pool, and a movie, again another great time but no hand holding, contact or anything. Just a good night hug. Third date, she comes over and we watch movies on a cold rainy night. This time I make some advances and she cuddles for the remainder of the night. At the end, we hug and she leaves. Fourth date, I pick her up and we go to a fancy club/bar and again have a great time, we go back to her place have a few drinks and hang out making fun of infomercials and the like. End of the night she hugs me for much longer than normal and pushes back slightly and looks into my eyes for a good 5-7 seconds and I say good night and leave. My friends think I already ruined my chances with this girl and I'm better off just disappearing. But we have great conversations, and a great time together. She says I make her laugh like crazy and its good to be around someone so optimistic. I suppose I'm keeping myself at a safe distance for three reasons, 1) She has only been single for 2 months and was burned a bit, 2) I don't want to screw things up. 3) When we first met, she said its nice to have a friend that is so laid back and fun. It's that comment that really confused and still confuses me to this day. Maybe she put me in the friendzone from day 1? How can one tell if they are in the friend zone? I'm wondering if I should take a few steps back and let her invite me out for a change instead of me doing all the inviting. What does everyone think?
gopher Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I think when she gazed into your eyes, she was giving you a chance to kiss her. Next time you see her, if you do, make sure that you give her a kiss...
Yamaha Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 I think when she gazed into your eyes, she was giving you a chance to kiss her. Next time you see her, if you do, make sure that you give her a kiss... Ditto. She's wondering what's wrong with you. Make a move and show her you value her as a women as well as a friend.
Author mark1210 Posted May 10, 2009 Author Posted May 10, 2009 Yamaha, Thats just the problem - I don't kiss friends. When I first met her, she said it was nice to have a "friend" like me. So from the get go, I think she may have saw me a friend initially. So confusing.... Would you let her set something up or would you keep inviting her out?
yeex Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 If you want to be more than "friends", then you need to make the moves. I think you are overanalyzing that one sentence she said. Next time you see her, just assume she wants you to make the moves and go for it in a tasteful manner. If she says otherwise, than back off. Don't overanalyze the fact that she mentioned friends yet. Alot of times chicks will say one thing but want something else. If you go for it and then she says she only wants to be friends, then you are friend zoned. If you have not passionately kissed/made out with her by the third or fourth date, then you are well on your way to the friend zone with a lot of girls. Sure why not ask her out again if you want to? Waiting for her to ask you out is kind of game playing, and some girls just don't call and ask guys out at the beginning.
Admiral Posted May 10, 2009 Posted May 10, 2009 Smack bang in the middle of the friendzone. I'd like to get some input/advice from you all regarding a certain situation. I've been dating this girl now for a month (4 dates total). The first date was drinks at Applebees for about an hour. We had a great time, hugged and said good night. Second date was bowling, pool, and a movie, again another great time but no hand holding, contact or anything. Just a good night hug. Third date, she comes over and we watch movies on a cold rainy night. This time I make some advances and she cuddles for the remainder of the night. At the end, we hug and she leaves. Fourth date, I pick her up and we go to a fancy club/bar and again have a great time, we go back to her place have a few drinks and hang out making fun of infomercials and the like. End of the night she hugs me for much longer than normal and pushes back slightly and looks into my eyes for a good 5-7 seconds and I say good night and leave. No kiss? You should have really gone for it during the first date, and the second at latest. She may have wanted you to kiss her at the end of the fourth date, but now it's over. You didn't make a move. 1) She has only been single for 2 months and was burned a bit, 2) I don't want to screw things up. 3) When we first met, she said its nice to have a friend that is so laid back and fun. It's that comment that really confused and still confuses me to this day. Maybe she put me in the friendzone from day 1? Possibly in the friendzone from the beginning. You need to be lover material from the very beginning. 2. That is what chumps say who don't have the balls without a move. You need to make a move. You'll find out for sure whether or not she likes you.
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